View Full Version : Hush Chats: Liars and Backstabbers
A couple of weeks ago there was a abundence of hush chats that included alot of people from the I assumed had never chatted together before. During the time I was in the chats we all I had a great time and it was all done in fun. However, in the weeks following these hush chats there have been several rumors, lies, and controversies to come out of these chats. For instanced, during one hush chat their was a conversation about a family member of another hush member which technically know one knows about. This incident cause alot of confushion, but was somewhat squashed. There are still more rumors and lies being told on other hush members that I think is totally unfair. In my opinion, these types of rumors put a very dark cloud over the hush because people are walking around now not sure of who to trust on the hush. Its a shame that now people have to literally watch your back in a place that was once filled with friends.
OhSoPrecious
03-19-2002, 09:51 AM
As you know, I don't participate in Hush Chats. . and perhaps, I am one of those that are being talked about~!! :rolleyes: (sigh)
PM a sistah and let her know, huh~?? :upretty
Tastey
03-19-2002, 09:54 AM
See there YOU go...
This is how things get out of hand.
Ohso...I was in MOST of the chats...nobody was talking about you.
The thing is that things were said in jest, and innocently taken out of context.
Other people blew sh*t waaaaaaaay out of proportion which only further fueled the controversy.
Feelings have been hurt, trust has been questioned, and threads have been started, basically over NOTHING.
Continue to stay away from Hush chat...I know I chatted for the first time last week...I doubt if I ever will again. :rolleyes:
mystkev
03-19-2002, 09:59 AM
I like the chats, they're fun. The ones that I have been in didn't involve any rumors or anything like that. Your best bet is not to trust anyone. If you say something in confidence about someone it will eventually get back to them b/c that's just the way things happen. Sometimes people play games too, saying that they heard such and such, when they didn't just to start drama. It's up to you how you respond. The only people I can trust are the one's that I've met face to face.
que90nek
03-19-2002, 10:02 AM
most of what is said in the chats is all in fun....and for laughs...
but
if/when they become a forum to just talk about a person or persons...that is when it can get a lil ugly.
i don't think that has really happened though....
Tastey
03-19-2002, 10:03 AM
Originally posted by que90nek+
most of what is said in the chats is all in fun....and for laughs...
but
if/when they become a forum to just talk about a person or persons...that is when it can get a lil ugly.
i don't think that has really happened though....
You are right Que, in my experience it hasn't happened. But for some reason people have begun to believe that it did....and that's what ruined chats for me.
I went in to have a good time...I came out on trial...FUN OVER.
Originally posted by mystkev+
Sometimes people play games too, saying that they heard such and such, when they didn't just to start drama. It's up to you how you respond.
Yeah, I agree. I have been approached like this on many different occasions. Man, if you have been approached like this and I have been approcahed like this then I wonder how many others have been approcahed like this. I wonder if we were approcahed by the same person:rolleyes: This hush stuff is getting scary
mystkev
03-19-2002, 10:10 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Yeah, I agree. I have been approached like this on many different occasions. Man, if you have been approached like this and I have been approcahed like this then I wonder how many others have been approcahed like this. I wonder if we were approcahed by the same person:rolleyes: This hush stuff is getting scary Just put things into their proper perspective. Is it really that big a deal? Will this kill you or hurt you in anyway? It doesn't matter who say things, if you are willing to believe something ain't right anyway.
dulce
03-19-2002, 10:17 AM
hmmm, I've been in a couple of hush chats and it was basically comedy. But I deal with my online comments the same way I deal with shit offline: anything I say about anyone, I can say to their face - cyber or otherwise. keeps everything drama free...way I see it, we are all grown-ass people, dawg - ain't nobody being forced to make or respond to comments...so the hush stuff ain't no scarier than real life...
I agree with mystkev, it really ain't that serious...
A year ago this would not have been a big deal to me, but this is happening so often now that I felt it needed to be adress. I felt like the entire hush fam needed to know there were some individuals out there that are saying stuff to hurt the cerditability of other hush members behind there backs and thats not right.
que90nek
03-19-2002, 10:28 AM
yes...
hush alliances are stronger than ever....
and so are some of the friendships....
but
relationships CAN cause problems ON THE HUSH....
we've seen it time and time again...we just have to maintain our own common decency...and the golden rule.
TRUST.
*new hush tactic employed*
Originally posted by que90nek+
relationships CAN cause problems ON THE HUSH....
Dawg, you posted on this very subject sometime last year and most people thought you were crazy. However, you were right on track. These Hush relationship are really doing alot of damage from within.
dulce
03-19-2002, 10:41 AM
Que, how about adding "act like mature adults"? cuz that backstabbing is so high school - it was stupid then, too...
Tastey
03-19-2002, 10:42 AM
Here we go again...the demise...blah blah blah.
How many times do I have to repeat this. It's not the relationships that cause the demise but how people deal with those relationships.
I am a naturally distrustful person. My motto is I don't trust nobody but my Momma and the Lord, and even my Momma is suspect from time to time. LOL :p
But in having Hush RELATIONSHIPS I try to treat people with the same respect I would want. Everybody doesn't do that.
They have different rules of respect depending on their Hush alliances, or cliques or whatever you call them.
I don't believe in trust to highly...but mutual respect can go a looooong way.
djackso
03-19-2002, 10:44 AM
Originally posted by dulce+
Que, how about adding "act like mature adults"? cuz that backstabbing is so high school - it was stupid then, too...
Keep it real. Handle the hush like you handle real life.
Tastey
03-19-2002, 10:52 AM
Originally posted by djackso+
Keep it real. Handle the hush like you handle real life.
Djackso you ain't know? This is HOW some of these folks handle their real lives. :(
CLSmooove
03-19-2002, 10:54 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Dawg, you posted on this very subject sometime last year and most people thought you were crazy. However, you were right on track. These Hush relationship are really doing alot of damage from within.
WTF are u talking about Famu..... The only thing that does damage to the fam is Post like these.... Why even bring this to the board if it was discussed in a chat area then it shouldve stayed there.....
Damn If everyone KEPT their mouth closed about whatever is/was said in a chat then there wouldnt be any problems.....
dulce
03-19-2002, 10:54 AM
Originally posted by Tastey+
Djackso you ain't know? This is HOW some of these folks handle their real lives. :(
then, that's a fucking shame...:blah:
Originally posted by Tastey+
Djackso you ain't know? This is HOW some of these folks handle their real lives. :(
:confused: :eek: :rolleyes: :(
misha
03-19-2002, 10:56 AM
I can only speak on the chats I participated in.....there was no malicious talk in any of them. Most of it was silly fun.
The problem with the chat that I was in, is that people said things, others said things, the original people then went back to somebody else and said....THEY said this about you. Now, I don't know if that was malicious either. But who do you blame? Those that said it, or those that ran back and told what others said?
Personally, I can do without the chats, but why should we? If you are chatting, then what you discuss should stay there. I don't think it is that serious.
Originally posted by CLSmooove+
WTF are u talking about Famu..... The only thing that does damage to the fam is Post like these.... Why even bring this to the board if it was discussed in a chat area then it shouldve stayed there.....
Damn If everyone KEPT their mouth closed about whatever is/was said in a chat then there wouldnt be any problems.....
Don't you have a birthday to celebrate or sumthing:rolleyes:
djackso
03-19-2002, 10:59 AM
You can't be for real!
Tastey
03-19-2002, 11:04 AM
Originally posted by CLSmooove+
Damn If everyone KEPT their mouth closed about whatever is/was said in a chat then there wouldnt be any problems.....
She 33 now ya'll...Wisdom...ya heard it...WISDOM.
que90nek
03-19-2002, 11:53 AM
tastey...if there were NO (or minimal) relationships...like in the beginning....u can't have that problem with how to handle that said relationship. TRUE.
most hush chats are FUNNY!
CLSmooove
03-19-2002, 11:55 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Don't you have a birthday to celebrate or sumthing:rolleyes:
I'll take that as a Birthday wish..... Now Fuck Ya :fu :hammer
Tastey
03-19-2002, 11:56 AM
Que, but having no relationships is impossible in a community this small.
I mean I work in a small company and I have formed friendships - alliances with some of my co-workers...it's inevitable.
In the beginning...Admin created the Hush...
as with the Garden of Eden...things changed. ;)
que90nek
03-19-2002, 11:59 AM
it's all good.
let's just continue actin like adults......UNDERSTANDING.
hush chats can and will still be fun...and funny. COOL.
*i like that tastey...those subliminal words in all caps...i'm gonna bite that one from u!*
Tastey
03-19-2002, 12:03 PM
Originally posted by que90nek+
*i like that tastey...those subliminal words in all caps...i'm gonna bite that one from u!*
Is that right?
Well...I guess mutual biting has occurred. LOL :p
que90nek
03-19-2002, 12:12 PM
mutual biting....
yes...just don't leave a mark.... :D
Tastey
03-19-2002, 12:14 PM
Originally posted by que90nek+
mutual biting....
yes...just don't leave a mark.... :D
I promise to be gentle....if you respect me in the morning. :upto: lol :p
Bedroomeyes
03-19-2002, 02:27 PM
Well.. I don't know about all the backstabbing and lying going on.. I was in on one chat and had a lot of fun... Everything was cool, got to talk to some folks for the first time.. But then all the he say / she say shit started and I was completely turned off... I've never been one to be in a lot of drama so when you go there, then know I wants no part of it... I say fuck it! People's feelings got hurt cause they said trust was broken, or people were lying, or whateva was going on... Mark that as now you know and keep on moving... I don't know about yall but I won't lose any sleep on wondering who can be trusted on the hush... :rolleyes: :fu
*tastey I like that "I only trust my mama and God and even mama is suspect" Gonna have to use that one day... ;) *
Bedroomeyes
03-19-2002, 02:31 PM
Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+
As you know, I don't participate in Hush Chats. . and perhaps, I am one of those that are being talked about~!! :rolleyes: (sigh)
PM a sistah and let her know, huh~?? :upretty
Ohso... Why you always thinking someone talking about you?? Girl, get over that shit!!! :beating :hammer
que90nek
03-19-2002, 02:41 PM
Originally posted by Tastey+
I promise to be gentle....if you respect me in the morning. :upto: lol :p
well now...i didnt say "be gentle"....i just said don't leave a mark! :D:beating
Tastey
03-19-2002, 02:43 PM
Originally posted by que90nek+
well now...i didnt say "be gentle"....i just said don't leave a mark! :D:beating
Awww sukey sukey now...
Can I call you a bytch??? LOL :p
Oops wrong thread. LOL :upretty :upretty lol
seductive_tee
03-19-2002, 02:59 PM
As always i'm lost and still on the yellow bus....
I've been in a few chats and at times it's so hard to keep up, but i don't recall anyone talking about anyone....
Once again I have to pay more attention!
Originally posted by seductive_tee+
As always i'm lost and still on the yellow bus....
I've been in a few chats and at times it's so hard to keep up, but i don't recall anyone talking about anyone....
Once again I have to pay more attention!
I'm with you Tee, the few chats I got to participate on were innocent or at least they seemed to be. I have no clue whats going on either but I can say this....Its stuff like this that initially gave me the idea that I needed to distance myself from the Hush for a while. Once I found out that folks weren't who or what they said they were I felt like the FAM I had grown close to was all a big LIE. I dont take it serious or personal at all anymore but I dont feel as close to my Hush Fam as I did as a Newbie...oh well.:rolleyes:
HulaSista
03-19-2002, 07:53 PM
Originally posted by Tastey+
In the beginning...Admin created the Hush...
as with the Garden of Eden...things changed. ;)
and once again... another thread... biting into the fruit of good and bad... we will continue to chew and chew and chew and chew and chew ...
HulaSista
03-19-2002, 07:54 PM
Originally posted by Tastey+
Awww sukey sukey now...
Can I call you a bytch??? LOL :p
Oops wrong thread. LOL :lol
you ain't got no damn sense! :cry::D:cry::D:cry::D:cry::D
SoftNwet
03-20-2002, 04:43 AM
Don't say anything on a chat, phone call, PM, IM, or anywhere for that matter that you would not say to that person. If you big and bad enough to type it the be big and bad enought to say it!! On the "Behind the Door" thread it was stated by Tastey that:
The ONLY true privacy is what goes on between you and yourself behind closed doors.
Enough said!!!!
que90nek
03-20-2002, 06:39 AM
Originally posted by Qjai+
I'm with you Tee, the few chats I got to participate on were innocent or at least they seemed to be. I have no clue whats going on either but I can say this....Its stuff like this that initially gave me the idea that I needed to distance myself from the Hush for a while. Once I found out that folks weren't who or what they said they were I felt like the FAM I had grown close to was all a big LIE. I dont take it serious or personal at all anymore but I dont feel as close to my Hush Fam as I did as a Newbie...oh well.:rolleyes:
this is too bad, ms jai....
has anybody else had this experience?
MsMeelah
03-21-2002, 06:11 AM
This type of bullshit goes on all cyber forums. Some people don’t have better stuff to do..
HulaSista
03-21-2002, 09:03 PM
You know MsMeelah, I was on a message board a couple of years ago. I left there. Bullshit caught up to me a whole year after i left. I was shocked! That's when i realized that ... even on the MOST INNOCENT boards, folks will start some shit.
MsMeelah
03-22-2002, 03:59 AM
Originally posted by HulaSista+
You know MsMeelah, I was on a message board a couple of years ago. I left there. Bullshit caught up to me a whole year after i left. I was shocked! That's when i realized that ... even on the MOST INNOCENT boards, folks will start some shit.
Girl it comes with the territory. Some people lead miserable lives and they love to keep stuff going. They thrive off of it. On one of my boards, I have heard that I have had sex with people I have never met, that I said things that I never said, that you have to "watch your man" around me and all types of other mess. When I heard some of this stuff, I actually cried because this is the total opposite of who I am. But I learned that wherever you go you are going to have haters and drama queens. You cannot escape it. You can choose to ignore it or give them victory by letting them see that they have gotten to you.
Tastey
03-22-2002, 04:24 AM
Originally posted by MsMeelah+
Girl it comes with the territory. Some people lead miserable lives and they love to keep stuff going. They thrive off of it. On one of my boards, I have heard that I have had sex with people I have never met, that I said things that I never said, that you have to "watch your man" around me and all types of other mess. When I heard some of this stuff, I actually cried because this is the total opposite of who I am. But I learned that wherever you go you are going to have haters and drama queens. You cannot escape it. You can choose to ignore it or give them victory by letting them see that they have gotten to you.
I could not have said it better myself. Amen my sister, Amen! :upretty
HulaSista
03-22-2002, 08:05 AM
Originally posted by MsMeelah+
Girl it comes with the territory. Some people lead miserable lives and they love to keep stuff going. They thrive off of it. On one of my boards, I have heard that I have had sex with people I have never met, that I said things that I never said, that you have to "watch your man" around me and all types of other mess. When I heard some of this stuff, I actually cried because this is the total opposite of who I am. But I learned that wherever you go you are going to have haters and drama queens. You cannot escape it. You can choose to ignore it or give them victory by letting them see that they have gotten to you.
lol... YOU TOO! i was sent a letter in the mail that this person was gonna tell the WHOLE WORLD how i was a liar. i was obsessing over some guy. that i used her and backstabbed her (we once hung out some time ago) and i was the last to know. This letter had been forwarded via email to every person i knew on the board. the next thing i knew folks were calling me and saying "you never treated me that way, why is she acting like you are so evil"
and i told them: because she has no life and wants mine.
mystkev
03-22-2002, 08:11 AM
I am amazed at the number of crazy people there are on the message boards, it's kind of scary. I bet there's more irrational people, than rational people. I wonder how many people's lives have been turned upside down by some online person that became obsessed w/them. I think I better be more careful.
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