Should I be happy~??

[OhSoPrecious]

My daughter's father called to wish her a Happy Birthday. . .
on her birthday. . Sunday. . at 9:45pm~!! :eek:

Phone rings:
Me - Hello
Him - How you doing~?
Me - Fine, and you~?
Him - Is she sleep~?
Me - No, hold on~!

So, my daughter takes the phone and talks to him for like ten or fifteen minutes. . . I didn't talk to him again after that~!! :rolleyes:

Of course, she was so happy that he called her~!! :) My sister even thought it was nice~!! :eek:

You guys know the story. . . he never calls.. never comes to visit... the last time she saw him was the the beginning of the summer.. and I took her to see him~!!! :(

Why am I not happy about the phone call~?? :confused: Should I be~???

[que90nek]

yes!
it's a start.
was your daughter happy? then that's your answer.

[ThickBodyHottie]

why should it affect you at all?
that's between he and his daughter, just like the relationship you have with him has nothing to do with her.

children grow up and get wise.
she'll figure it out.

[seductive_tee]

Should u be happy....only in your childs eyes.

It shouldn't affect u one way or another if he call....your daughter knows who was there on her birthday and who has been there.

She's young, when she 13, and she get that phone call, she'll be like "Daddy where my gift?"

And Que...start my AZZ...he should be calling every damn year...

[Andre98]

Oh So Precious? I haven't been up on what you may have posted in the past about your situation. But am i wrong to guess that there might be some unfinished emotional issues between the two of you that clouds your mood?

[OhSoPrecious]

I don't know~!!! :cry: :cry: Is that why I feel so confused as to whether I should be happy or not~??? :confused:

Of course, I still love him. . . but only because he's the father of my child. . . no matter how sorry he may be~!! :rolleyes: :( I am not in love with him~!! :blah: :hammer

When he called. . . I was happy for my daughter. . but when my sister was so excited about him calling. . . I started to question whether I should be equally excited~!! :confused:


Btw, Tee. . . she's asking for gifts now and she's only five~!! ;) & Thick, you are right. . she will figure it out. . soon enough~!! :eek:

[Sparkles]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+
I don't know~!!! :cry: :cry: Is that why I feel so confused as to whether I should be happy or not~??? :confused:

Of course, I still love him. . . but [b]only because he's the father of my child. . . no matter how sorry he may be~!! :rolleyes: :( I am not in love with him~!! :blah: :hammer
QUOTE]

Ohso this confused me. Why do people always say that?!?! You might care about what happens to him because he your daughter's father but still love him because you just do. Dre might be right maybe the way you feel sad because there is still unfinished busy on your part.

Like TBH said some folks can't seperate the too. If his call made your daughter happy that should be all you should concern yourself with. Anything else is wasted energy at this point!!!!

[ThickBodyHottie]

Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+
Of course, I still love him. . . but only because he's the father of my child. . . no matter how sorry he may be~!! :rolleyes: :(

please help me understand how you can love a male just because he's inserted sperm into a vagina.

[OhSoPrecious]

Thick, it's deeper than that. . . inserting sperm into a vagina~!! :rolleyes:

We met when we were teenagers. . dated for three years. . he went into the Military and we broke up~!! :( We met up with each other after fifteen long years and started dating again~!! :)

I lived with this man for sixteen months, was engaged to be married. . . :( and gave birth to our daughter~!! :hearts: And, maybe I still have feelings for him after all this time that we have been apart~!! :confused:

So, that is why I say that I still love him because he's my daughter's father~!! :rolleyes: His sorry ass. . .

(sigh)

[Tastey]

You still love him for all the things you just listed.

High school sweetheart, former fiance, lived together...that's alot of history.

Actually the ONLY reason he's your daughters father is for the reason that THICK said. He is the ONE who impregnated you. That's not a REASON to love anybody.

But your history together is.

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by Tastey+
But your history together is.

Then, that's what I meant~!! :blah: :D And, it's still deeper than you guys will ever know~!! :rolleyes:

[que90nek]

if its so deep...
and still is deep...
perhaps you should get back together with this clown...:shrugshoulders:

[djackso]

Be happy that he did his job as a father & leave it at that. For some reason men never marry their baby's momma.

[Sparkles]

Should I consider myself lucky or something damn!!!! What about some women don't marry there baby daddy also.


Originally posted by djackso+
Be happy that he did his job as a father & leave it at that. For some reason men never marry their baby's momma.

[djackso]

A wise old woman told me that the way a man treats his children is the way he feel about the woman. If he had no respect or shows no love for your child then that's how he feels about you, period. When you find a man that loves you then he will show the same love for your child even if it isn't his. Simply & plain english, sparkles!

[Sparkles]

Originally posted by djackso+
A wise old woman told me that the way a man treats his children is the way he feel about the woman. If he had no respect or shows no love for your child then that's how he feels about you, period. When you find a man that loves you then he will show the same love for your child even if it isn't his. Simply & plain english, sparkles!

altough I hate to say it because it is sad, but there is a lot of truth to the above statement. I see it more time than I care to mention but like you said D plain and simple!!!!!

[que90nek]

i treat my daughter with more love and respect than her mother ever got....

[Sparkles]

pretty much don't give a damn about you having a relationship with your daughter or not.

Originally posted by que90nek+
i treat my daughter with more love and respect than her mother ever got....

djackso+

When you find a man that loves you then he will show the same love for your child even if it isn't his. Simply & plain english, sparkles!