Some people say..

[shtalker]

I am controling and bossy. I am sick of this because it is just not true.

Now Fam I want to ask if I am just not going to do something unless I want to or if I say something to some one that some else says I shouldn't say or tell me it is all in the way you say things. i cant' help some people are just more sensitive then others and I am not rude I just speak from the heart.

I am just confident in me and yes I am in control of me. I can only control the things that I am going to do. I feel like:fu if they think I am this way. This is not the way I want to come across to people but so be it!!
I hope this made sense.

Is this being controlling or bossy?

[Tastey]

Sometimes it's hard to see that in ourselves. I told my Mom once how bossy and controlling she is. She didn't see it until I pointed out specific examples. So maybe the next time someone says that you can ask them to show you in specifics what they mean.

Also I have been told that I am mean. To me I am one of the kindess people I know. However tact is something I lack. If it's in my heart, I'll say it. I had to learn that sometimes your heart needs to just be quiet. LOL :D

I also had to learn that even though it makes perfect logical sense to me...it may be hogwash to someone else.

[shtalker]

I don't know Tastey. When I ask people they really don't have specific examples. I'm like you I speak from the heart and I rarely bite my tongue. I am trying to do better at it but why should I when I don't think it is a problem.
Is it my fault people don't like to hear the truth. No!!

[Tastey]

Originally posted by shtalker+
Is it my fault people don't like to hear the truth. No!!

That is it in a nutshell. People don't like to hear the truth.

I had this incident at work last week. One of my co-workers recently got micro-braids. She stood up and asked everyone how did her hair look. I told her that the back was out of the clip she needed to tuck it in. The a few other people made some comments.

This other female stands up and says "Well since we are on the subject of hair, Tastey you need to get a style too".

WTF?? WTF?? WTF??

I politely (I thought) told her that I had no interest in what she or anybody else in there thought of my hair. My man likes it that's all that matters. So sit down.

Girl don't you know folks said I was being mean? :confused:

See the OLD Tastey would have told her she needed to be more concerned with why she weighs 300 lbs instead of what's going on on my head. But I didn't. I thought I was nice about it.

Now, if you didn't want to hear the truth...don't come messing with me. You don't know me like that.

Plain and simple most people can't handle the truth and instead of admitting that they rather call folks mean or bossy.

[ThickBodyHottie]

ms. shtalker, i get the same thing...not bossy, but controlling...mostly with my own life and my surroundings.

i've learned to appreciate it because lots of women never get to speak up because they cannot

[shtalker]

Yeah TBH,
I am just going to be me and the :fu with everyone else. I shouldn't have to change me. This is who I am Damn it!!!!
Love it or Leave it!!!

[Sparkles]

Originally posted by shtalker+
Yeah TBH,
I am just going to be me and the :fu with everyone else. I shouldn't have to change me. This is who I am Damn it!!!!
Love it or Leave it!!!


Whateva shtalker, didn't we just talk about this on break. Not so much as bossy, but have problems with "adjusting". Which you don't have to adjust to anything, but if you aren't willing, then how do you expect others?!?!!?

Also TBh what do you do when you feel as though someone is taking control of a situation not necessarily in your circle, but a situation that involves you nonetheless, what do You Do?!?!?!

[shtalker]

Sparkles I am not adjusting and I don't expect other people to either but I am in control of me only.
I don't give a damn about now one else but me and my kids.
You know my Motto :fu them and to Kiss my Ass.!!!!

[Sparkles]

but I see what you do! You do adjust, you just don't like folk telling you, you have to adjust!!!!

carry on!



Originally posted by shtalker+
Sparkles I am not adjusting and I don't expect other people to either but I am in control of me only.
I don't give a damn about now one else but me and my kids.
You know my Motto :fu them and to Kiss my Ass.!!!!

[ThickBodyHottie]

Originally posted by Sparkles+

Also TBh what do you do when you feel as though someone is taking control of a situation not necessarily in your circle, but a situation that involves you nonetheless, what do You Do?!?!?!

i gotta go see who's runnin' things...then see if they are capable of doing so