Dating at my age is a damn trip!

[misha]

This is not to discourage anyone, but to talk about what I have encountered lately in the dating game.

I have found that in most of the men I have met that are my age, have mad baggage. Why? Because in most cases, they married young, had a bunch of kids, are paying for a home, are saving for their childrens education, are paying for cars,etc.

Then things don't work out between them and their wives, they get divorced, but are so bogged down with child support, mortgage paymets on a house they cannot live in, paying for cars that he isn't driving, and here I come along. Oh well....

And this isn't just men I am talking about, women got baggage too. Married young, bunch of kids, the whole nine yards. The marriage ends, and there they are, trying to meet men and got 4 or 5 kids with one man, living in the house that same man is still paying for, and you have not seen baby daddy drama until you have seen this!

So what is a middle aged...ahem.... person supposed to to?????

[CD]

I come to the hush and realize that my issues are trivial compared to some of the stuff I read here. Having friends to laugh with about the current circumstances helps out too.

[Tastey]

I've never been married and I only have one child so I want a man in a comparable situation.

That's one reason I date younger men and I love my Boo but Dammit sometimes his age just be wrecking my nerves. LOL :p

However I realize the average 37 yr old single man is either a Momma's boy, gay, or has 2 kids, and 2 ex wives...LOL. :D

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by Tastey+
I've never been married and I only have one child so I want a man in a comparable situation.


Me too, Tastey~!! :eek: I have had no such luck in finding someone comparable~!! :rolleyes:

[lightandlovely1]

I'm feeling you all on the dating issues. I run into more twits than you can shake a stick at.

If I had a penny for every time some game-playing man tells me that he "just wants to meet a good woman" I'd have more money than Oprah. And if he really is interested in a good woman, then he's got so many issues (a zillion baby mamas, no job, still living with his mama, etc.) that a good one will run like hell - lol!

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1
And if he really is interested in a good woman, then he's got so many issues (a zillion baby mamas, no job, still living with his mama, etc.) that a good one will run like hell - lol!

.....i'ma running.......

[lightandlovely1]

Originally posted by HulaSista+


.....i'ma running.......


I'm hauling ass like heck too.

[misha]

And the other thing that really kills me are these men that are still trying to be players....come on now dawg, 50 years old and a player aint cute.

I met a couple of men like this and all I could do was laugh. One would only give me his pager number, and would come into the library with jean shorts and a wife beater on, trying to flex his muscles, with gray hair on his chest, staring these little college girls up and down, got grandkids and shit....

The other, had knee problems and walked with a cane, still trying to holla at women in front of me when we were out in public, put on this really cranky old music when we were going to make love for the first time, you know, one of those groups that is so old they gotta sit down to sing now, some of that Lou Rawls shit... I about rolled out of bed laughing!

now mind you, I am not 22 years old either, but damn! Calm your old asses down! I would have been fine with either of these men, but that playa mentality is hella old, and so are they!

[lightandlovely1]

LOL@Misha. The one I was with last night shows up in a gorgeous vette but his knees were giving him trouble and he could barely climb in and out of it! LOL!

The darn thing was so tiny I didn't want to get into it. Put me in a nice lil Escalade any day!

[HulaSista]

lol@misha.... see.... why 3 dudes over 45 just asked me out? i went to the casino this morn.... man.... i guess i grinned tooooo big when they passed me by. i was like "don't you wanna ask my momma out?" one was 50....

man... that bad knees thing got me dying over here. not that it's a bad thing. i met a dude who was 38 and we were sexing and his ankles gave out AND I WAS ON TOP! lol..... whew... weeeeeee ....

anyways..... i thought with age, humility came into place. perhaps i was wrong.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1
LOL@Misha. The one I was with last night shows up in a gorgeous vette but his knees were giving him trouble and he could barely climb in and out of it! LOL!

The darn thing was so tiny I didn't want to get into it. Put me in a nice lil Escalade any day!

Old ass men in corvettes are like teen-agers on tricycles. LOL :p

Don't they know sometimes you just outgrow things. Damn!

[misha]

mmm hmmm...middle age crisis going on theah...

[Brightness]

My outlook is going to remain bleak. . .I started experiencing the aforementioned phenomenon once I hit 30. . .I try to date men my age but I am forced to stay with those in their 20's.

[misha]

I was reading this thread this morning and cracking up! I hope things are looking up for everyone in the dating game....my situation is better, but I am seeing someone younger.

[mack_black]

Originally posted by misha
....So what is a middle aged...ahem.... person supposed to to?????

you can do one or all of these:
a) go to another state and grab your man....
b) learn another language and grab your man in another country
c) learn to love your vibrator.....

[lightandlovely1]

How young Misha? I'm leery of the youngins myself. We just seem to be on different plains.

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1
I'm leery of the youngins myself. We just seem to be on different plains.

I agree with you on this. My dealings with youngins have been purely for sexual purposes only. They are not relationship material.

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1
How young Misha? I'm leery of the youngins myself. We just seem to be on different plains.

i agree... i have not experienced the sexual end of it as you all seem to have because i don't want to deal with the mentality to get there.





thanks for bumping this thread up, misha. the dating scene for me has dwindled down significantly. and i have matured that much more since you started this thread. the men tend to get worse with the situations they present, and i am only 31. i enjoy seeing the good in them, but i do i have time to 'wait' on that good to come through? not really... am i being mean? perhaps.

tastey said it best: i'm looking for a man on a comparable level. that includes finances, spiritual, thoughts on family, kids, baby parent drama (big time factor) and other things as well...

i can't wait for middle age as a single woman... whoopee :rolleyes:

[misha]

It depends on the maturity level of the young man....
if this doesn't work out, well, I will broaden my horizons....

and umm mack, I plan on using that 3 years of spanish I took.

[mack_black]

Originally posted by misha
It depends on the maturity level of the young man....
if this doesn't work out, well, I will broaden my horizons....

and umm mack, I plan on using that 3 years of spanish I took.

Good for you..... ;)

Dont sleep on a different culture

[Dcrasta]

Originally posted by Tastey
I've never been married and I only have one child so I want a man in a comparable situation.

That's one reason I date younger men and I love my Boo but Dammit sometimes his age just be wrecking my nerves. LOL :p

However I realize the average 37 yr old single man is either a Momma's boy, gay, or has 2 kids, and 2 ex wives...LOL. :D

Hey I resemble that situation..

Im 33, single, no kids not gay, never married. But I spent alot of time playing music, being wild (Punkrock bands, martial arts,racing motorcycles and stuff) and being unemployed (never in jail). Never blinged or hustled to bling, so I was 'Neo soul before it was acceptable' Now I have education, good job, and took the less traveled path to where I am at. Life just teaches you to be you no matter what and be happy. But Im definately no mama's boy, just never met someone I wanted to marry and/or have kids with. Still on the lookout tho. I try not to pigeon hole everyone into categories we think we know then we can step outside what we know into the unknown. Alot of possibility there.

[que90nek]

especially here......

especially here.......

[misha]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1
How young Misha? I'm leery of the youngins myself. We just seem to be on different plains.


Good to see you sis....
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[sistuhchey]

Originally posted by misha



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Did I miss something???

[Brightness]

Hmmm. . .not really in my case. . .I'm riding it out though, I should be on an upswing here realllllll soon. . .

Originally posted by misha
I was reading this thread this morning and cracking up! I hope things are looking up for everyone in the dating game....my situation is better, but I am seeing someone younger.

[que90nek]

Originally posted by nubianx2


I agree with you on this. My dealings with youngins have been purely for sexual purposes only. They are not relationship material.

nubian!!!:eek:

[mack_black]

Nubian knows how to keep it real....

[dejavu]

on the dating scene myself is a trip. All the men/boys that flock to me are 18 -22. I'm like what the fuck. Shit I just turned 34 and I'm like can I get a minimum of 26 here. Damn, I'm not trying to get hooked on or have no little boy hooked on me. And the old one's are just sickening....

[misha]

As I have said, it's all in the maturity level of the young man. I am the original woman that has always said that a young man could only introduce me to his father...and nothing else for me.

But this young man is special. He and I have been friends for 4 years. He has proven to me to be mature, and level headed.

We are simply two single people enjoying each others company.

[dejavu]

You go girl...