Weight Watcher's

[que90nek]

My wife suggested that I try out weight watchers. She says that my weight is going to kill me...

What should I do?

[mystkev]

If you want to lose weight it doesn't hurt to try them out. My co-worker lost about 70 pounds in 6 months and was able to get pregnant after going there. You probably will do fine just cutting down on fast food, I remember you saying that you liked fast food. When I stopped eating fast food every day, I lost 10 pounds.

Do you want to lose weight? Are you unhealthy? You can be overweight and be healthy. Is it that she just has a problem with your weight?

[que90nek]

i am in very good shape
i run, play basketball
i lift weights, do situps, pushups
i have stamina like a race horse

i have gained since my wife met me...about 50lbs.

problem with that is that she has known me 11 years.

[Tastey]

Don't ever lose weight for someone else.

From what you say...you seem to be healthy. If you are satisfied with the way you look then don't change it...not even for your wife.

Remind her she married you for better or worse, sometimes worse is xtra pounds.

Now if it's a health issue I would say find a program that works for you, not neccesarily weight watchers, but whatever works for you.

[mystkev]

Well if you do all that, it doesn't sound like your weight is causing you to be unhealthy. I guess she just doesn't like the weight on you and that was her excuse. If you're happy how you are, stay that way.

[que90nek]

she is just used to a more cut up and defined que....

but it kinda bothers me that she sees me as this grossly obese person....i don't feel like i'm all that big.

[SoftNwet]

You have taken it to the extreme I doubt she see you as a grossly obese person but she wants her husband fit and trim and is asking you to take a step that will help you get that way. I am sure if the shoe was on the other foot you would let her know that she was getting a little thick around the middle.

You may not feel big but she is telling you what she sees. Wenever see oursleves the wayother people do. And 50 pounds is a lot whether it is 5-10 0r 15 years.

[que90nek]

actually...if she gained some weight she would be perfect...

i hear what u r sayin soft....i just think that my college weight of 165...is such a lifetime ago....hell...i was 165-170 all through high school....

i told her to quit cooking and baking me cakes and pies that she doesnt eat...and lawd knows that Que does not waste food! :D

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by que90nek+
actually...if she gained some weight she would be perfect...


BUt what if it was 50 pounds then what?!!?

[Tastey]

Soft are you saying that when people marry the spouse has the right to expect them to always look the same way?

Marriage is so much deeper than that. When I first met my Boo 5 years ago he was very muscular because he had just gotten out of the Marines. Now he doesn't work out and he's just slim.

I preferred the buff look but I would never step to him and suggest he start working out again to look that way.

I was about 20 lbs lighter when we met, and I would be livid if he suggested I lose weight.

Marriage is about growing old together. 90% of people gain weight as they get older. What is she gonna say when his hair starts to turn grey, or he's walking crooked, or whatever.

Love is not about how a person looks.

[que90nek]

Originally posted by softNwet+


BUt what if it was 50 pounds then what?!!?

i might have a problem...

her family is a slim family.

mine is not. it's an uphill battle for me....i work out at least 4 times a week...just to maintain! yes, i know i could eat better but........hell, perhaps i will.

[seductive_tee]

Que, you always say you going to the gym...what you doing when you go there? or are you going to lunch instead....

Suggestion....stop paying for lunch?

[que90nek]

i play basketball.
i lift weights
i do situps
i swim

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by Tastey+
Soft are you saying that when people marry the spouse has the right to expect them to always look the same way?

No that is not what I am saying!!! What I am saying is that 50 pounds is a lot of weight and with his wife in the medical field she is expressing concern for his health. That is all. I know that we all change and our bodies mature but we need to keep that shit in check before it gets out of hand.

[que90nek]

soft...it's been over 11 years!

i was lookin like ginuwine back then...all skinny and stuff!

i just grew up....and out :D

[Tastey]

But he's healthy. :confused: He works out several times per week. :confused:

I think I had this discussion with DNS70 that people assume that if a person is overweight they are not healthy. That simply is not true.

The reason weight kills people is because of high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, strokes.

A man who is working out several times a week is not at risk of those things. She's upset that his 6pack is now a 2 liter, but it does not seem to me to be health oriented.

[SoftNwet]

An extra 50 pounds on anyones frame is going to put a strain on the heart. She just suggested that he may wanna drop a few pounds. I know it hurts for someone to mention our weight but I would rather my man tell me that I am getting a bit thick than to be out in the street talking about how fat my ass is and how he wishes I would lose some weight. She did the right thing by mentioning it to him and letting him know that it concerned her.

[mystkev]

If you weighed 165-175 when you first met and you are 50 pounds heavier, that's only 215-225, depending on your height that should look good. Especially if you are 6'2", that's just right.

[14KBlaqWmn]

I have to disagree. As we age, we do gain weight. That's just nature. I'm sure most of us have gained at least 20-50+ pounds since high school. That does not mean that we are overweight.

I think that for everyone that you should watch your food intake and keep yourself healthy. That means going to the doctor for regular checkups, trying not to eat in excess or a lot of unhealthy foods, taking vitamins, and exercise.

I haven't seen que since last summer, but you're far from obese or being outta shape. As long as you're happy with you and you're trying to keep in shape, then bump what everybody else thinks.

[que90nek]

Originally posted by mystkev+
If you weighed 165-175 when you first met and you are 50 pounds heavier, that's only 215-225, depending on your height that should look good. Especially if you are 6'2", that's just right.


lol@6'2!!!!!!!!!!!

whew....my side hurts.

[SoftNwet]

Originally posted by que90nek+



lol@6'2!!!!!!!!!!!

whew....my side hurts.

You know my ass was laughing too!!!!!

[mystkev]

Originally posted by que90nek+



lol@6'2!!!!!!!!!!!

whew....my side hurts. Well damn, how tall are you? Are you at least 5'10?

[que90nek]

5'10.5 to 5'11. depending on if i am slouching.

i am taller than a lot of the running backs in the pros....and the about the same size.

[mystkev]

Oh, now I see why she said something. Try pilates it will make you appear taller, making you look slimmer.

[que90nek]

LOL

oh my goodness....

this is just the laugh i needed before i went to the gym!!!!

lol

so are u saying that Emmitt Smith is overweight....every slide rule says that he is...but is he?

Is Jerome Bettis fat?

ladies that have seen me....please express your honest opinion. thanks.

[14KBlaqWmn]

I did, but I guess I'm still on ignore. :rolleyes:

[mystkev]

Originally posted by que90nek+
LOL

oh my goodness....

this is just the laugh i needed before i went to the gym!!!!

lol

so are u saying that Emmitt Smith is overweight....every slide rule says that he is...but is he?

Is Jerome Bettis fat?

ladies that have seen me....please express your honest opinion. thanks. I didn't mean any offense, Emmitt Smith may not be overweight, but he is chunky, some women don't like chunky. Maybe your wife wanted a sprinter's build, but got a football player.

I am not saying anything is wrong w/your size, I like big guys, especially when they're 6'2 ;)

[SoftNwet]

I think that wifey is trying to tell you something........"Like drop some weight man or the cutey with the tight booty that has been trying to holla may have a chance!!!"

[Tastey]

Originally posted by que90nek+
ladies that have seen me....please express your honest opinion. thanks.

Well, I've seen you twice now and I never thought of you as fat. But then again, she sees you getting out of the shower and some people are able to hide weight under clothes. lol :p

Maybe she sees something we don't. :rolleyes:

[swtjamaica]

...don't listen to the rhetoric!!! your weight fits your height!!! now, if you choose to become more slim, GO FOR IT, but my maintaining and staying active, your weight will balance itself off...

[que90nek]

well...

i really didnt appreciate it. i understand her concern, but she knows that this is a major issue for me...and that is why i work out all the time....we just need to eat more heathily. i guess.
what is weight watchers gonna do but waste my money...i know that my eating habits should change....i just need to lose my sweet tooth.

and yes, 14k and tastey...i appreciated your comment.

[mystkev]

I was only kidding w/you, about the pilates. I hope I didn't hurt your feelings. The only person that has to be happy w/your weight is you.

[HulaSista]

i see one of two things happening:

either she sees something about QUE that she dont like..... like your personality or your habits or the things you do ..... and blames your weight..... cause she don't want to admit that you AIN'T the que she married.

or

she is saying your body in comparison to your (2 inch) dick makes you look fat.

run with it how ever you please.:cool:

[que90nek]

sorry soft.

but yeah the second thing seems about right.

[misha]

Well que, if this is any consolation, this can go the other way too. As the resident big girl up in here, I have been told that I am not the same woman, and it is because I have lost some weight. And doggone it, I gonna lose some more. This is for me and not for anybody else!

A couple of weeks ago, I quietly ordered a tae bo tape in the mail, and put it on and was huffing and puffing through it. Noodle walked in the room in the middle of it. She stood there, watched me for a moment, and burst out crying. I was like wtf? She said that because I was trying to lose weight, I wasn't the same mommy any more, and she didn't want me to change. I mean she was inconsolable! Crying hard, sobbing in my arms....I was baffled!

Bottom line is this. You gotta do what makes you happy. If it makes you feel good to work out, and you are happy with the way you look, then all is good. If YOU, not your wife, are not happy, you have the power to change it. And you don't have to do alot to change it either. If you would like to know more, I got the couch and the tissues right here....LOL

And, I really don't think the Mrs. got issues about what you are packing que, I mean honestly, if she did, I think she would have said something years ago, don't ya think?

[que90nek]

lol

yeah i know, mish...i was just feeding back into the hype.

the first thing that hula said was actually closer....

[OhSoPrecious]

Que, I think you're fine. . as hell~!!! :upretty But, you already knew that. . .

[Brightness]

What did you decide to do?