i wish

[lovely]

that i could just run away from all of this!



i wish for a serious vacation. just me, myself and i.

some time to myself.

is this too much to ask for?

[mystkev]

Originally posted by lovely+
is this too much to ask for? No it's not!!! I'll babysit for you if you want. I come w/references.

[Tastey]

I wish I could run with you... :(

I won't bother you, I just need to get away too.

2003 has started off so bad.

I just keep telling myself it has to get better...doesn't it.

[lovely]

Originally posted by Tastey+

2003 has started off so bad.

I just keep telling myself it has to get better...doesn't it.

im feeling you on that. except its been rough for the last two to three months.

everytime i turn around...something else jumps on my plate.
im tired of crying every week.
im tired of being broke.
im even tired of my daughter.
family is irritating me
my job....we aint even gone go there.
parenting is getting on my nerves (i wish i could do like so many men be doing and not be a parent)
im tired of men
everything is irritating me.
i want to scream constantly.
i want to be by myself.

[Tastey]

I am feeling you on that.

It's so depressing to get your paycheck and realize it's not enough to pay even 1/2 of your bills.

Phones ringing off the hook from folks wanting their money.

My Jeep (my baby) needed repairing and now that's she ready I can't afford to go get her. Going on 3 weeks now without.

One of the guys I was dating (and really liked) told me he's engaged getting married on Valentines Day.

One of my closest friends (i thought) told me we can't be friends anymore.

I see my child once a week because of my new work schedule.

and my sinus won't stop draining.

What's next...

That's all I can say... what's next...

Lovely...you pray for me...and I'll pray for you girl. :(

[lovely]

It's so depressing to get your paycheck and realize it's not enough to pay even 1/2 of your bills

yep! i dont even want to discuss that. car payment...half paid. car insurance...got the notice today..it needs to be paid...or else. thank God for the babysitter being a child of God...she told me not to pay her until things were better.

My Jeep (my baby) needed repairing and now that's she ready I can't afford to go get her. Going on 3 weeks now without.

something is going on with the focus. scared to take her in...cause i know i cant even afford to pay for it...even if it cost fiftey cents.

One of the guys I was dating (and really liked) told me he's engaged getting married on Valentines Day.

lets not even talk about hearts hurting :rolleyes:

I see my child once a week because of my new work schedule.

my schedule at work had changed from 4-midnight. to three day shifts and two evening shifts and off friday and sat. a lady quit yesterday and now they switched me back to all nights. i will never see my child. who is suppossed to help her with her reading....her writing. who is going to give her baths at night! read her stories. she wont be able to fall asleep in her own bed but two nights a week. im so angry and confused....i just want to scream! i dont want to cry...cause im tired of that. i just want it to be over so damn bad! all of this.

and lets not talk about this cough of mine. it will not go away. dont have any health insurance....cant go to the doctor. yet this cough keeps me awake at night. had an interview today....a coughing fit hit me in the middle of it. definitly not a good impression! oh well...........thats life for danita. :rolleyes:

[Tastey]

Girl...we are here ----------><--------------. (((HUSHHUG))))

[HulaSista]

for all the reasons you ladies stated - i decided that instead of my sanity and peace of mind being sacrified and shreaded to pieces, i will SACRIFICE not paying a luxury bill (a bill i didn't need to begin with and does not effect the water, pg&e, telephone or rent) and take a trip to seattle this weekend i had been planning.

i NEEDS my quality lone time. ain't NO WAY hula would be alive if I didn't STEAL it from somewhere.

then i'll be back on monday for every thang to get on my nerves again.

but 2 days away from he'a will be a blessing. even if i don't get a hotel room and just sit in the airport and people watch. it's NOT california!

[mystkev]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
i NEEDS my quality lone time. ain't NO WAY hula would be alive if I didn't STEAL it from somewhere.

then i'll be back on monday for every thang to get on my nerves again.

but 2 days away from he'a will be a blessing. even if i don't get a hotel room and just sit in the airport and people watch. it's NOT california! I heard that! Have a good time!!!

[misha]

Damn, I thought I was the only one that wants to run away from home!

*hugs* to all of you that are going through it.

[HulaSista]

why don't we all run away from home together?

[mystkev]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
why don't we all run away from home together? Well, when I runaway, I'm staying away.

[sistuhchey]

Make a date with yourself!!!...and don't break it..follow Hula's lead..a lil R&R...is good for the soul....even if you don't travel far...just go spend a day at the movies, the hair salon, the mall, the library, museum...wherever and whatever brings you tranquility and joy!!!.....Think I'll step away myself...this weekend!!;)

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by sistuhchey+
.....Think I'll step away myself...this weekend!!;)

Originally posted by mystkev+
Well, when I runaway, I'm staying away.

gone sistas' do your thang!

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you know, years ago, it was taboo for women to speak like this ... talking about "running away from her responsibilities/life". a woman was suppose to be proud of all her hardships, hardwork and selfless service to others... ya'll think we made somebody mad talkin about all this runnin away? :eek:

[lovely]

Originally posted by HulaSista+

you know, years ago, it was taboo for women to speak like this ... talking about "running away from her responsibilities/life". a woman was suppose to be proud of all her hardships, hardwork and selfless service to others... ya'll think we made somebody mad talkin about all this runnin away? :eek:

OMG...my mom and i just got into a little debate about this last night. i told her i was going to go away in march for a weekend. to get away. and she was like...you trying to get a place of your own(in a year) and you gone spend money to go away. and i told her that i needed to get away. and then because i know folk in lots of places...going away is not going to be an expensive thing. pay for transpo...and thats it. she was like..".well i raised three kids and never went away. i did what i had to do. something is wrong with ya'll kids talking about ya'll need a break". and i said to her.."the difference between me and you...is that i have the option of getting rid of my daughter for a weekend...to get away. you might not of had breaks..but thats because you couldnt have breaks..i can. and ima have mine. cause i think i deserve it. and plus yall drank and smoked all of ya'lls money up. i dont so i will have the funds to do so..." of course she ended up saying that i was thinking imaturely...and that if going someplace was more important than saving money for a place of my own...then im more imature than she thought. :rolleyes: ..and that there was no way in hades that she was keeping my daughter.

oh well...me and my immature tail gone be feeling nice and refreshed in a little bit. :beer

[HulaSista]

my mom was the queen of "leavin the kids on grandma" and she tried to tell me the same thing years ago! when anthony was 4 months old, we went on a huge family trip that started in northern cali, went to texas, then we stopped back in la to go to my fave place DISNEYLAND :beer

it just so happened that anthony's dad wanted to be there for his "first trip to disneyland" :rolleyes:

so when we rolled in, i told him to come pick up the little rough neck and i took the free shuttle to disneyland, with my 5 day park hopper and tarried my behind to disneyland (i had to sneak and say i was with my baby daddy) and bout me a pack of cigarettes, walked through the whole park to new orleans square, found me a drank, a table with an umbrella and sat there and smoked my behind silly! it was the greatest peace! whew lawd...


everyone share their stories please (i got tons of them)

[sassyandclassy]

yano..this is so real for women...especially women with children..
we really need a break from it all sometimes, you've got to take care of yourself in order to be able to give anything to anybody else...
but try telling this to my babydaddy...
I'm like-- keep the children, he's like OK... they go over, 2 hours later he's calling like " I gotta go _____, can I bring them back?"
I'm sitting there steaming saying, "Take them with you, that's what I do".... but he really doesn't get it....

My mom....she's a pretty good babysitter...but always being nosey....." So where are you going?, What do you have to do?" and I just can't say " Nowhere, Nothing, just need to do me"
she doesn't get it either....back to those old days stories..."I ain't never had no break, I stayed at home with all of y'all, all of the time"....well, whatever.....you was the sucker

But on the real, do what you got to do to take of yourself, and it's sad that people don't realize all of the PRESSURES of working, raising children, trying to have a 1/2 way decent relationship, and take care of yourself...sometimes you have to play crazy to get away.....

My best friend used to just have screaming and crying tantrums as she politely dropped the children and their bags off at the grandparents..and drove off ranting something about a nervous breakdown....but hey..gotta do what you gotta do:D :D :D

ok..and I know this might be borderline trifling...but sometimes I say I have to go out of town to conferences/training for work...it works like a charm for a couple of ME days during the week... they know not to call me at work and I conviently give them calls on my cellphone....

[HulaSista]

i told my family i was going to a conference for a weekend. it was a good cover because my company at the time had a habit of traveling and having corporate meetings on weekends. :D

that was a great time ;)

[sistuhchey]

took it for granted.....then as my daughter approached her teens...she wanted a break from me!!!..WTF.....turned the tables..took her with me..on most get-aways, to see shit she needed to see and experience.....Glad I did....glad i had that special bonding time...;)