What do you do for a Broken Heart?

[dns70]

My relationship recently ended with a woman that I wanted to marry. It hurt, it was very painful and it sucks.

I wanted things to turn out differently, but such is life.

What do you do to mend a broken heart?

[Tastey]

(((Hush Hug)))

Honestly, it just takes time.

You have to mourn (cry even) although some may consider it unmanly, then eventually you move on.

For me I try to learn something from a failed relationship that will help me in the next one. Inyanla Vanzant say that people come into our lives sometimes for a reason or a season. It's our choice to learn from it.

[yendys]

Sorry to hear about your current situation. Though I have no cure what so ever for a broken heart, I can say, time is the key to all things. It is a process that you will have to take one day at a time. As each day passes, it hurts a little less. :) Take care and be blessed. (*(*hugs 'n kisses*)*) to you.......

[shtalker]

Yes like Yendys says TIME it is going to take a lot of it. That is the only thing that will work. Crying does help but the hurt won't go away until the healing is over.

Try hanging out with the boys or pick up a hobby or somethign to get your mind off of it.

[seductive_tee]

Takes time is all i can say and thats because i know.

[dns70]

Another thing I think I really need to do is let go of the hope or reconciliation. That part just really messes things up further. Hoping that you two will work it out, hoping that time and space will create a reconciliation. Hope, hope, hope.

I don't know, but I think that in these situations, hope hurts, it never helps.

...never had a broken heart before...isn't it obvious?

[shtalker]

Yeah DNS,
If she has let you know that there is no getting back together than yes get rid of that way ot thinking.
Damnit is going to be rough awhile so stay strong my brother it will get better.

Like Seductive Tee says we speak from experience.

[yendys]

Letting go is very hard, but it can be done and is the only way you can move on. Not necessarily so you can move to the next person, but the only way you can come to terms with all that has happened. You need to focus on YOU for a while and rebuild a tight relationship with yourself. Getting reacquainted with yourself will be one of the best things you can do at this point. It hurts like hell, but it is not the end of the world. :)

[Tastey]

Just don't let that hope consume you.

I mean who knows maybe things will work out in the end, this may be the woman for you but this may just not be your time to be together.

For now just accept what is, and take care of you. It's a cliche but it's the truth...time will heal the hurt. It doesn't seem like that now...I know but it will. :)

[ThickBodyHottie]

don't do what other men do - get right into another relationship - then we may as well call you "skycap" with all that baggage you'd be carrying

[dns70]

Yeah. I don't even have the energy or desire for another relationship at this time...

But this is my take...tell me what you think.

The relationship is over. I can't make her want me. Can't make her love me, etc. Was it deep? Yes! We discussed marriage and we going to get married in 2002. I was her world, she was mine.

But why hope? What is any form of "hope" based in? Right now, it's baseless. Do people's feelings change? All the time. But you can't hang your hope on that fact.

I'll give her space and distance, because that's what she wants and I have to respect what she wants.

But I have to let go of hope, because that's the only way I'll get through it without longing or pining for her. Also, right now, I'd take her back in an instant. In a heartbeat. She'd have me at 'hello'. She could have said and done anything to me this week, but I'd take her back right now! So, is that the right mindset to be in when making such a decision? I don't think so.

But, the chemistry between us was real, the attraction and love for another was intense. That's real and that's always going to be there if we each decide that we want it back. After some time, a couple of months, maybe 6 months, a year, who knows. My heart will be healed, hers will be healed also. Things will be different between us, and perhaps something can happen then. But perhaps not. In any case, I cannot afford to think it will turn out any other way than this. I have to be prepared for the worst.

[ThickBodyHottie]

without knowing why you two broke up, i can tell you this:

there is always a leeson deeper than your relationship to be had...one that is priceless..one that no one could have told or taught you...

find it, dns. that should keep you busy for the next 3 months or so, because after your find it, you must apply it.

how do you know when you are ok?
when you can see her and your heart not jump and you can keep your cool...

remember this, dear: we CHOOSE pain...some of us romantics, which can be translated to mean "masochistic"...enjoy the experience and seasoning and benefit from it...write about it...speak about it...draw and paint it...build it and sell it...YOU ARE NOT ALONE

[Brightness]

Ooops. . .I was about to suggest some harmless rebound, internet flirting but I guess that's a little tactless, huh. . .

Well, gone back and read that thread in the confessional when sinnah was jockin' you but be sure to by-pass the playa-hater comments. . .that should perk you right up :D

{just jokes. . .not trying to be insensitive just lift your spirits a little}

[OhSoPrecious]

And, I thought I was the jokester, Bright~???!! :D Btw, Thick. . that was deep, girl~!! :cool:

Dns. . . this is no joking matter and I agree with everyone else. . it takes time. . you'll see. . . you will even wonder why it took you so long to get to the point of getting over her~!! :rolleyes: :)

And, I know. . you will not forget to pray about it~!! ;)

Be blessed, bruh~!! :hearts: Your FAM is here. . . ((((((((HUGS))))))))

[Tastey]

Originally posted by dns70+
Yeah. I don't even have the energy or desire for another relationship at this time...

But this is my take...tell me what you think.


But why hope? What is any form of "hope" based in? Right now, it's baseless. Do people's feelings change? All the time. But you can't hang your hope on that fact.


I know that you have prayed on this issue. Now I ask you to answer one question. Has God told you that this is the woman he intended for you?

If he has then give her the space she needs, mend your broken heart, but don't lose faith. Because that's all hope is...FAITH that God will work it out.

That doesn't mean that you are pining away for her, you go on with your life knowing that God has it all in control and Shod needs to quit meddling in it.

If God has not told you that she is the one he intended for you then pray for his strenght to get over her while you wait for the one he has intended for you.

[SeaDuceme2]

cry and cry some more till you get tired, each day will get a little easier than the one before.

Having a really good friend also helps a whole lot.

[HulaSista]

wow...i know how you feel.

you know what i did?

make myself happy.

understood that sense the relationship broke up, there is a reason and accept that reason (once found)

be happy that i didn't stay in a relationship with a person that couldn't or i couldn't trust or couldn't trust me to handle thangs when times got rough (or what ever the issue is).

accepted it and move.

but see, this is coming from someone who don't let a heartbreak last 3 days....

so dns...this is your first? woooow...my FIRST heart break lasted 5 years....LET IT GO...

[dns70]

I've been in prayer, I've talked to friends, I've applied the Word to the situation and I feel great!

I saw her yesterday at church and was not moved too much. It was nice to see her, but I didn't feel any big need to talk to her or be in her way.

The Holy Ghost is incredible. For a period of time, I didn't know how I was going to make it. I was absolutely miserable. Now, however, I feel just fine. If she calls, fine. If she doesn't call, fine. Makes me no difference.

God is Good!

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by dns70+
God is Good!

All the time~!! ;)