Men & Marriage

[seductive_tee]

What is your view on the statement below

IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH.
He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife.

it doesn`t take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn`t take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a time is because he`s tired of
looking for something better. And trust me, that`s definately
what he was doing all of those years.

[Sparkles]

I am not sure of what to make of this, but I have seen this scenario more times than I would like to mention.

I guess my only comment is, why do you think the women wait it out for years and years?!?!?! I have an exampe of a couple who are my friends. Have been together 13 yrs, 3kid's and a house, yet he insist that he will not marry her. She keeps saying, e aint' going no where, and even the kid's are asking when are they getting married.WTF

Like I said this example if just one of several that I know about personally, so there must be some truth too the statement.....

[lasttry]

that statement is too true

[OhSoPrecious]

That statement is also true for Women & Marriage, huh~?? :rolleyes:

Ladies, let's not blame it all on the men~!! :eek:

[Brightness]

That statement sounds like it's right on the mark.

That's why I refuse to waste my time indefinitely with someone. I think you know if you're willing to accept someone for who they are relatively soon. It would be ridiculous to try to 'wait' until you know them better because you have couples who are married 10-15 years still finding things out about one another. It's all about in how dedicated and commited you plan on being to the relationship.

[Brightness]

BTW tee. . .

Where did you come across this, was it a magazine article or something?

[dns70]

I have to agree with you...

A grown man with his smack together doesn't need to take anymore than a couple of years to make that woman his wife. Anything more are symptoms of "draginus feeticoccus!

[ThickBodyHottie]

Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+
That statement is also true for Women & Marriage, huh~?? :rolleyes:

Ladies, let's not blame it all on the men~!! :eek:

word...i SWEAR that's the truth...

[seductive_tee]

Bright actually a friend of mine was responding to a question. Didn't get this one from a magazine.

Originally posted by Brightness+
BTW tee. . .

Where did you come across this, was it a magazine article or something?

[djackso]

Men have that feeling a little time after meeting a woman if she is going to be his wife or not. All the men that has ever been married will agree.

[que90nek]

agree.

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+


word...i SWEAR that's the truth...

its true ... its true...agreeing with oh so and thick...

for me...because i don't wanna be that woman that waits for a man i am with to decide if we marry....the question gots to be asked from jump street!

i know from the moment i LOOK at a man if he is someone i would LOOK GOOD :upretty with for the rest of my life...

then i tell 'em that i don't waste no time "do you wanna marry in your future?" if he says with the right woman, then i say "i ain't tryin to be the right woman cause you may not be the right man...but...we can kick it til we get tired of each other..."

and "we" usually last...a month... cause he done did somethin to psst me off! lmao :D

[Vronni]

I agree with that statement Tee but I just can't understand why women wait around while the man loooks for someone "better". Some women wait around for years then they break up with the man,he marries someone else very quickly and the women is like "He said he wasn't interested in being married". NO,he wasn't interested in marrying YOU :confused::confused: Hello!!!!

[scoops]

Originally posted by seductive_tee
What is your view on the statement below

IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH.
He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife.

it doesn`t take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn`t take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of a time is because he`s tired of
looking for something better. And trust me, that`s definately
what he was doing all of those years.

I disagree, I am stable in my life and have been in a serious relationship, I wasnt ready to get married, but I wasnt looking for anything else. It was a good thing I didnt marry her either, I found out alot og things about her I didnt know after we moved in together. I think you can have a feeling, if you want to marry that person but you still need to get to know them and get to know how you work together. The reason alot of marraige in this day and age end in divorce is because the parties don't really know each other they don't talk about the issues like having a joint account or do you want children and how many.
Marraige is an institution that was ment for life and when I get married I want it to last that long. So If it takes me 2 years to be positive so be it. It would be well worth the wait.