Teens & Oral Sex

[SeaDuceme2]

How do you handle your teen (age 12-16) who is interested and or is engaging in oral sex?

I have heard more middle school teen girls tell me that they are comfortable with having oral sex as opposed to penetration because oral sex allows them to be in control.

your thoughts please.

[lovely]

I have heard that more teens are engaging in oral sex...cause its not "real" sex...so they are still virgins.

A church my sister used to go to had an oral sex epidimic...alot of the teens and preteens were doing it. They had to call a meeting for all the parents to let them know about it.

I try not to think about my daughter and her having relations. It scares me:eek:

[MsMeelah]

Lawd!! Thats scary... I am speechless. Back when we were in jr High, we thought that was nasty..

[SeaDuceme2]

Originally posted by MsMeelah+
Lawd!! Thats scary... I am speechless. Back when we were in jr High, we thought that was nasty..

That's exactly what I'm talking about..

[KissableSexyShortStuff]

Originally posted by MsMeelah+
Lawd!! Thats scary... I am speechless. Back when we were in jr High, we thought that was nasty..

same here


Some say a different time different day....... My mom didn't talk to us about oral sex....... At that age I didn't even know what oral sex was... The girls starting out younger and younger... and with them thinking it's not "real" sex it's only going to get worse.....

[seductive_tee]

I spoke with my son on it who will be 18 in January and i damn near passed out.....he said that he has never put his lips below a girls chest and never will...he says how can anyone kiss a place where it bleeds and you pee, said that was straight nasty and how do girls like that....then he said, i bet they won't kiss you afterwards....i just laughed then.....so i asked if a girl had done him.....he said Ma, that's the first hing they want to do....he said it seems like they do that to make you want to have sex....he said he's never asked a girl to do it but the 2 that did just did it....

[que90nek]

good conversation, tee!

i got my first skull when i was in the 8th grade....

but then my school was DIFFERENT.

[MsMeelah]

Again, it's disturbing that a young girls are so free with thier sexuality. DOn't they realize they are degrading themselves !?Yes, IMO it is degrading to do something to a man that he would not think about doing to you. I know that many of these young ladies are being so freaky because they feel that thats the only way to keep the man or to get the man to love them. I said it before and I will say it again, alot of this is our fault, We really need to take control and stop letting the media, music, video's, movies ect have such an impact on our children. This is where alot of this behavior stems from. I don't care how many birth control pills, shots and condoms you use. All this fucking and sucking at such a young age, is damaging!

[seductive_tee]

From talking with my son, it seems that young girls think by giving a boy some head they the shyt......and that he'll do whatever for them.

I asked my son how he felt about girls that did it.....he said he ain't care if they did it or not, but if they doing me then they doing my boys....so she can't be my girl and she sure won't get a kiss.

Then i asked if he thought his sister would do that....he said he doubt it or atleast he hope not because she got a brother, and father who'll do and give to her.

[que90nek]

"do and give to her"

so its your sons impression that if they do that for him...that he owes them something? or they expect something?

hmmm
...meelah....you are TOUGH.....

which would u prefer.....irresponsible SEX or irresponsible ORAL sex?

[CD]

I don't think it's anything new. It's just out in the open now. People, young people specifically, are just more verbal.

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by que90nek+
"do and give to her"

so its your sons impression that if they do that for him...that he owes them something? or they expect something?



From talking with my son, it seems that young girls think by giving a boy some head they the shyt......and that he'll do whatever for them.

This is the impression my son gets from the girls.....he doesn't think he owes them anything but the girls feel if they do it, they'll get something.....

And i meant do for her and give her things she wants....

[que90nek]

hmmm

acceptance from boys is VERY important.

i went to a youngin party the other day....and saw girls giving guys LAP DANCES!!!!!!!:eek:

i was jealous....no i'm kidding!....i was appalled....disgusted...uh....:D

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by que90nek+

i went to a youngin party the other day....and saw girls giving guys LAP DANCES!!!!!!!:eek:

i was jealous....no i'm kidding!....i was appalled....disgusted...uh....:D

What were u doing at a youngin party....

[que90nek]

it was my relatives....mostly....

[djackso]

Oral sex has always gone on in grade & high school. Now girls are bold about it. Boys are taught not to do it.

[MsMeelah]

GRADE SCHOOL!!!?????:eek:

[seductive_tee]

I don't remember stuff like that in my Elem School....I just thought Daron was cute.

[OhSoPrecious]

Tee, I truly believe it's more than just thinking somebody's cute now-a-days. . I can't help but think what (& when) it will be like now that my little girl is in school~!!! :( (sigh)

Lawd, help me~!!!!!!!!

[adaya]

Originally posted by MsMeelah+
Lawd!! Thats scary... I am speechless. Back when we were in jr High, we thought that was nasty..

Same here!!
I'm sure there were some people doing that in jr. high, but they were mainly white folks.
I didn't know there was such a thing as oral sex until 9th grade, and I thought whoever thought that one up had to be the nastiest mofo ever! :eek:
I guess I was one of the 'slow' ones.
A classmate told us a joke in the 9th grade, the punchline had something to do with a blowjob; I didn't get the punchline until my senior year because I didn't know what a blowjob was and none of my friends would tell me!

Things really are different these days....