okay...what doea a WIFE do and what does a HUSBAND do - in YOUR opinion?

[ThickBodyHottie]

what is the role of the wife and what is the role of the husband?
have the roles become ambigous?
do you fulfill these roles currently?
do you WANT to fulfill these roles ever (or ever again)?

[Babygirl]

To me my wifely duties are: To make sure my husband's needs are met emotionally, and physically. To communicate as best as I possibly can. To make home comfortable, to make his life with me as enjoyable as possible. To balance him out.

His duties as my husband are: To make sure my needs are met emotionally and physically. To balance me out. To effectively communicate. To be my partner in our marriage. To be the head of the house.


Again, this is not written in stone..just MY opinion.

[ThickBodyHottie]

so, babygirl, the only thing different between a husband and wife to you is that the husband is the head of the household? should the wife do anything that is hers to do ONLY?

[Babygirl]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
so, babygirl, the only thing different between a husband and wife to you is that the husband is the head of the household? should the wife do anything that is hers to do ONLY?
Well it depends on the household. Normally the wife is primary caretaker of the children..but I can't speak on that subject because I don't have any kids yet. But I can say that I am primary care taker of: cooking, paying bills/balancing the checkbook/bank statements, and a good portion of the chores. But that is not to say hubby doesn't pitch in and help sometimes. The ONLY thin I can say is 100% exclusively mine is : grocery shopping and paying the bills/checkbook. Only because my husband doesn't do either effectively.;) But most households have dual roles. It's not traditional Ozzie & Harriet anymore:(

[Toffee]

I think its up to the people... but personally.. Whatever you are best at in the household that what u do.. If you are a good cook then cook. I think it takes both parents to take care of the children. Just because I'm the mother does not mean I should be the one to drive the kids to the games and so forth or pick up the report cards. Both parents jobs and schedules have to be taken into consideration when it comes to household repsonsibilities.

[misha]

I want to be like my parents were, the original tag team parents.

My dad worked nights, and my mom worked days, so that someone was always there, and neither did one job, they just did what needed to be done.

I don't believe in roles, I am a woman so I have to do this, or you are a man so you have to do that.

[ThickBodyHottie]

i believe a husband's role is to provide for the foundation and the wife's role is to maintain the foundation...it is both's responsibility to BUILD the foundation...i believe a woman should do domestic things and a man should do the other stuff...

[Brightness]

I am somewhat old-fashioned in what I feel the roles of husband/wife are and in most cases they border along the stereotypical lines.

I think the man should empty the trash, take care of household maintenance and car maintenance including filling my car with gas, knocking off the snow and warming it up on cold days. I think the man should pay most of the bills without complaining.I think that the man should be the head of the house but that he should have the wisdom to act accordingly and not like a dictator. I feel that that's the basics. . .feeding, clothing and putting a roof over my head. Too many men and women today have gotten away from this thinking and I think that can be a problem to a degree. (IN MY OPINION, that is. . . I could elaborate more but time doesn't permit.)

I think a woman should do the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. I feel that my role as a wife would be to create a warm, inviting atmosphere for my husband after he's been out in the cold, cruel world all day. That would mean not bitching at him the moment he steps through the door, nagging about really trivial stuff. . . .I know how to have a conversation in the appropriate fashion and at the appropriate time. I also think a woman should be the freakiest female that her man can handle.

I think that BOTH should be respectful to one another, have honest open communication, support the other through hard times and to sometimes FULLY carry the burden of the family when it is necessary.

[seductive_tee]

I haven't a clue.....but some day I hope to

[dns70]

...if I tried to answer the question five times. But here's what I'll say this time. I don't believe in a marriage where the man makes decisions without consulting with his wife. Sure sometimes that man will hear from God and when he does, then that's the decision. And if the husband has shown himself to be true to following the voice of God then I don't think the wife would dispute the decision.

That being said, sometimes, the wife hears from God. Sometimes she's given the Word on a topic. When the husband hears this from his wife, then that's the decision that should be made.

A husband should provide stability and security and complete love to his wife. she should feel safe and taken care of. She should know that it all doesn't depend on her. That he has things so under control that if anything was to happen to her ability to provide, he would have it covered. She should know that no other woman is a threat to their marriage.

A wife should provide loyalty, steadfastness and an ability to comfort, console and encourage her husband. In simplistic terms Women desire affection, the comfort of knowing that they are number one in their man's life. Men desire encouragement and ego-stroking. They want to feel as if their wives see them as the greatest most capable man walking the planet.

Am I fulfilling these roles? Well I'm not married. But I feel capable.

Do I want to? Absolutely.

[shtalker]

bump^

[missbuttabutt]

As wife, I cook, and do most of the cleaning, because my husband's specialty is mac and cheese, and sweeping. But, when I have cramps, or just dont feel like doing anything, he'll get up and do what he has to, without me having to say a word.
I'm there for him to talk to when he's got a problem, or listen to and respect his opinion, while still having my own. I'm his best friend, and his biggest fan, but that doesn't stop me from lighting into his ass every now and then. I'm there to make him a better person through myself, and in turn, he does the same for me.

As husband, he's my best friend, and my caretaker. My guidance counselor and psychiatrist for the days when I can't seem to keep anything together. He takes care of most of our finances, which is good because I'm not the best when it comes to money. He keeps me in check when I step out of line, which I admit, I can do pretty often. He helps me to grow in areas where I'm still a bit of a novice at, and he shows me things I never knew (and corrects me on the shit I knew, but I really didn't.)

We support each other, and share the responsibilities.

Our marriage is a combined effort, and it's good to know that we need each other. Now when I say need, I don't mean like we can't live without each other, but I feel like he has to be in my life for me to be the best I can be.

*sidenote*

If I'm in a relationship with someone and he can't go on and do simple shit without me, like say if we had kids, and he couldn't get his ass up and get them dressed should I be MIA for a couple of hours, we don't need to be together. Helpless ass.

[reesecup]

Originally posted by missbuttabutt
As wife, I cook, and do most of the cleaning, because my husband's specialty is mac and cheese, and sweeping. But, when I have cramps, or just dont feel like doing anything, he'll get up and do what he has to, without me having to say a word.
I'm there for him to talk to when he's got a problem, or listen to and respect his opinion, while still having my own. I'm his best friend, and his biggest fan, but that doesn't stop me from lighting into his ass every now and then. I'm there to make him a better person through myself, and in turn, he does the same for me.

As husband, he's my best friend, and my caretaker. My guidance counselor and psychiatrist for the days when I can't seem to keep anything together. He takes care of most of our finances, which is good because I'm not the best when it comes to money. He keeps me in check when I step out of line, which I admit, I can do pretty often. He helps me to grow in areas where I'm still a bit of a novice at, and he shows me things I never knew (and corrects me on the shit I knew, but I really didn't.)

We support each other, and share the responsibilities.

Our marriage is a combined effort, and it's good to know that we need each other. Now when I say need, I don't mean like we can't live without each other, but I feel like he has to be in my life for me to be the best I can be.

*sidenote*

If I'm in a relationship with someone and he can't go on and do simple shit without me, like say if we had kids, and he couldn't get his ass up and get them dressed should I be MIA for a couple of hours, we don't need to be together. Helpless ass.

Your definitions on husband and wife roles are great.

[seductive_tee]

I was asked this recently.

If i married you what would i have to do.

I said

take out the trash
cut the grass
mop the floor
shovel snow

and cuddle of course

Just these things off the top.....