The Lessons I've Learned...

[dns70]

What lessons have you learned from love that you would pass down to your children?

I've learned a few particularly from my last relationship:

1) Take care of her while she's yours: Don't go around being all sweet and wonderful while she's upset and about to walk out the door. Do it while you're together. That's when it counts

2) Make her Number 1: The boys are cool, but there are "certain" things the boys can't do for you. Your parents are cool, but they have or have had their thing. The job is just a job. Money comes and money goes, but THAT woman is HARD-TO-FIND! Put nothing else above her. Everything else will work itself out.

3) LISTEN TO HER: She's telling you how she really feels. IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS! If she's saying something to you, then you better take it as seriously as a heart attack.

I could go on and on, but what lessons have you guys learned that you would tell your children?

[ThickBodyHottie]

to my baby girls:

-be a lady...learn all the feminine basics and execute them first, in your own household, and then when you get with a man, they'll be second nature

to my baby boys:

-be a man...you can always tell a man by the way his wife and children are

to all my children:

-stay your own person...you are not "one size fits all", you have a persona that is not required to change for any human but yourself, either the man you are with it to love it or he is not the one for you

-enjoy dating...this is the time to learn about the opposite sex and yourself WITH the opposite sex, prolong the dating period until you find someone who meets your standards

-create a Mr./Ms. Right list...when you meet someone, use the checklist, if they have #1 but not #2, don't move to #3, just don't get serious about them because each and every standard should be a MUST

-if you cannot see God in them, then you cannot see yourself with them...you should be able to look at them and see God's grace, power and glory

-never judge a person by their family...judge them by what they have achieved

-do not get with someone for "potential"...POTENTIAL is unused talent, who's to say it'll ever get used?

-let your family give your mates the "once" and "twice" over...your family wants the best for you and loves you, allow them to help you in your decision

-beware of your reasons for marriage...most men marry for sex, most women marry for security, seeing that you can get those from anyone, why do YOU want to marry?

[OhSoPrecious]

Sweetheart, you can do bad by yourself~!!! :hearts:

[HulaSista]

to the young ladies:

1. cross your legs, wear stockings when appropriate, walk with your back straight and your chin up, act and talk like a lady and you will be treated like you are suppose to be treated no matter what love does to you...

to the young boys:

don't marry before 30...there is a lot for you to do...

to young men and ladies:

1. date til you drop. dating helps you learn what you like and dislike and can and cannot tolerate but in the person of your choice.

2. learn to listen.

3. give the other person time to tell their story. usually within a month, you'll know if you want to date them or remain freinds.

[Tastey]

What I've told my son:

ALWAYS respect a woman even is she doesn't seem to respect herself, even if you think she doesn't deserve your respect. Remember that your Momma, Grandmomma, Sisters, Aunts, Cousins etc are WOMEN so treat other women as if you are dealing with one of them.

What I will tell my daughter:

Always respect yourself. Don't deal with people who don't respect you as well.

What I will tell both:
Make a life for yourself before you make another life.

[SeaDuceme2]

1. Don't believe the hype..

2. If ya don't trust HIM, let him go!

3. If your not #1 in HIS life, let him go!

[Andre98]

....is to read all the posts above this one...I agree wholeheartedly with it all!

[seductive_tee]

my daughter -

Always be a lady

Love you first

Never wait on a man

If he forget your birthday, he ain't worth the time

Once a cheater...always a cheater

Don't mamrry a mama's boy

If he make you cry...call momma

my son

Girls will screw you, if nothing more than for money

Always wear a condom if you ain't ready to go through what momma went through

Don't marry a daddy's girl

[Babygirl]

1. Love uncondtionally
2. Set your own goals,and strive to achieve them
3. know GOD
4. Love yourself, and other will follow
5. Talk is cheap
6. Make yourself happy
7. Don't be a GLAD-I-FOUND-YOU
8. Dont take "wooden nickles"

[misha]

Actions speak louder than words.

Love yourself and don't depend on anyone else to love you more.

Live your own life and don't try to make some body else the center of your world.

Take time to live on your own before getting married, before having children.

When in doubt about anything, protect yourself, always.

[CD]

-Just because you fell in love with her doesn’t mean you should marry her.

- Some women are good to you and some woman are good for you. Understand the difference.

- To determine if a woman can treat you good, just look and see how well she treats herself. She can only treat you as good as she treats herself. If she is cheap with herself, guess what, she is going to be cheap with you.

- Be cautious of a woman that hasn't had a good relationship with her father. How can she know how to relate to you.

- Treating a rotten woman nice adds up to a nicely treated rotten woman.

- You can marry a women that you are crazy about, or marry a woman crazy about you. Chose the latter.

[dns70]

That is some of the best relationship advice that I have ever come across. Seriously.

Points 1, 4, 5 and 6 were so real it's almost scary.

[Bedroomeyes]

Get your degree before anything else!!!

To my boys:

Always wear a condom - double up if you have to..
Don't try to impress her with how much you can spend on her..
Don't tell her you love her unless you mean it..
Take your time to find the right one.. Don't marry until you're 30..
Always respect her.. Never lead her on..
Never hit a woman.. If she hits you first.. Call me! :upto:
If she can't use my comb.. Then don't bring her home!! :D J/K.. Or am I... :rolleyes:

To my daughter:

Never let him talk you into anything you have doubts about..
Live for you...
If it's meant to be.. then it will...
Talk is cheap.. Actions speak louder than words..
Listen - you might get something out of it..
Love doesn't have to hurt.. If he hits you once.. Leave and don't look back.. (and call me! :upto: )
Never let him disrespect you
Treat your body like a temple
Make sure he always wears a condom
Take your time to find the right one.. Don't marry until you're 30

[sistuhchey]

Look before you leap....

Don't overact.....

Don't spend time saying if i coulda, woulda shoulda....

If it quacks like a duck and walks like a duck it must be a duck!!

Romance without finance ain't SHIT!!!!

[shtalker]

Bump^

[Tettsuo]

I'd only have one word of advice....

To thine ownself be true.

[reesecup]

Originally posted by dns70
What lessons have you learned from love that you would pass down to your children?

I've learned a few particularly from my last relationship:

1) Take care of her while she's yours: Don't go around being all sweet and wonderful while she's upset and about to walk out the door. Do it while you're together. That's when it counts

2) Make her Number 1: The boys are cool, but there are "certain" things the boys can't do for you. Your parents are cool, but they have or have had their thing. The job is just a job. Money comes and money goes, but THAT woman is HARD-TO-FIND! Put nothing else above her. Everything else will work itself out.

3) LISTEN TO HER: She's telling you how she really feels. IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS! If she's saying something to you, then you better take it as seriously as a heart attack.

I could go on and on, but what lessons have you guys learned that you would tell your children?

I wish you would have went on...Your lessons are valuable.

[jaila]

an old favorite.

[sistuhchey]

Look before you leap....

Don't overact.....

Don't spend time saying if i coulda, woulda shoulda....

If it quacks like a duck and walks like a duck it must be a duck!!

Romance without finance ain't SHIT!!!!


Don't overeact.......But if you do!!!...understand...folks dance to a different beat1

and some just don't know any better:cool:

[cutieonduty]

Never be afraid to admit when you're wrong

If it doesn't feel right don't force it

Always always have a backup plan

Education is first and foremost before any relationship, learn to stand on your own before you stand with someone else

Learn to trust your first mind