Respect

[seductive_tee]

Do women respect a mans privacy? Do you lose most of your privacy once your married, or living together?

[Tastey]

I respect a man's privacy and I try very hard not to pry even when there are things that I really really really wanna know.

I've never been married or lived together so I don't know about losing privacy.

I do however expect him to respect my privacy as well. I'm an overall private person and some things are just not meant for everyone to see or know about.

[OhSoPrecious]

But, when I use to live with my daughter's father. . I invaded his privacy~!! :rolleyes: Just a little bit. . .

Prior to the move in, I was cool. . never gave him any problems~!! :cool:

[nubianx2]

You can live with someone and still allow each other to maintain their privacy, it's part of respect.

[davinci]

Originally posted by Tastey+
some things are just not meant for everyone to see or know about. this is an issue. when married, and you say that you are joined as one. are there still secrets. d lives in the real world and knows that there are, but is that the way it is supposed to be? one thing i notice in relationships between former/rehabilitated "bad people" like drug abusers, prostitutes and the like, they are EXTREMELY honest with one another down to the very last details. and they have some of the strongest binds that i have ever seen.

the flip side is the S/O. if they don't ask, then i say don't tell, but if they ask, blunt honesty will, in my opinion, make the relationship tighter. i ain't volunteering shyt in the seedling stages of a relationship, but.... if they can't handle the truth, then they can't handle me and vice versa.

[davinci]

oh yeah, the privacy part...

i think that solitude and privacy is good and necessary. if you say, i need some "me time" cool. if you always going in the bathroom and coming out rubbing your nose and happy, uncool.

[swtjamaica]

...privacy is MANDATORY in a relationship! snooping, prying, etc is UNACCEPTABLE...if you ask your S/O a question, he/she SHOULD be willing to answer it honestly and openly...i agree with d, if he don't ask me, i ain't tellin him nothin, HOWEVER, if he asks, i'm lettin the cat out the bag, as it were....

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by davinci+
one thing i notice in relationships between former/rehabilitated "bad people" like drug abusers, prostitutes and the like, they are EXTREMELY honest with one another down to the very last details. and they have some of the strongest binds that i have ever seen.

this is very very very true. my ex druggie daddy and his ex druggie white chick are PITIFULLY connected at the hip, heart, ass, chest, back, kidney, thigh... YOU NAME IT, the connected. and we dont' want to go there with the honesty. privacy, what? for what? that's my pookie! :rolleyes:

Originally posted by davinci+
this is an issue. when married, and you say that you are joined as one. are there still secrets. d lives in the real world and knows that there are, but is that the way it is supposed to be?

there should be the level of privacy that is owed to oneself when they are away from their spouse and children. but i think that is it.

Originally posted by davinci+
if they can't handle the truth, then they can't handle me and vice versa.

yano? that is why i try to be as brutally honest in the beginning. i can tell when they can't handle it. they tell me that i am "too much and don't think they can handle it" :rolleyes: (boring! :blah: no fun! :D )