What Do You Do???

[sistuhchey]

It's been a minute, for most...I think I know most hold down a 9-5, and yes I am trying to quit working in the next 5 years...by any means necessary.....but for the most part...I've always landed some fair to decent gigs....often being the only chocolate face in the crowd....with no college degree, but still landed on my feet....

I've gone from a hotel night auditor to a accounting clerk, to a full charge bookkeeper to a A/P & A/R clerk to a Asisstant Business Mgr(thanks Hula) Accounting/Office Manager in radio and tv and non profit to my current gig for the past 2 years and 10 months as a Membership Data Base Accountant...fancy name for (bookkeeper) who makes more $$

this has been my work history for the past 30 years...a sistuh is sho-nuff tired...:p Often my goal was to earn more...and work less...lol,lol

I hope my hush family has surpassed my simple beginnings..and have put their best foot forward or their stamp of approval on work ethics, and job smarts...for their off spring to take a look at...and say...i want to do more or better than mommy or daddy....

I believe you lead by example...whether it's your own offsprings or neices or nephews.... Are you being all you can be???

If your children had to write a report or essay on what my parents do...what would they say about you???

:)

[CD]

One responsibility a parent has toward their child is to equip them to be able to take care of them selves. That includes many things, but most important, due to the the economic structure we live in, being able to maintain a life style equal, or hopefully better than how they were rasied is key.

I have two sons and my oldest son is finishing under grad, with the expectation of going on to grad school.

When I asked my younger son was he planning on going to collage, he responed by saying, how is he going to live good without getting a good job.
He is in his second year of high school.

I haven't pushed either one on going to collage, but there must have been something about my life style and their mothers life style where they made the connection of getting a good paying job with higher education.

[sistuhchey]

One responsibility a parent has toward their child is to equip them to be able to take care of them selves. That includes many things, but most important, due to the the economic structure we live in, being able to maintain a life style equal, or hopefully better than how they were rasied is key.

I have two sons and my oldest son is finishing under grad, with the expectation of going on to grad school.

When I asked my younger son was he planning on going to collage, he responed by saying, how is he going to live good without getting a good job.
He is in his second year of high school.

I haven't pushed either one on going to collage, but there must have been something about my life style and their mothers life style where they made the connection of getting a good paying job with higher education.



Definetly on point!!!.....

for my dad was poor and uneducated...but his work ethic was damn strong!!..and he provided damn well for 10 children...I still don't know how he did it....just to get T-diddy in college and out...was a struggle.....so I know in the game of life...as flaky as she may be..at times..I know she'll land on her feet...for she was given the tools, education the savvy, and the know how...her examples of success extend from professor, engineer too doctor..and a whole lot of working class folks including her mom!!...that do work and always have!!

I just wish...they'll hurry up and kick in....:p..probably guilty of too much spoiling.....

As I say...lead by example...higher education..I'm all for..if she should enter a master's program in the next 10 years I'd be overjoyed...or just to get that honest pay honest day ... ..handling her business legally and responsibly...

Some of our youth/teens...can't even comprehend honest work...more less higher education...poor examples...no drive...:blast

[seductive_tee]

Welcome back CD.......Tee blushing big time.

Anyway, i know my daughter would lead off that i'm like a reporter because i'm always watching he news. She would also say that i'm good candle maker who works for the gov't. She thinks i should quit my job and get a store. So in all she might say i'm ambitious.

My daughter wants to go to college because it has been told to her by so many folks that she pretty much needs it to be what she wants to be....a CSI person.

[Pamalicious]

As the daughter of a man who supported his family of 11 kids ultimately and previously having never worked for another man - I come from strong work ethic stock, but I also come from solid entrepreneurship. For my father to live and die being his own boss says something. Yea there were struggles, but that blackman was FREE and I will always respect that.

Coming as the daughter of a woman who revolutionized the black book market and owns the rights legal and otherwise to all of her works (the plates are up in the attic), who constantly has an idea or a plan and hasn't worked for anyone for over 30 years it gets even stronger.

Education was never really pushed in my family beyond HS. The feeling was that it teaches you to get a job, not own something for yourself. Technical school and learning a trade etc. were things, if you just had to go, that were mentioned - irregardless of your academic abilities.

Due to some fluke not a one of my sibilings, myself included, have any real quote/unquote careers. We have jobs and we are all ranging from a little bit to say myself being TOTALLY dissatisfied.

The passions that I have don't make the money necessary to survive in my mind - however, I did latch on to the fact that Education would help me cross that barrier in my mind and I've passed that on to my daughter. She is eagerly awaiting college, though I keep telling her that she might wanna do high school first. She has brochures, writes schools, has picture and sites saved on the computer. I am liking that. I wanted to make sure she had a goal and was going to be in pursuit of something, unlike me and my siblings.

It's never too late, which is why I'm doing my thang to get to what I want to do which currently is Lifecoach and Human Resources. Tired of giving it away for free....

My daughter would say that I worked hard to make sure that she had a seamless life, until she was well on her feet and then I went and qualified myself to do something different. I didn't play the Corporate Game but choose Non-profit and on and off - I released all the different creative sparks I have to round out my life.

[missbuttabutt]

There was never a question as to whether or not I was going to college.

Education is very important in my family and to be brutally honest, a lot of the members of my family look down on people who don't have degrees in higher education. Both of my grandparents were teachers in the West Indies, and then when they came here they each went off into different career fields, my grandmother's being nursing and my grandfather's was as a fire investigator.

My parents are extremely hardworking upper-middle class, and encompass a lot of the values that go along with that. Everyone always knew I was "going to do big things," so there was never a question as to whether or not I would 'make it.'

After undergrad I went to law school in the dual degree program (J.D/M.A.) and now I'm a corporate real estate lawyer.

[sistuhchey]

After undergrad I went to law school in the dual degree program (J.D/M.A.) and now I'm a corporate real estate lawyer.




When you have the means..and we as parents prepare and plan to introduce our children into adult hood...for the most part it works out....Like you said there was never any question.......


finances don't always make that a reality...but it doesn't stop the goals,dreams nor the direction...in which our youth should go.....

there's a saying that I had framed and put on my daughters door at a early age......."Reach for the moon...and if you end up around on near the stars..you've done well"

As far as looking down on folks...awww...WTH...if you ain't O' Rich..or Bill Gates money...IMO...you're only another human being.....that climbed a different ladder of success...was it Bill Gates or the Mac guy that didn't complete college??..But I understand...the comment...for I have a few college bred-professionals in my family....:p

But when they get big headed...I remind them of the time...I seen 'em play with daolls...and eat boogers....:hammer

[missbuttabutt]

Right!

Chey, there are some pig-headed real stubborn folk in my family, and I've tried to tell them time and time again that the only time you should be looking down on someone is when you're helping them up!!!

We are a family of immigrants, and my family faced MUCH discrimination when they first got here. I can remember being in school and kids teasing me because my mother had a heavy accent - they used to ask me if my parents floated to the U.S on a banana leaf.

I guess it's that "new nigga" mentality, that once you've arrived or made it, you forget where you've come from. Like I said, there was never a question as to whether or not I was going and I was going to get an education if my family had to sleep in cardboard boxes! But others may not have been as fortunate...

[seductive_tee]

There was never a question as to whether or not I was going to college.

Education is very important in my family and to be brutally honest, a lot of the members of my family look down on people who don't have degrees in higher education. Both of my grandparents were teachers in the West Indies, and then when they came here they each went off into different career fields, my grandmother's being nursing and my grandfather's was as a fire investigator.

My parents are extremely hardworking upper-middle class, and encompass a lot of the values that go along with that. Everyone always knew I was "going to do big things," so there was never a question as to whether or not I would 'make it.'

After undergrad I went to law school in the dual degree program (J.D/M.A.) and now I'm a corporate real estate lawyer.


My family is pretty similar to that when it comes to owning a home because they kinda in a way look down at those who don't or have never owned a home but have been in an apartment for 10, 15, 20 years......other family members that is.

As for education, college wasn't pushed with us but a HS diploma was. We where always told that once you graduated you were doing one of 3, work, college or get your own place.

[FoxEMomma]

Education was important in my upbringing as well.
My mother, grandmother used to always say
Get some education so you dont have to take no shit off no man.

I've always worked.
At age 12, I swept hair in my grandmother's shop.
At age 14, I got my first job delivering papers. Was good to til the dog chased me then I was done.
At age 15, I was working at Burger King.
16-18, while in High school I was working at McDonalds and running track, and playing basketball.
Graduated had my daughter 7 months after I graduated from high school, went back to work at McDonalds were I became a manager while going to college.
Had another daughter, went back to work at McDonalds.
Got my first office job at a computer place where I went from document prepper, to scanner, to indexer and still went to college.
Got another job, customer service representative
Got another job, Group Purchasing Expeditor at a National Abortion Organization.. Too scary with all the protesters.
Been at my current job for 8 years.
Went from receptionist, to administrative assistant to office manager.
Went to hair school with this job and now I'm a bartender and still going to school.
I'm a hard worker like my grandfather. Its just in me.
I'm not lazy, never have been. Just can't seem to get where I want to be.
But I'll get there.
O trust me, I will.

[missbuttabutt]

Damn.

I didn't get my first job until I was in college - I was 16. But then again, I never had a reason to work..I was such a brat, lol