The First Time

[seductive_tee]

You are ready to experience anal sex, mentally that is, and you've expressed this to your SO, HLF, spouse or whoever.

When it happens, would you rather be told seconds before?

or

would you want it to just happen?

Fella's, when you did anal sex for the 1st time with a lady did u give her some kind of notice or did you just do it.

[Brightness]

Hmmm, I see this thread's being viewed but not answered so I guess I'll be the first.

I think that once you are mentally ready and have expressed a desire to cross this threshhold then you don't need a blow-by-blow seconds before the event. . .I think that once you or old dude starts lubricating the hole then it's a given what's about to go down. . .at least that's my take on it.

Fellas, ya'll loose mass brownie points when just trying to delve in without knowing if your partner is down with that type of action or not. . .that's a good way to get your stuff snapped in two.

[CLSmooove]

funny u should ask this....my husband and i have discussed going there because i've never done it..... I told him not to ask me before he did it.... I wanted to go with the flow and not chicken out....

But the key here is that we discussed it before hand.... I wouldve been pissed if he woulda tried to get it without seeing how i feel about it.....

[OhSoPrecious]

I had to talk about it first. . and be told seconds before it actually happened~!! :eek: :hammer Cause although I had already made up in my mind that I wanted to try it. . . I was still scared and all tense & shyt~!!! :( Which really didn't help the situation at first. . .

Oh, but the second time around. . . now, that's a different story~!!! :upto: :evil:

Awwwwwwww, damn. . . TMI~!!!!!!! :rolleyes:

[seductive_tee]

So i guess lettin go of the tension is the trick?

[mack_black]

SHo Nuff....

of course ya gotta have a partner that is flowing with you.....
ya gotta start slow before ya start buckin it like you're riding a rodeo bull :D

and anal ease does help....

[shtalker]

I have not yet experience it and really do not have plans to try it.
I am too:chicken

[mack_black]

in the heat of passion...you would be surprised what
you could do....with the right partner.....

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by mack_black+
and anal ease does help....

I heard about the anal ease.....

[ThickBodyHottie]

i like to get them in the act...spring it on them - with the demand, that is...:D

[misha]

I have only not been warned once.....and we tore up the muthafucking room fighting....that shit pissed me off!!!!

now usually, once a man starts throwing on lube, I know what time it is....but that one time, my back was turned...so to speak.

That is one suprise that I do not appreciate! If I don't ask for it, you betta damn well tell me you are going there!

[Tastey]

The first time...we didn't discuss it...it was a surprise....I hurt like HELL...I kicked homeboy to the curb.

Then 2nd time...we discussed it...I was prepared for it...he took his time and worked up to it....I thoroughly enjoyed it...


The next time...:upto:

[mystkev]

I do not have anal sex spontaneously. I like to prepare, I always do an enema first, I have cleanliness issues and like Mack said I have to have my anal ease. For me you can't just put some lube on and start pumping, I like to start out w/fingers or a dildo. It's too damn painful any other way as far as i'm concerned.

[FoxEMomma]

Yeah I think when its planned its aight for the first time.

My first experience with this was planned and he talked me thru it, he was very gentle and I did enjoy it.

But the next morning...

lets just say I was walkin kind of funny.:D

[HulaSista]

i tell brotha man ahead of time, and then, see how he flows WITH ME! usually the dude is skurred!:D