To Sleep With A Friend???

[lightandlovely1]

If you were friends first, how does it affect the friendship?

[mystkev]

First off every guy that I sleep w/is a friend first, but I think it depends on what kind of friend you are talking about. Any regular friend, fine get your freak on, but your best friend that's different.

I think it depends on, why you are having sex. Did you decide to be in a relationship? That I think could make for one of the best experiences ever, when u are w/a friend, they know you and care about you.

But if you are trying to turn your best friend into a booty call, I think that can put a strain on your friendship. I think friends can become booty calls, but not your best friend, IMO. Somebody is more likely to catch feelings that way.

[HulaSista]

it makes one of you catch feeling. even if it is only temporary feelings, you catch them.

it makes the guy scared to "go there" with you like he used to when you were non-sex friends.

it makes you shy to talk in front of him again.

until both persons get over this "entrance in the the garden of eden" with each other, and try and get the friendship back to normal again, it will never bee the same.

[Tastey]

I slept with a friend before, and he's still my friend.

The difference was that neither of us was looking for a relationship or even to sleep together for that matter. We were hanging out having a good time, one thing led to another and we slept together.

The next day, we were kicking it like buddies again because we both knew that was a one night thing.

When I think about it, I'm reminded of what Mia said in The Best Man about her night with Taye Diggs.

"What we had was as endearing as a forehead kiss, it was what I needed, what I wanted."

Only true friends can experience that.

We haven't slept together since, and who knows maybe we will again...maybe we won't. But to me it only made him a better friend.

[misha]

I did it once, and it made our friendship awkward for a little while. We had to sit down and talk about what happened and discuss whether or not our friendship would change because of it. It took us a while to get back to where we were, and we are closer friends because of it.

[SoftNwet]

to get that sexual tension out of the way. There are friends that you may be attacted to and have ignored it for a while, as time passes the tension is too much to ignore. If you both recognize it and do it, then it is out of the way and you can continue on with the friendship.

But if it does not work out like that then.....See Hula's comment above.

[Mocha]

We just knew we should just stay friends......

[D2daO2da]

hmmm.

Let me think...

I haven't slept with any of my friends. I have slept with people that are still friends with me. But none that I was strictly platonic with.

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[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1
If you were friends first, how does it affect the friendship?

The nigga just started acting strange. . . :eek: not like himself. . . as if we couldn't be friends anymore after that~!! :rolleyes:

He wanted more. . I didn't~!! :upretty


(Had a flashback)