Sad Friends......

[SoftNwet]

How do you handle friends/associates that are sad or depressed all the time. There is a person that I know that gets thier feelings hurt at the drop of a dime. They will spend a whole day crying over the smallest thing and then will not leave the house. I have tried to be supporttive and understanding but......there is a limit.

I do now know what to say or do because after a while is gets on your nerves. She seems to look at the smallest thing and feels that it was done against her or because this or that person does not like her. I have tried to be supportive but.........she seems to enjoy the sad times more than the happy!!!!

[nubianx2]

Sometimes you can't help someone that won't help themselves. Has she always been this way? You can only offer but so much comfort, it's up to her to develop "tough skin."

[sistuhchey]

Some people are emotional users, and will zap your energy if you let them!!!.....Always, sad, always depressed, always got problems....always upset. always crying..oooooooo I hate that shit!!!....My suggestion stop being available....sorry gotta go, oopsss girl look at the time....on my way out the door, can't chat....


I guess I'm like the bad witch Evilelene..in the "WIZ"

"DON'T BRING ME NO BAD NEWS!!!":beating :beating

[yendys]

My friend longtime friend is like that with me. "Woe is me to the 5th degree." Hell! Don't you ever have anything positive to talk about? Just on my nerves. I have enough pitfalls to work my way through. :blah:

I have learned to avoid those conversations completely now. I will tell her quickly, "It could be worse!" She hate that, but it is the dayum truth and she knows it. Our other friend's pastor mentioned something about truly loving people and said something about having complete patience for people you love and being there for them no matter what. We both looked at each other and said, "We must don't love M." :D I know it is wrong, but after 2 or 3 years of the same draining chit, you get tired of it and put folk on indefinant igg status! I do love her though! Oin' care what that preacher said. :p

[seductive_tee]

A person like that i try to keep in contact with often...she is depressed for some reason. I have a associate like that and she finally broke. I knew it was a matter of time because she would call me and just say nothing...i'd be like, what's up? Always, her response was nothing...i knew it was something.....

One night she called and talked my head off...i know i fell asleep a few times but i stayed up as much as i could...she just wanted someone to listen and not judge her.....at first i thought she was gonna take her life or something.

I listened and to this day we are still in contact......i send her cards and personal letters just to let her know that i'm thinking of her and that i don't just have her on my email list.

[misha]

I have a friend, and it is kind of a strange friendship....she has qualities that I don't like, she is a recovering alcoholic. She slips maybe twice a year, and this girl drunk is nothing nice.

But, she was with me when my mother died, she saved my life, and she stood by me when my ex husband damn near killed me. I know that I spent a long time being sad, and I know that I was pretty unbearable to be around, but she was always there.

I have to say that some people are chronically unhappy, and yes time with them must be limited in order to save your own sanity...but if their sadness is for a reason, stick by them.

[OhSoPrecious]

Just always be there for her. . . no matter how sad or depressed. . . . just don't let her make you sad~!! :rolleyes: :)

Like a friend told me once. . . you may just be the lifeline that she needs~!!! :hearts:

[mystkev]

I would say, "keep that shit to yourself, I have my own damn problems"

LOL

Naw I'm just kidding. I would just listen, try and see why they take things to heart, see if maybe I can help them, if not I'd tell them that they might want to get some professional help.