Besides physical attributes. . .

[Brightness]

. . .what are qualities that attract you to the opposite (or same if you're gay or bisexual) sex?

[adaya]

sense of humor, wit, kindness toward people in general, intelligence......

[seductive_tee]

a sense of humor, a talker...and someone who is spontanious

[Brightness]

I think sense of humor, too but I have to add a disclaimer saying it has to mesh with my sense of humor. . . because people are just plain silly and ain't nothing funny about them in the least.

I will also say that having a generous nature and spirit is high on my list. A man who gives freely of his time and emotions will most likely do so in all aspects of his life including financially and sexually.

I have more to add but I'm at work now so I have to go.

[Bedroomeyes]

I will have to say honesty, sence of humor, and mature mentally.. Spontanious is nice too..

[Andre98]

...that chunky brother with the receding hairline is just fighting the ladies off with a stick because he can crack a good jokey joke! Puleeeze! That first attraction, the one that has you notice the brother is even alive, is appearance. The other things come later, but they don't have a snowball's chance of getting their "turn at bat", if the potential is dismissed because they don't pass the initial once over. Before the ball of fire gets sent my way, let me clarify that I am not taking aim at the previous posters personally. Okay, well maybe I am, the sameness of the answers is what set me off, but it's in the context of the overall question, and I take it as what attracts you literally from the first moment, and it does apply on both sides of the gender line. Men are even more superficial than women are when it comes to gauging potential mates. I just want someone to just say it though.

I came across this URL on a female's Yahoo profile out of the African American chat rooms, just before coming on here. I was going to post in a "Not that I'm Gay...." thread, as a gift to you ladies, because I know you like to peep eye candy as much as we men do to women. But now it serves as a good example. On sight, are you thinking mature, sense of humor? Do these brothers have no better shot than the Jimmie Walker looking (not Jimmie Walker acting!) brother?
http://home.talkcity.com/SisterhoodSt/simarlena/


LMAO at the "Anaconda"... LOL ! And what's with Holmes and the white girl? Is he trying to help or hurt his cause?

[ThickBodyHottie]

an i.q. higher than mine, an interesting career, a good relationship with moms, versatile enough to go from cocktail function to go-go throw-down, experimental in the bed but not a slut, can handle children and actually want them, extremely honest and generous, interested in ME...everything my man is

[CD]

I like a woman with charm, style, feminine ways, sense of humor, witty, knows when to keep her mouth shut, and if I can't get any of those I'll settle for some.........M.O.N.E.Y...:D

[mitzy]

sense of humor, love for the children, fear of God.:rolleyes:

[yendys]

Warm personality; genuine caring heart; love for children; god fearing; ability to stimulate my mind FIRST, then body and soul

Andre' you are right b/c I have asked many males and females this question; "Say you saw a female/male and they were not physically attractive in your opinon, would you take the time to get to know them?" Everybody said, "Hells no!"

I am like that to a certain point, but have met some people whom I may have shunned at first b/c of their non-attractiveness(sp), but took the time to get to know them and found myself not seeing the outside, but rather the inside. It is truly breath taking the way things can happen when you see things with your ears & heart rather than your eyes. Or maybe I am a hopeless romantic. :confused:

[lovely]

Funny...yet loves to have serious talks. Has to be intelligent and (cant stand dumb, ignorant people). He has to have goals and be working toward those goals. He has to have money...he aint got to be rich, but he need to have something. He has to imaginative and thoughtful...towards me and even to strangers. He needs to be strong...both mentally and phsyically. Be a leader, able to take the lead even though he might have to beat me (not psysically) down to be able to be that in our relationship.

[Brightness]

I've got a whole lot more that I've learned not to reveal to men because they will attempt to become that if they really aren't just to impress you.

Some more traits that I am attracted to are honesty, spirituality, sensuality, grooming habits, intelligence, patience, level of maturity. . . .

[scoops]

takin you back......... way back .back into time.

Other than physical appearance, I would have to say intelligence and humor.

[HulaSista]

believe it or not (and for starters):

consistency
follow through
predictable behaviors
frequency
a responsible nature that i can trust