What you do about bad sex!?!?!?

[SoftNwet]

I was talking to a friend the other day and we started talking about good and bad sex. I told her that if the sex is bad then I end up hating him. I know hate is a strong word but once you have bad sex with a person then what do you do?!?!!?

The sad thing is that ususaly it is good to them and bad for you. And when tha happend how do you tell them that the sex was wack and you would rather not deal with them sexually?

(Remember the fragile egos of the male species):rolleyes:

[nubianx2]

I avoid all the drama and take the "punk" way out and just chose not to deal with them sexually anymore. What man really wants to hear that his sex is weak?

[seductive_tee]

Don't go there with him no more.....

[CD]

on her attitude. If she is head strong then she gets the boot, but on the other hand if she is easy going and really wants to take things to the next level, I'll take things step by step to see how fast she catches on. As in most cases, she just hasn't had the opportunity to work on her skill.

I guess I'll drop it down at leat three times to be sure that it's not worth the effort.

[que90nek]

i've found that even the WORST are TRAINABLE!

She has something good that she can do...or let u do ;)

[djackso]

every man has come across dry coochie & biting head in his lifetime.

[seductive_tee]

Speaking from experience djackson?

Originally posted by djackso+
every man has come across dry coochie & biting head in his lifetime.

[djackso]

I have experience plenty of bad sex but that's part of life.

[HulaSista]

What do you do about it?

Ask them that same question.

Hear their anwser.

And 9 times outta 10, they will ask: "was the sex bad between me and you?"

and there is your cue to say "YES" and you take it calmly and slowly onto the next level of discussin it and how to make it better.

Of course, if they get an attitude and ain't open to workin it out, then, fuck 'em (no pun intended! hee hee hee):D

[Bedroomeyes]

Give it one more try just to see if it was a bad night.. If it's still bad..Will continue to conversate, but won't have sex with him anymore..

[Brightness]

I've usually found in my experience that if you aren't really "feeling" the person outside the bedroom then that can tend to overshadow how harshly you judge or rate their performance. If you like them somewhat then you may think they were going through a slump but after 2-3 sessions being a dud then I think the writings on the wall so to speak.

[OhSoPrecious]

I could never tell a brotha that he was wack. . . :rolleyes: I just wouldn't deal with him anymore. . . at all~!! :eek:

I wouldn't hate him though~!! :hearts:

[ThickBodyHottie]

bad sex means i'll forever see him in disgust...:blah:...ESPECIALLY if his dick was flaccid...

[CD]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
bad sex means i'll forever see him in disgust...:blah:...ESPECIALLY if his dick was flaccid...

The woman said....."FLACCID".....:eek:

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
bad sex means i'll forever see him in disgust...:blah:...ESPECIALLY if his dick was flaccid...

If his sex is bad I will hate him!!! There is nothing more agravating than a man that can not take care of business in the bed room. There is not going back to try again. Once a sorry phuck.................always a sorry phuck!!!!!

[ThickBodyHottie]

word, soft...i will even tell my FRIENDS about him...

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
word, soft...i will even tell my FRIENDS about him...

And HIS friends so they can warn the other sisters that we can not get to!!!!!

[ThickBodyHottie]

and his baby's mommas so they won't get jealous!

[CD]

Originally posted by djackso+
I have experience plenty of bad sex but that's part of life.

Ingredients for BAD SEX(from a mans point of view):

- don't want to get on the knees while polishing the knob
- don't want to polish the knob period
- don't want to experiment...anal, role-playing, group or swallow.
- limited positions or only missionary
- don't want to put leg(s) up on the shoulder(s)
- don't have a bit of rhythm
- Always complaining about something...lights, noise, or place.
- Only giving up the pootang on a schedule
- No energy to go the distance...out of shape.

[CD]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
word, soft...i will even tell my FRIENDS about him...

A girl friend tells you his shit was the bomb and she don't know why he couldn't or wouldn't do you?????....:rolleyes:

[SoftNwet]

Bad sex from a Woman's point of view.....

-Can't kiss, either sucks you tongue out of socket or opens his mouth like he was at the dentist.

-bites the nipples like they were a loose thread on his shirt
-grabs the breast like he was milking a cow
-Dick tooooo small
-Un-fresh dick
-Pre-cum and he has not even put it in
-Pre-cum and you have not even put it in your mouth
-Speed phucking, we are not in high school, mom is not coming home in 10 min

I could go on but I will liet the ladies finish this list..........You started this CD so we will finish!!

[ThickBodyHottie]

Originally posted by CD+


A girl friend tells you his shit was the bomb and she don't know why he couldn't or wouldn't do you?????....:rolleyes:

i didn't understand this comment, mr. ps...please elaborate

[CD]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
i didn't understand this comment, mr. ps...please elaborate

I have been with one or two ladies which one of my buddies had hit. His comment was "she wasn't all that or the chick shit was wack". So I would ask,why you say that?. Mind you I keep my mouth shut, but it makes me think that maybe something about the dude turned the woman off, because she did all the stuff to me or let me do to her, that he indicated that she wasn't about.

To say that a guy is wack in bed is to take yourself out of the equation. It takes two. Maybe something about you turned old boy off.

[CD]

Originally posted by softNwet+
Bad sex from a Woman's point of view.....

-Dick tooooo small
-Speed phucking, we are not in high school, mom is not coming home in 10 min

Every man out here would like two more inches......:rolleyes: and whats wrong with speed phucking it's like the knock out in the first round.....:D

[ThickBodyHottie]

well, to answer your question...now that i understnad...you just don't come straight out and say "he was fucked up"...it happens matter of factly...for instance, my best friend in the whole wide world is now fucking a guy i fucked back when we were in college - and that i did last winter...we compare notes...it's just like that...fuck that hoe...

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by CD+


Every man out here would like two more inches......:rolleyes: and whats wrong with speed phucking it's like the knock out in the first round.....:D

Speed phucking!?!? Knock out in the first round!?!? After Tyson did that ere'body wanted their money back!! Hell, I paid my money for a full 12 rounds!!!! Gat-Damnit!!!

[djackso]

I had one a knock out with the first jab!

[HulaSista]

here to finish the list:

- man wanting oral sex for a long extended period of time and often throughout the sex (woman do get tired...) :banit

- "too caught up" to extend the courtesy of reciprocity on the oral sex for SAME length of time :blast

- anal sex: you are not a ram with curled up horns, therefore, don't RAM the ass...:beating

[KissableSexyShortStuff]

Originally posted by SoftNwet+
I was talking to a friend the other day and we started talking about good and bad sex. I told her that if the sex is bad then I end up hating him. I know hate is a strong word but once you have bad sex with a person then what do you do?!?!!?

The sad thing is that ususaly it is good to them and bad for you. And when tha happend how do you tell them that the sex was wack and you would rather not deal with them sexually?

(Remember the fragile egos of the male species):rolleyes:


Well, the last time I had "bad" sex I :cry:....... I couldn't believe it had gotten that bad... This was not the first time we had been together, but this was by far the worst. I cried so hard looked as if someone hit me in the face.....


I don't hate him but I know we will not be on that level again...... When he brings the topic up..... I change it....

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by CD+


Ingredients for BAD SEX(from a mans point of view):

- don't want to put leg(s) up on the shoulder(s)

really???????????? that seems like the easiest thing to do...

[Tastey]

I can't really add to the list because what's BAD for one woman is not neccessarily BAD for another.

I LIKE having my nipples bit, and I like anal sex. lol :p

Bad to me:
1. Over too soon. By that I mean over before I cum. If you can make me cum in 1 minute then you can be done in 2 minutes but otherwise...we got a problem. lol :p

2. Acrobatics. I am a BIG girl. I know it, you know it. If you want to do acrobatics go find Mary Lou Retton because my leg does NOT go back that far.

3. Too quiet. I want to hear that you like it. I will let you know how I'm feeling so talk to me, scream at me, GROWL at me. That sh*t turns me on!!!! But if you are a mute... I will dry up real quick like.

[CLSmooove]

Tastey GROWL???? LMBAO.... Made me think about Whitney and ole boy In Waiting to Exhale..... :D :D

[Tastey]

Girl! I LOVE that scene! lol :p

[D2daO2da]

Good question, I definately don't give a repeat performance. They don't usually get past my screening process. I find out what you don't do before I get wit cha. Only had a few bad Sex Experiences.

D

[mystkev]

I keep fucking until they get it right. I've had a few guys that didn't know how to put their dicks in :rolleyes: , now that's some frustrating shit.

I don't bite my tongue about not liking the sex, I usually say something right after they are finished and let them know that what they just did, did not work for me. We'll go over the problem areas and the next time we'll see how they do.

[lovely]

Its funny...interesting that most of the women wouldnt give the man a second thought...but the men are willing to give the woman several chances. Wonder why its like that?

When i first thought about this question...i said...hmmm....i probably would give him another chance...maybe he was having a bad evening. Maybe i got him so excited he couldnt control him self :D (lol)..or for whatever reason...he just didnt perform his best. But then the more i thought about it..it would actually depend on how i felt about the person. If i cared about him...and i wanted something more...i actually think that i might give him another chance or two. but if i was just sexing him...he only got one chance. and thats it.

the only time ive had bad sex is with an older man i really cared about. and each time we had sex...it got better. and it wasnt really about how good the sex was..it was about the intimacy that comes along with sex.

[misha]

The last bad sex I had was with the first man I was with after three years of celibacy. needless to say, even the bad sex was good! LOL

And he knew he was bad too, there I was having this total multi orgasmic edge of sanity explosion, my coochie gripping his semi hard dick like a firm handshake, and he was saying, "Damn, are you faking?" And I can understand why he said it, because, he was terrible, and I was under him having a damn seizure..LOL

To answer the question, I would try to work with him. But you know how some men can be, they get offended when a woman tries to show them something. If he can't handle my advice, or if he is too selfish to give me what I need, I gotta go.
http://us.f1.yahoofs.com/users/a0ba433e/bc/Yahoo!+Photo+Album/metoo2.jpg?bcNVho9ARUCpC25W

I want this for my birthday!

[Juicey1]

I don't go back for seconds:eek:

[lovely]

ok...

so we as women dont want to work with a man who may be lacking in the sex area. very understandable. i feel that way too.

but what happens with the brotha's that are just bad. what suggestions do you have for them. How do men learn how to have good sex...if we as women dont teach them.

See the way i see it...when women first start having sex...it takes practice to get good. Now i didnt have sex until i was twenty. Slept with one man for close to three years. Sex with him was good (i guess...cause i had never been with anyone else)..but i didnt feel the sexual freedom i have sense discovered. The sexual relationships i have had since my first...each one i have learned something entirely knew. they have been wonderful teachers. patient...all of that. and now i would say that sex with me would be good :beer

but what happens to the poor men that dont have any idea what they doing? who teaches them. how do they learn. if none of us are willing to teach them?

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by lovely+
but what happens to the poor men that dont have any idea what they doing? who teaches them. how do they learn. if none of us are willing to teach them?

Good question Lovely. Alls I can say is, I ain't recruiting for no first level student positions!!!

[mystkev]

I totally get what you are saying.

This one guy I asked him how many women he had been with and he said 10. That means 10 women before didn't do something about the problem before I stepped in, whatever happened to sisterhood? It's not nice to unleash that man on the rest of the female population having him thinking that he is good in bed.

I hope what little I did has helped the next lady. Everybody deserves a second chance don't they? I know I have moments where I am not my usual self.

[HulaSista]

i guess if he humbled himself, and told me so and took his time i would have patience. but... i guess i like a person who is on teh same page with me...

[D2daO2da]

Originally posted by lovely+
Its funny...interesting that most of the women wouldnt give the man a second thought...but the men are willing to give the woman several chances. Wonder why its like that?


Men have to work harder at getting pussy than women have to work at getting dick.

All a woman has to do is say YES.

A man has to take you out to dinner, buy you flowers, Movies, Cards, Be romantic.. stuff like that before he gets in your ass.

D

[CD]

Originally posted by D2daO2da+


Men have to work harder at getting pussy than women have to work at getting dick.

All a woman has to do is say YES.

A man has to take you out to dinner, buy you flowers, Movies, Cards, Be romantic.. stuff like that before he gets in your ass.

D

and in the end he ain't even sure he 's gonna get some. Shoot it may not be worth it....:(

There ain't nothing worse than paying too much for something that you could have gotten cheaper..:D

[SeaDuceme2]

First women need to stop telling men the sex was da bomb when it aint...Ie; stop faking it!

[CD]

Originally posted by SeaDuceme2+
First women need to stop telling men the sex was da bomb when it aint...Ie; stop faking it!


The chick not knowing any better and thinks that is what she suppose to say....

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by CD+
The chick not knowing any better and thinks that is what she suppose to say....

she suppose to fake it?

[KissableSexyShortStuff]

I aint faking jack.......

[MsMeelah]

In those all night sessions when a brother puts a good punishing on the ass! I am talking the mulitple orgams, where you have gone from wet-to dry -back to wet about 5 or 6 times. My legs and back be hurtin and shit. And all I wanna do is roll over and take my ass to sleep! But you know that he is not going to release his nut until he sees you get yours again.... I have faked it in those situations.....
But I ain't gonna fake it to appease a muthafucka who ain't doin his job





Damn I just turned myself on with that post.....Damn I wish Davinci was still in DC :upto:

J/k

[CD]

Originally posted by HulaSista+


she suppose to fake it?

I'm not saying that. What about the case where ole girl ain't getting hers. Getting that nut.

Let me say it another way. If she aint never been to the top of the mountain, how can she make any comments on the view from the top....;)

[HulaSista]

are you sayin a woman who never orgasm during sex ain't got shit to comment on?

[D2daO2da]

Originally posted by CD+


and in the end he ain't even sure he 's gonna get some. Shoot it may not be worth it....:(

There ain't nothing worse than paying too much for something that you could have gotten cheaper..:D

Word up bro..

I can get some slammin sex for a fucking Happy Meal from Mcdonalds...

I got some slamming sex because this chick was mad at her baby daddy.. didn't cost me shit.. but an hour.

D

[CD]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
are you sayin a woman who never orgasm during sex ain't got shit to comment on?


But the real deal is.....You don't give no weight to the advice from a bald headed chick on how to grow long hair......:hammer

[HulaSista]

your analogy is funny

but,

IIIIIIIIIIIIF i was to apply your comment to myself... then... you would be talkin about me.... and i KNOW you don't want to be talkin bout me? :confused:

[zuriyahe]

It's pretty funny that with a lotta ways that people can have sex, a woman who is getting some dick gets mad at a brotha because he didn't choose that one technique (out of many many techniques) that will rock her world...when all she could have done is say, "Hea honey...hit me doggie style"...or "Oh yeah...that's it... a little over to the left". Communication? Naw...It's just hit or miss... Of course, the women is always good in bed...right? No bad days, no stress. Come on ladies! Some fellas are really bad at sex...some ladies are bad...as for me, I ain't gonna be doin' any stranger...so I hope, that if I am getting some "Friendship with Bennifets" sex, if it didn't go well, we can at least laugh about it....or try again later. I mean, we (both men and women) can learn to do better...usually...

After all, you ladies sometimes treat our dicks like it is a friggin Corn Dog or sumptin'.:D

But us guys will give ya another chance... after the stitches heal...

[que90nek]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
your analogy is funny

but,

IIIIIIIIIIIIF i was to apply your comment to myself... then... you would be talkin about me.... and i KNOW you don't want to be talkin bout me? :confused:

don't want to be? hmmmm. interesting.

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by que90nek+


don't want to be? hmmmm. interesting.

gone head and say it... :rolleyes:

[zuriyahe]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
your analogy is funny

but,

IIIIIIIIIIIIF i was to apply your comment to myself... then... you would be talkin about me.... and i KNOW you don't want to be talkin bout me? :confused:


Carefull fellas...My sensors detect a mine field ahead. Shields up! Proceed with extreme caution!

[que90nek]

curious choice of words....

like you done bent him over and given him a spanking or something.....

u said....it like he ought to know...like u done whooped his ass befo!!!! or something...:rolleyes:

[zuriyahe]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
bad sex means i'll forever see him in disgust...:blah:...ESPECIALLY if his dick was flaccid...

Yeah...I guess that I would have a difficult time if the woman ass was...

"FLAT"-sed

[zuriyahe]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
your analogy is funny

but,

IIIIIIIIIIIIF i was to apply your comment to myself... then... you would be talkin about me.... and i KNOW you don't want to be talkin bout me? :confused:

*putting on my glasses*

Well, research has shown that many women cannot have an orgasm with just DICK...er...i mean...with just penile penetration alone....

So it's ok, Hula...

*HUG*... *SQUEEZE*...*GRIND*...*PANT....*

Oh, baby!...er...BUT I DIGRESS. AHEM.

Maybe when you women get to Heaven, you should ask God why the above is true. Perhaps that portion of your body was created during the time when God created the osterich and the platypus. Hea! It's just a thought!

[que90nek]

my research has been a tad bit diff....

the un-orgasm ones are the exception rather than the rule....

the g-spot once discovered is never forgotten........

i aint gonna christen myself the g-spot finder....

but my lil stub down there is perfect for hittin it.....somehow :(

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by que90nek+
curious choice of words....

like you done bent him over and given him a spanking or something.....

u said....it like he ought to know...like u done whooped his ass befo!!!! or something...:rolleyes:

i wish he would let me whoop his ass...



but my lil stub down there is perfect for hittin it.....somehow .


maybe you got xmen-like powers or some shit like that...



zuri, clean your radar lens... you slightly off...

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by MsMeelah+
Damn I just turned myself on with that post.....Damn I wish Davinci was still in DC :upto:

J/k

Is that one of the referrals he was talking about at Hushnic?!!??!?!?