After an arugument....

[FAMU]

The scenario:

You have had a bitter, shouting, long, drag out, sleep in the other room argument with your mate. Things were said, doors were slammed.

You've talked about it calmly, worked it out, things are back to normal. But you still can't forget what happened.

How do you make up from that? How do you forget that things were said? Can you forget? Does sex make it all better?

[mystkev]

If you did all this talking and things are back to "normal", why would you still be thinking about what was said? It's not over, if I had a big problem w/what they said or they w/what I said, I would ask them to explain some things and I also would explain.
All of this should have been done in the make-up talk.

Sex does not make anything better, I guess you would have to talk again. Trying to put a relationship together w/sex is stupid, it's just like trying to tape a glass together, eventually the tape will wear off. You have to get to the heart of the matter before it gets worse.

[Andre98]

...After 16.5 years, it is still a learning process. I can't say that we have had really hostile arguements, but the flare ups that have happened have required a little time apart, and that can vary from an hour to mere minutes. I always learn something about my wife after that, and usually it involves an aspect of her that I have taken for granted.

As for the sex, no, it should not define the relationship, but speaking for one that is comfortably in it's long term it certainly doesn't hurt. There is an intimacy that is expressed in our lovemaking that goes into the roots of our "marriage tree" (am I sounding like Dr. Phil?) Besides, it's fun to get her into doggie, start slapping that azz saying..."Now, when I say I'm watching the game.(smack)..I'm watching the game...(smack) ... I don't want no back talk..." :D

From "Baby Boy"... " Now get in the kitchen and make me some Tacos!";)

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by mystkev+
If you did all this talking and things are back to "normal", why would you still be thinking about what was said?

exactly.

and why are you sleeping in the other room?

i hate that. just because we argueing don't meani want you to sleep in the other room.

sex don't make it better. it just calms you down long enough to ask the questions you want in a non threaten environment and both persons MIGHT be willing to listen.