The Crying Man

[Admin]

Fellas, have you ever cried in front of your S/O? Ladies, how do you feel if a man cries in front of you versus does not cry in front of you.

Holla;)

[mystkev]

It's okay for a man to cry in front of me, just don't do it too much. I had a boyfriend that cried more than me and that's a lot, b/c I cry all the damn time. It used to make me mad.

[shtalker]

Well I don't see men crying as a sign of weakness but that it shows they truly have feeling and are not afraid to show them.

[SoftNwet]

to let down his guard and show it true feelings. It takes us to another level when he feels that he can do that.

[Mocha]

I was riding back from Dallas last night, and my friend and I was listening to Kirk Franklin...and he said that he was really feeling those songs, and he wanted to cry, I said why didnt' you, he said because he wasn't ready to do that in front of me yet. I was like well the emotions you had was the spirit they were not about me, so you should have...but he said he wasn't ready.

I took that as he wasn't ready to let those emotions go toward me...because when a man cries, he is comfortable with you and sometimes that could lead to him lovin you...

I thought that was interesting.

[Admin]

I have not really cried in front of a S/O. I cried when my daughter was born, but I left the delivery room and cried in the hall....so no one would see me.

Other than that, I have not cried. I fell that it's a sign of weakness and that my S/O would see me as a weak as nigga if I was a "Crying Man".

Peace to all the "Crying Men", but I will never be one of them.

Holla

[HulaSista]

mocha...... i agree with you.

admin, as long as you are not keeping it bottled up. even though you doin't cry in front of your s/o, do you at least let it out when you are alone?

[misha]

I was never so touched, and have had no doubts about how this man feels for me, since I saw my man cry when he realized that he had done something that hurt me.

I don't see him as weak for shedding tears in front of me, on the contrary, I see him as being very confident in his manhood. I see him as being extremely secure. I have a new respect for him because of that.

[Qjai]

Ive seen both sides...the man who sheds a tear because his emotions run that deep that he allowed me to see and the cry baby ass nigga that cried ova something stupid.

I like how Soft said it..."to let down his guard and show it true feelings. It takes us to another level when he feels that he can do that."


I just dont like to see one that cries over everything...back in 92, I told my daughters father he was stupid (an argument)...he cried WTF??? LOL :D

[D2daO2da]

I thought about it after I saw boys in the hood. When Cuba cried to Nia and got that ass.

I cried with joy when my son was born.

And I cried when good times was taken off the air.

I cried on the final episode of Star Trek Deep Space 9, Commander Sisko was gone and I cried when Start Trek Voyager finally made it home.

Don't tell no one about those.

D

[lightandlovely1]

I don't think any less of the man who is strong enough to cry because something has moved him in front of me.

[HulaSista]

......when my grandma died, my favorite uncle in the world cried his eyes out (it was his momma). and he did the same when his daddy died. it was amazing. I thought him and my momma was tryna out cry each other. To sit there with my uncle and listen to him cry so hard in front of everyone did something to me. I hope my son cries for me just the same. I had mad respect for him than I knew I could give him. where as, my other uncle (his brother), he couldn't do it. it wasn't in him. but I didn't respect him no less. I just figured that one day. when he is alone. he'll have his moment.

[swtjamaica]

...when the spirit is having its way with him, when he is EXTREMELY sad (his mom, my mom's mom, cousin's deaths), and when he is DYING laughing!! i realized when i first saw my daddy cry (when his mom died), that it was okay for men to show emotion...when it's an s/o, then he is allowing you to see him in his most emotional state...

[que90nek]

crying....
hmmm


i cried at my grandmothers funeral.
i cried when i told God that i wouldnt cry...he sent the spirit to take care of that!

[swtjamaica]

...did you feel less of a man when you cried??


Originally posted by que90nek+
crying....
hmmm


i cried at my grandmothers funeral.
i cried when i told God that i wouldnt cry...he sent the spirit to take care of that!

[Tastey]

I've never seen my Dad or my brother cry. Not when my grandparents died...not when my other brother died. I know they cried...but they hid it.

I don't see it as weakness but they were raised to believe it is.

[que90nek]

i am just not a cryer....i stopped crying at beating #1456 June 22, 1980 at 6:32pm.

crying for me implies that some type of pain is being inflicted....for me...at the funerals...it was painful to see my mother crying...but other than that....

[Andre98]

...a little when my Mom passed away in the late 80s. I havent had a lot to really cry about, and I thank god about that.

[MsMeelah]

I saw my dad cry one time, it was the time he gave me my one and only spanking... I saw one of my brothers cry when my grandmother died. I would like it if my SO was comfortable enough to show his emotions in front of.

[lightandlovely1]

I saw my dad cry twice: the first time my uncle (his brother) and his wife were involved in a nasty, nasty custody battle. The kids were staying with us and after a year or so, something happened and their mother took them - I guess my father knew what would happen (she hid them and I just happened to stumble across one of them about 15 years later) and he wouldn't see them again.

The second time was when his mother died.

[PecanTan]

It's cool it shows they have a sensitive side, as long as they don't get out of hand with it.

[Vronni]

I wouldn't think less of my man if he cried,but I would feel wierd if it happened on a regular basis. I cry all the time-even over commercials and You can't have two over-sensitive people in a relationship(in my opinion)

[que90nek]

i hear some double speak here.....

seems like folks want they man to be sensitive enough to cry, but....some how...he can cry to much....sounds dichotomious.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by que90nek+
i hear some double speak here.....

seems like folks want they man to be sensitive enough to cry, but....some how...he can cry to much....sounds dichotomious.

*scrambling for my dictionary* lol :p

Well, anyhoo. I don't know what that word means but I do know what doublespeak means.

Que, you can do too much of alot of things. That's not doublespeak. Some women like to be spanked...but they don't want thier ass beat.

Cmon...there's a difference between a sensitive man who cries at the appropriate time and a sissy crybaby wimp.

[swtjamaica]

...you still didn't answer my previous question...(tapping foot, waiting)...:p

[mystkev]

Originally posted by Tastey+


*scrambling for my dictionary* lol :p

Dichotomious comes from the word Dichotomy which means: division into two usually contradictory parts or opinions. First time I heard that word I had to look it up. My coworker said it in a conversation, I was like wtf? I love learning new words.

Someone crying all the time can be really annoying, whether it's a male or a female, especially when it's over silly things.

[Tastey]

Thanks Myst

I'm gone have to write that one down. :)

[que90nek]

Originally posted by swtjamaica+
...did you feel less of a man when you cried??




swt...i actually felt damn good afterward.

[que90nek]

but if i feel compelled to cry...i should be able to...without u thinking less of me.

[OhSoPrecious]

I can only remember one of my Ex's being a cryer. . :rolleyes: It was really weird at first, because I wasn't use to that~!!

I didn't think any less of him because he cried~!! :upretty Damn, I miss him. . . (sigh)

[MsMeelah]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Tastey+
[B]

*scrambling for my dictionary* lol :p
LOl.. I was looking for mine too..

[Vronni]

I don't think that I am being contradictory to say that it's ok for a man to cry-just not all the time .That would get on my nerves for a woman be crying all the time, too. I know that I cry easily and I am trying to be less sensitive myself.....