Where has the Love Gone? Or is it Still Here?

[dns70]

Over the last couple of months, I've noticed that this board has gotten down right nasty at times. I've read posts just flat out ripping people. It seems like arguments aren't just arguments anymore but they become vicious, cussing each other out, calling out of names, business being put in the streets, accusations, rumors, etc.

Even though they're just words, sometimes words can hurt people. I'm not talking about me personally, but I've seen how some people have responded to things on this board, and you can tell that they're hurt by the things that are said.

I just want to say this much to you guys. I luv me some Hush and I luv me some HushFam. I may not agree with all of you at all times and all of you may not agree with me at all times, I may do things you don't like, and you may do things that I don't like. But I'll say this much, this board was intended to be a place for Black folks to get together and kick it. It was intended to be a meeting place, a networking opportunity, a way to get to know new people and have fun.

I wish the very best for all of you. From Soft to Que, To Tastey to Brightness to Admin, to Babygirl to Michelle to Mack to BlkWmn to TBH...all of you...and yes that includes Teck too. I pray that God looks over you and takes care of you and your family and loved ones. I pray by the blood of Jesus that each one of you prospers in everything you set your hands to. If you're having relationship trouble, I hope you get through it with your emotions and mind intact. If you're having money trouble, I hope a blessing comes your way and that you get through it. If you're sick I pray you receive healing.

I don't want to see or know that any of you guys are hurting or lacking in some area. Although I haven't met any of you face to face, I consider you friends and warm acquaintances. It's funny, but I "cyber-talk" to some of you guys more than I do with some of my "flesh & blood" friends.

In any case, I'm gonna try to make this a place that each of you enjoys coming to. Maybe it's silly, but I think that if enough people individually decide to do the same thing, eventually a lot of good things will come from this board.

Thanks and your replies are welcome...

[ThickBodyHottie]

hey, dns...just continue what you are doing...no one on here holds grudges nor do we take shit personal...be your damn self and do your thing...and, most of all...fuck them hoes - even though i may be one of them at times...

[dns70]

I know that we generally shouldn't let the things that are said here get to us, but sometimes it happens and I just wanted to say how I felt about this place.

[ThickBodyHottie]

you know...i'll say this much: the hush has made me better in many ways...that's because much of this is practice and learning how to behave...with aliases, it makes it much better to perform trial and error if need be to get things right within, you know?

when one is detoxifying oneself, when the toxins began to leave, they make ugly marks...after, one becomes beautiful and the pureness shows...we are in the stages of detoxifying...dealing with one's own demons and working out others'...it's a trip, but i got mad luggage...

[djackso]

All of this is part of being family. Anybody holding a grudge had it before the incident happened but was scared to bring it up.

[CD]

Dem is your people acting up bruh....:D

[Bedroomeyes]

I think everything needs a good cleansing at times.. ;)

[Tastey]

I'm not so much concerned with the love as with the respect.

Where did the respect go?

Honestly I have human love for ya'll. Like if you needed a kidney or some blood I'd give it to ya. No problem. Shoulder to cry on, borrow a $1 whatever...I'm there for you. I don't wish harm on any one of you.
But the fact is I don't like everybody on here and everybody don't like me either. That's life. It's not that anyone is any less just different and if we met we'd probably clash. That's why people clash here. That's cool too.

However there is not one person on here who I don't respect. Even in the midst of battles I respect what is being said and can find value in it. I respect thier outlook on things vs mine. I know I have not always shown that but it's honestly how I feel.

Don't tell TBH I said this but she made some valid points last week in the "Closing threads post"... I can respect what she said even though I didn't agree with ALL she said. ;)

If I were wanting to see everyone make a commitment to something it would be to respect each other. Even those you don't agree with, even those you don't personally care for, or have much in common with. If you respect what they've said in the words of Que it will be all to the G. :)

I don't want to see everyone running around all lovey-dovey...that would be boring. But just show each other mutual respect and remember...This ain't REAL...it cyber. ;)

[ThickBodyHottie]

see, tastey...they already told me...GOSSIPERS, man...THAT's what's wrong;)!

anyhoo...i think we respect one another...we may not know HOW to say things at times, but the respect is there...at least we don't interrupt when the other is talking ;)

[que90nek]

lol...
reminds me of hushnic I...

tryin to talk over each other almost got admin kicked out his room.

respect is key, but...i do find most of these threads...including the drama very entertaining. i hate to see my sisters...or brothers hurt by a thread though.

[sistuhchey]

Thanks, for the prayer and love DNS...but what brougth this to the forefront????....Since I've been on the HUSH it's always been a love/love..hate/hate kinda board...with a lot of positve viewpoints and not everyone will agree, nor will it always be love/dovey like Taste said....But isn't that how life is????

I think it's just good that ADMIN provided a place for us to converse and exchange thoughts...good bad or indifferent, and for those of you have attended HUSHNICS and have met each other that makes it all the better....RIGHT????

:eek:

[ThickBodyHottie]

hey...if que can talk about his ruined dick, and djackso can talk about being served with papers and i can talk about my secret baby's daddy finding me on blackplanet and soft can talk about big pun...i think we all pretty special up in here...

a little scuffle?

shit, we can TAKE it...

[mack_black]

DNS..you the man......got a brotha feelin the love ova here...

You know I got your back dawg.... :banit

[HulaSista]

Cool. :beer

(Just like in real life, so it is on the Hush...YA CAN'T PICK YOUR RELATIVES! :p )

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by dns70+
Over the last couple of months, I've noticed that this board has gotten down right nasty at times. I've read posts just flat out ripping people. It seems like arguments aren't just arguments anymore but they become vicious, cussing each other out, calling out of names, business being put in the streets, accusations, rumors, etc.
Thanks and your replies are welcome...

Now what family do you know that don't do none of the above!

Ya'll need to learn how to say good morning, afternoon or evening....:D :D

[misha]

Like everyone has said, we have our differences, but we still respect one another. We have our disagreements, but there are no hard feelings..I think. We cheer each others accomplishments, support each other during bad times, and yes, we don't always agree.

But I wouldn't trade any of you.

[Vronni]

as with any "relationship",on the hush has it's ups and downs but overall I think that there is respect and in the end,we keep coming back . Like Misha says, "But I wouldn't trade any of you."

[Tastey]

I'm down here in the basement chillin and I found this.

I had to bump it because even though this post is over 2 years old The Hush is still going through some of the same things.

*sigh*

But it only encourages me and helps me know that ALOT of the folk who posted on this thread are still here, and were still holding on.

It's just the way of the world.