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swtjamaica
02-13-2003, 08:13 AM
...every relationship i've been in for the past 4 years or so has been long distance...when asked why that is, my response is that i can't find any interesting black men in my local area...is something wrong with me? am i not looking in the right places?
mystkev
02-13-2003, 08:16 AM
Maybe there aren't any interesting black men in your local area.

I doubt that there's anything wrong w/you, it's something wrong w/them for not noticing you or being too afraid to come and talk.

Where are you looking?
swtjamaica
02-13-2003, 08:24 AM
..i don't club much, ain't no nice young men in my church that aren't already taken, and the guys on campus are too damn young! the older brothas are married and looking for pussy on the side (i ain't feeling that---anymore), gay or all of the above...the pickings here are pretty damn slim...you want a man you can relate to on a lot of levels, and a lot of men here just don't measure up...sad but true...
mystkev
02-13-2003, 08:27 AM
Maybe you can join some kind of after 5 club. Book readings and concerts are those good places to meet people?

I always meet people in regular everyday places, like the sandwich shop, or through a friend.

They are there, somewhere, they probably sitting at home wishing they had a good woman.

Do you live in a small town?
Sparkles
02-13-2003, 08:27 AM
long distance relationship might be easier for you to deal with... I know long distance relationship could NEVER work for me, so I would never enter into one. However, you on the other hand might like the set up, but that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with YOU. ;Never settle for the sake of convenience. Like you always say do YOU and if that mean ole boy happens to be out of town, and your okay with that, then handle yours.
que90nek
02-13-2003, 08:28 AM
blame it on the internet.....

fact is...it is easier to meet folks long distance than local because we generally sit at home in front of a screen (tv or computer)...(not sayin u do)...

put yourself in circles and situations to meet folks....the better the circle the better your chances of meeting somebody better...
Tastey
02-13-2003, 08:39 AM
I'm with you SwtJ.

I meet brothers here and long distance (through the net).

Maybe it's the whole fantasy of the internet but it seems the ones I like the most, am the most compatible with, and have the best time with live 100's of miles away.

When we get together it's like the honeymoon. You are so glad to see each other. Been missing each other and spend all your time just having fun.

With the guys I meet in town they seem to take ME and being together for granted and don't put much time or effort into the relationship.

Do you girl!
seductive_tee
02-13-2003, 09:16 AM
they had this thing on the news last night about dating....how people are hiring professional dating coaches...and some will actually go on the date with you....
swtjamaica
02-13-2003, 03:06 PM
...i don't have problems dating, i have problems FINDING mofos to date!!! rotf!! yeah myst, i live in a fairly small town...it has 2 major universities and an up and coming community college, but the pickins here are still extremely slim...the younger men aren't really into older women here, ESPECIALLY with the ratio being at least 16 women to every 1 man on campus...the professors are too old, gay or married...the younger ones are either gay or married...the blue colla brothas ain't hollerin, and when they do, they can't put a correct sentence together, what's up with that?? am i being too picky??
mystkev
02-13-2003, 03:10 PM
Originally posted by swtjamaica+
what's up with that?? am i being too picky?? Hell naw you aren't being too picky, you have to be able to converse with the person.

Ummm, I don't know what else to tell you. If you live in a small town, there has to be a larger city somewhere nearyby right?
I would say start shopping around in the downtown area of your nearest larger city.

If not, screw it, stick w/your long distance relationships, if they are working. You just gotta keep your car gassed up.
HulaSista
02-13-2003, 03:10 PM
swtj - i thought i was the only one
swtjamaica
02-13-2003, 03:13 PM
Originally posted by HulaSista+
swtj - i thought i was the only one


...it's GOTTA BE better there than it is here!!!
OhSoPrecious
02-13-2003, 03:14 PM
Originally posted by Tastey+
When we get together it's like the honeymoon. You are so glad to see each other. Been missing each other and spend all your time just having fun.


Damn, I love that feeling~!! :upretty Hell, I'm tryin to hook up one of those honeymoon get togethers now~!! :upto:

SwtJ, girl.. at least you are dating~!!!!!!!!! :cool:
swtjamaica
02-13-2003, 03:16 PM
Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+
SwtJ, girl.. at least you are dating~!!!!!!!!! :cool:


...who told you that?? :D i ain't datin!!
Melotic
02-14-2003, 03:27 AM
Try another church, visit some in another city or across town...
shtalker
02-14-2003, 04:04 AM
He is there somewhere girl, it is just not your time to find him yet.
You are a strong, beautiful, intelligent black woman. What is not to like about ya girl.

I agree with Sparkles too.

He is coming and you make sure you are ready to receive him!!!
swtjamaica
02-14-2003, 05:49 AM
...i appreciate the suggestions and support! Y'all da bomb!!! (ebonically speaking, of course) ;)