I'm a terrible person...

[dns70]

I stood-up a nice young woman for a date about a month ago.

I just didn't feel like it. My interests weren't there and I just didn't want to go through the trouble. I didn't have her phone number on me (I left it at work) so I didn't call her to cancel or anything. I know, that was poor of me.

Anyway, I felt badly about it and called her today to apologize. She just blew me off. I understood, but I still wanted to apologize just for my own conscience, y'know?

Anyway, does this make me a bad, loathsome person with no redeeming moral qualities whatsoever? just curious...

[shtalker]

Atleast you apologize!!

[mystkev]

Well I don't think you are a "bad, loathsome person with no redeeming moral qualities", but you are inconsiderate. I would have blew you off too, she might have really been looking forward to that date. You could have called when you got home that night, but you waited an entire month, Tsk Tsk Tsk.

[shtalker]

Originally posted by mystkev+
Well I don't think you are a "bad, loathsome person with no redeeming moral qualities", but you are inconsiderate. I would have blew you off too, she might have really been looking forward to that date. You could have called when you got home that night, but you waited an entire month, Tsk Tsk Tsk.
Exactly!!

[dns70]

but I just didn't care...

and the bad part is that even after her blowing me off I still don't care...

[nubianx2]

So after you called her to apologize, did that ease your conscience any?

[dns70]

it really didn't make a difference to me...

I had just thought about her and said, "hey man, you should at least call" so I did.

I mean, she didn't deserve being stood up. I was just so not interested in the dating thing at the time.

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by dns70+
I mean, she didn't deserve being stood up. I was just so not interested in the dating thing at the time.

So why'd you set up the date initially?

[dns70]

I did it to quote-unquote "get back out there", but I just wasn't ready. I was trying to force myself out of my fog. But I just wasn't ready to date anyone....

still not to tell you the truth...

[djackso]

You are not a terrible person but what you did was foul. I remember you posting about a woman who didn't appreciate your feelings so why did you go out & do the same thing to someone else? Give respect to get respect.

[shtalker]

I agree with djackson,
Why even go there? You say you are not ready to date so don't even attempt to. That lady could have been a good catch and you have skrewed that up now.

[dulce]

well, this certainly shuts down your other thread, dns...your answer is right here: you ain't ready! nothing wrong with that but try to spare folks feelings while you sort yours out...

[dns70]

yeah, yeah, I know, I know...

[Tastey]

I'm truly disappointed in you. :(

What you did was selfish. Plain and simple. You were so caught up in how you felt that you could not take 2 minutes out of the last month and consider how someone else felt.

Then when you finally did call...it was for another selfish reason to clear your concience.

I know that you are hurting right now Shod, but just remember that the pain you inflict on other people during your hurting time is only going to come back on you later...

you reap what you sow...

[PecanTan]

Yeah that was jacked up, you would not want someone to do that to you. That is all I am going to say about that one. :beating

[swtjamaica]

...you sure are...i thought you were more considerate than that...

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by dns70+
I stood-up a nice young woman for a date about a month ago.

I just didn't feel like it. My interests weren't there and I just didn't want to go through the trouble. I didn't have her phone number on me (I left it at work) so I didn't call her to cancel or anything. I know, that was poor of me.

Anyway, I felt badly about it and called her today to apologize. She just blew me off. I understood, but I still wanted to apologize just for my own conscience, y'know?

Anyway, does this make me a bad, loathsome person with no redeeming moral qualities whatsoever? just curious...

I got one word for you: Karma!!!!!

You just wanna come here and have us agree so you can feel better. Man...........you got issuses!!!!!! (These two threads you got going show that!!)

[dns70]

all about it.

[SoftNwet]

if you are a terrible person. The fact that you got all these wacked assed dates should show you that what goes around.....comes around. The girl that you blew off could have been
funny (this-is-a-must!), quick witted, able to tell jokes or stories well, easy going, relaxed, kind, likable, gets along well with others, doesn't take herself too seriously, smart, intelligent, ambitious without it being too all-consuming, carefree!

And now look what you got!!! lol

[dns70]

Nah, I had a few conversations with her before the date. I was just not interested.

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by dns70+
Nah, I had a few conversations with her before the date. I was just not interested.

Then why not tell her that!?!??!? You knew that you were not feeling her and you could have told her way before you stood her up.........why did you not do that!?!?!?

[dns70]

I made a mistake...

this was the first time I ever stood someone up. ever.

yeah, I know it was f#$%ed up, but it happened. Hasn't happened before hasn't happened since.

[SoftNwet]

talking about "I am a terrible person" what are you looking for, us to justify what you did. If you knew that you did not want to go then say so.............yeah, it was phucked up, and yeah you were wrong. But don't come here looking for us to say "Oh, no you are not a bad, loathsome person with no redeeming moral qualities whatsoever? " just to ease your consience.

[dns70]

you're right soft...

[Tastey]

It never ceases to amaze me the double standards we live by on the Hush.

Some people can come here and say... I just committed murder and their friends will say "It's okay...you still cool with me"

Then select OTHERS can come her and say...I made a mistake...and they get lynched.

DNS...I still think you were wrong...but Damn ya'll...who on here aint? Put the rope away....

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by Tastey+
I'm truly disappointed in you. :(

What you did was selfish. Plain and simple. You were so caught up in how you felt that you could not take 2 minutes out of the last month and consider how someone else felt.

Then when you finally did call...it was for another selfish reason to clear your concience.

I know that you are hurting right now Shod, but just remember that the pain you inflict on other people during your hurting time is only going to come back on you later...

you reap what you sow...

I'll put my rope away when you do!!!!!!

[Tastey]

I believe I made my comments and moved on...you been running this man into the ground over and over and over.

He was wrong...he knows it...you know it...now let it go.

Damn! :rolleyes:

[swtjamaica]

...HE stated that he was a terrible person for what he did...some of us agreed, some of us didn't...that doesn't mean that dns ain't still cool with us...wtf made you come up with that assumption??? if he didn't want our opinions, he wouldn't have posted and expected replies...good or bad...no one is lynching dns...

[seductive_tee]

Why did you wait a month, why not just call her the next day when you got back to work?

And she didn't call asking what happened?

I probably would have done just as she did. Just don't repeat yourself with the next lady.

[SoftNwet]

Since when you been......the DNS police?!!?! You need to let it go....it has been an hour since either one of us have posted. Now if you wanna run some shit in the ground we can start another thread!!;)

[Tastey]

You wait a minute. I didn't say anything about anybody's opinion.

But there is a HUGE difference in posting an opinion and a lynching. If that's not what you did...then MAYBE I wasn't talking to YOU.

I was talking to Soft...she knew it...that's why she commented. But I have seen people post far worse on this board and get defended...and I equally agree that DNS was wrong...I already posted how wrong... but I will not stand idly by and let anyone run someone into the ground over and over and over.

That is not called for especially when we ALL do dirt...some of us just do it undercover.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by Soft+
Since when you been......the DNS police?!!?! I havrun everyone in the ground on this board. Let that man stand up for him self!!!!

No you are right about that...you do get a kick out of running folks in the ground. :rolleyes:

I'm not the DNS police...I'm just sick of the sh*t.

Sweep around your OWN front door Soft...this issue is dead.

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by Tastey+


No you are right about that...you do get a kick out of running folks in the ground. :rolleyes:

I'm not the DNS police...I'm just sick of the sh*t.

Sweep around your OWN front door Soft...this issue is dead.

I got a broom around here for you too...........Tastey!!! If ya really wanna go there!!!!

[swtjamaica]

hold up one MUHVFUCKIN second!!! i could give a FUCK who you were talking to...if you REALLY wanna break it down, there was dialogue going on between dns and soft...it isn't/wasn't your place to come in and say he's had enough...he's a grown ass man, and if he's had enough, then he will determine whether or not he is gonna continue to respond...i can understand if this was originally between you and whoever, but IT WASN'T....jumpin hot with me will get you nowhere sis...b'lee dat!!!

[Tastey]

That's exactly why I said my peace and moved on.

Because I know...just like you should know...that we've both done far worse than stand someone up.

Now do YOU really wanna go there. :rolleyes:

I know I live in a glass house...I got better sense than to throw unneccessary stones.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by swtjamaica+
hold up one MUHVFUCKIN second!!! i could give a FUCK who you were talking to...if you REALLY wanna break it down, there was dialogue going on between dns and soft...it isn't/wasn't your place to come in and say he's had enough...he's a grown ass man, and if he's had enough, then he will determine whether or not he is gonna continue to respond...i can understand if this was originally between you and whoever, but IT WASN'T....jumpin hot with me will get you nowhere sis...b'lee dat!!!

I'm not HOT with anyone...this is a PUBLIC board...I can comment on how I feel about ANY situation.

I'm not stopping YOU from commenting...I believe that was your first response..."we call all say something"....

I'm part of that ALL.

Maybe he hasn't had enough...but I have. So I said so.

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by Tastey+
I know I live in a glass house...I got better sense than to throw unneccessary stones.

But you ain't got sense enough to leave a thread alone when the two beefing parties have not posted for almost an hour!!!!!:rolleyes: And just FYI, we took it to the PM and it is all good so YOU, Tastey, my friend (and I use that term losely) need to leave it alone!!!!!!;)

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by Tastey+
aybe he hasn't had enough...but I have. So I said so.

But the fact is when you decided to say so we were quite done with the whole issue !!!!!

[swtjamaica]

...soft and WHOEVER else who wants to post their comments/opinions, CAN AND WILL do so...some of us won't like it, some of us won't care....when the dialogue actually includes you, then YOU can say so....


Originally posted by Tastey+


this is a PUBLIC board...I can comment on how I feel about ANY situation.

I'm not stopping YOU from commenting...I believe that was your first response..."we call all say something"....

I'm part of that ALL.

Maybe he hasn't had enough...but I have. So I said so.

[Tastey]

Another Hush double standard.

You can only post when certain folks think it's appropriate because they might have settled it in PM.

Or better yet, I can comment about whatever but you can only comment if it concerns you.


Like you yourself said you run folks down on this board all the time, most days...I ignore it but today I wasn't in the mood.

You see because while he was PMing you...he was PMing me...and so were other people. :rolleyes: People who are tired of you running people down on this board but are afraid to say so.

The dialogue does not have to include me for me to say something. If I feel something is right or wrong I or anyone else should be able to speak on it.

You may have made other people afraid to post Soft...but I was here when you got here...will be here when you gone...and Tastey will ALWAYS say exactly what's on her mind no matter who doesn't like it.

That's what true FRIENDS do.

[misha]

Testify tastey.....TESTIFY!

I used to be the first one to accuse you of being soft of dns. I don't like his personality, and to be honest, I relish the bashing posts he gets. But you are right about this. Just wanted you to know that.

I got your back sis.
mish

[que90nek]

i take a 7 hour hush break....

and lookee what happens...

wow.

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by Tastey+
You see because while he was PMing you...he was PMing me...and so were other people. :rolleyes: People who are tired of you running people down on this board but are afraid to say so.

The dialogue does not have to include me for me to say something. If I feel something is right or wrong I or anyone else should be able to speak on it.

You may have made other people afraid to post Soft...but I was here when you got here...will be here when you gone...and Tastey will ALWAYS say exactly what's on her mind no matter who doesn't like it.

That's what true FRIENDS do.

Look this is as you stated a public board and if people are scared to post because of a name of the screen then so be it. Any body that knows me, you included, know that my bark is way worse than my bite. I wonder if when you are PM'ing with them you took the time to mention that?!??!? I have had may PM sessions with you about issues that I know you do not want on the board and there must have been a reason why you felt as if you could talk to me. So when you get PM's about me then you should be as forthcoming with them as you were with me and let them know that Soft has a big mouth..................................but an even bigger heart!!!!!!!

So what if you were here whe I got here, what does that have to do with anything. But you just stated that you can say what is on your mind no matter who does not llike it..............but I can't?!?!?!?!?!?!:confused:

[Vronni]

I agree with others that standing the woman up for the date was very wrong,but it sounds like dns has realized that now. It definetely sounds like you need to take some more time before you get back into the dating game,dns. Don't feel like you have to rush into dating just to please others. You will know when the time is right.....

[que90nek]

i too have heard about this....this....folks being scared to post...

all i can do is shake my head.....because this is NOT what the hush is about. say what you want...YES, we may question what you are saying....YES we may even point out your inconsistencies, but...it will only make you stronger!

yeah...the hush is like medicine sometime....it may not taste good...but overall it should be good for you.

[Tastey]

I tell the people in PM what I tell you. Post it on the board.

I'm not trying to take away your right to say anything. Say what you want...but just remember if you say it somebody - anybody has the right to comment negatively or positively about it.

I didn't like it, I said so. Does that make me right and you wrong, of course not. But I have every right to say how I feel about it.

I'm like this...ANYTHING I put on the board, I'm woman enough to back up, and defend no matter who questions it. You Soft should be the same way. ANYBODY should be the same way.

That's what a message board is about, people hashing out their opinions. I thought you were wrong, I thought DNS was wrong but that's has no bearing on how I feel about L****, or Rashod that's totally different.

[SoftNwet]

Look I said what I felt.....always have and always will. Now if that puts fear in the hearts of fellow Hushers then so be it. I can not or will not apologize for my strong opinion. That is me....you of all people should know that face-to-face I am just as Soft as I can be. Do let the harsh words from time-to-time fool ya...............Soft is really, soft!!!!!;) Ask anybody!!!!!!!:p

[OhSoPrecious]

You guys got five months to squash this. . . afterall, you are rooming together in the Hush House come August~!! :hearts: I'm sure it will be squashed, if it hasn't already. . wayyyyy before then~!!

[Tastey]

Ain't nothing to squash. Just differing opinions.