Poll: Do you believe in "The One"?

[dns70]

How many of you here believe that God made one, specific, particular person for you?

Do you believe that you can miss this person in your life?

Or,

Do you believe that there are several people that you be with that will give you the same amount of deep love and personal satisfaction?

[que90nek]

gosh...

good question.

[Tastey]

I believe that both happen depending on the person.

I believe God has a plan for my life, and that plan may include the perfect God chosen mate...however I don't believe that God will stop blessing me if for some reason I don't end up with that mate.

Because of free will, the person God chose for me, may not choose me.

In that instance I believe that God will provide for me a suitable loving mate. However oftentimes we live our lives just under God's perfect plan for us.

God has a perfect plan for everything we do, our jobs, our homes, where we live, etc.

However most of us go through life making decisions then asking God to help us achieve the goals..we set rather than asking God to show us what he wants us to do in life.

Therefore a person that God may have perfectly planned to be a doctor ends up as a architech. Not a bad career...but also not the plan God had in mind. The person is still blessed...but would have been blessed more abundantly had they sought God first.

Again...this is what I believe.

[davinci]

way to weight the question. that's like picking a gospel song to sing on apollo so they don't boo you.

[misha]

I think that several people can give you love and satisfaction. Because we go through stages and changes in life, and different people at different times are right for you.

Think about who you were with at age 20. Now at age 30. Is there a difference?

[OhSoPrecious]

I don't really know. . . :confused: Perhaps, that's why I am still single and all alone~??

[CLSmooove]

In some ways I do believe that God has a mate already chosen for you..... As a matter of fact in my wedding vows I said EXACTLY these words "Curt I Believe that You are the Person GOD has chosen for me" I believe that with alll my heart because we are so much alike and do almost everything the same way.....

BUT

I also agree with Misha I'm not the same person I was in my first marriage But when I got married then I didnt think of him as God's choice for me.....

[misha]

You have a good point CL, perhaps we jumped the gun on who God chose for us, made our own choices, and that is why the marriages didn't work out.

At the time, I truly believed that this man was god's choice for me, because I prayed for a husband, and within days I met him.....what I learned is that God isn't the only one that hears our prayers. the destroyer, the fouler, the deceiver hears them too. and sometimes, we are fooled by him, in my case, I wanted to be fooled.

But that is a whole nother story.

[swtjamaica]

...but he died...does that mean i won't again find one?? i can't answer this question...:(

[HulaSista]

i agree with cl and misha:

alot of folks my age, that i know here locally have major marital problems because they choose some interesting folks to marry for some stupid reasons. so the destroyer you speak of, does a whole lot to assist with some folks decision to marry. (especially when they marry for the wrong reason)

I believe God has someone for me. I don't think i would miss this person. If i did, I am sure God will let me know. Plus, to make sure I don't, i asked God to place him so heavy on my heart that I would know. I believe that I cannot get to that someone until I accept the fact that marriage may not be God's plans for me, therefore, I may never meet him.

Being single is a gift. I choose to nurture that gift for it is two folds:

1. I will seek after God's heart and allow him to mold me the way I should be and do His will

2. Because I am being redesign to how God wants me to be, if marriage is for me, I will already be prepared when God sends me that someone.

To be honest, at this point in my life, though I want to be married, I can see that it is not for me to have right now. i don't need to see the future or worry about the future. I am fine knowing what God wants for me now. I can tell this by how "particular" i am in what i want and need which is in line with what God expect a man should be.

I don't meet too many men anywhere who have those qualifications. I will say, that, it feels like, a time is drawing near to me meeting someone because the men of God that i am meeting are surfacing. This is a good sign too me because i didn't see this in years past like I see it now.

Again, when I meet that someone, is a whole nother story. Actually, I probably already met him, God just hasn't revealed him to me as "my one".

I am not gonna sit here and make a man meet those qualifications and I am not gonna convinced myself that if I "stay around long enough" they will want or try or change or force themselves to be what I want.

I already know I am in the midst of being mentally, spiritually and otherwise ready for marriage. Its okay by me if the men i meet don't "qualifiy".

Perfectly okay.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
Again, when I meet that someone, is a whole nother story. Actually, I probably already met him, God just hasn't revealed him to me as "my one".


Can you misunderstand God?

I have someone that I believe with all my heart that God has revealed to me over and over and over as "the one". I have fought inside myself and with God because this person does not appear to me to be the one, is not the one I would have chosen for myself, and doesn't seem to feel that I am the one for them either; but when I earnestly pray...this is what I hear God saying.

When I pray about other decisions, I hear God loud and clearly. I do what he says, and things work out as he advised they would. But in "this situation" me and God don't seem to connect properly. I still hear him loud and clear...but I don't understand him. :confused:

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by Tastey+
Can you misunderstand God?

I think one can.

I am gonna say something, and this may require me taking back some of my words... but...

When i met a good friend of mine (7years ago), it was that whole "love at first site" thing.

He was/is EXACTLY ... exactly... exactly...exactly... who and what i wanted. our past, present and future lives spelled out MEANT TO BE. i thought about him real heavy for months on end. We date off and on. In the last couple of years, its been sparse between talkin and seeing each other.

i swore up and down that he is THE ONE. And I sort of feel like, if he walked through the door right this second and said: MARRY ME... ya'll would be invited to a wedding.

then he did a few things that i found questionable. But, i couldn't fault him, because, i seen him as THE one. my judgement was based on him being MY MAN. he seen me only as a great friend and nothing more. though, i do get to do a lot more things and be involved in his life a lot deeper than most women in his life ever have. I STILL feel like he could be the one. But, it has to be MUTUAL. So, i figured, when God lays it on his heart to see me as i see him, then... I will know and he will know.

I see as this, if he ain't feelin me the exact way i am feelin him, it must be because I'm not ready for him yet and vice versa. In that case, i'll let God handle thangs from this point on.

[Tastey]

This TWIN thing is getting eerie girl.

Change your 7 years to my 5 and we are -------><------------ here.

[lightandlovely1]

I believe that God has made several individuals for us. We just have to be open to receiving what He's set aside for us. I think we miss out a lot on God's blessings because he're looking in the wrong direction.

[Toffee]

I believe there is one perfect mate.. but there are others that we can also live happily with. Ex. Paul McCartney he and his wife only spent one day apartment their entire marriage.. 2yrs after her death he was dating someone else. He may never find that perfect love but he can find something almost equally as satifying.

[HulaSista]

damn... what an old ass thread.

a lot has happened since i posted this in 2002.

me and homey i wrote about are still friends. 12 years going. and no closer to marriage that we were 12 years ago. lol i hope he finds someone made for him because i obviously never was for him.

[Brightness]

This was one I missed since I never answered this originally, I'm surprised I could still vote after all these years...musta been an open poll.

Anyway, I chose I don't really know. While I don't think that I'm meant to be alone, I don't really know what the source of my ultimate happiness will be with a man in that, it may not be a marriage or happily ever after, etc.

[dulce]

I do believe that but I just hope we find each other before I get too damn old - LOL!

[misha]

I don't think I believe it any more.

[HulaSista]

i've been re-thinking of the polled question. and i want to believe there is a one perfect person. but i dont want to believe it because i don't want to get it twisted and go through the man search agony i used to be in years ago.

there are a lot of men that i knew i could be with and have a great life with and the only thing stopping us was circumstances, time, money, distance. i've spoken before about a Jordanian who lives in Dubai who, of all things, was a Christian, and listened to black music. He was PERFECT. But is it really perfect when I don't want to leave my country? and is it really perfect that he has to stay there and care for his family business and put his brothers and sisters through school? is it perfect then? are we talking about "perfect for me" where circumstances allow the two to be together or sacrifice becomes easy? or are we just talking about the person alone?

*sigh*...

[ERinger]

To steal a line from Love Jones, "Love is what and with whom you make it."

[davinci]

if you love yourself and get with someone who loves him/herself...and you and that someone have lots in common...that shyt will feel like destiny.

the key is both coming to the table free of self-pity and shyt like that.

[Brother-Bile]

To steal a line from Love Jones, "Love is what and with whom you make it."

I think that this is very true.

[jaila]

if you love yourself and get with someone who loves him/herself...and you and that someone have lots in common...that shyt will feel like destiny.

the key is both coming to the table free of self-pity and shyt like that.


this works for me :D

[GraveDigga]

used to...but not anymore!!! Then again "I AM the One!!!"