What would you do - Pt. 2

[14KBlaqWmn]

Scenario 1: You're dating this person. They are everything you've ever wanted in a mate and they feel the exact same. At some point, they have to go outta town to pursue starting a business. You feel like they're leaving you for good....you get mad....and set the tone that it's either you or the business. The mate walks out the door and doesn't look back.

Within a short period of time (let's say a week), the best friend of your mate comes over to check on you. It's quite obvious that the friend has a thing for you. Because you're angry with your mate, and feeling hurt that they left, you decide to go ahead and sleep with the friend.....not just once, but several times. On the last encounter, the mate happens to come back and catches you, goes off on you and the friend and then leaves.

Over the course of a couple of weeks, all you can do is mope around because you miss your mate. You try to convince them to take you back. Should they? Why or why not?

Scenario 2: You meet the person of your dreams. Everything is all gravy between the both of you. At some point, you take them home to meet your parents. It appears that your parents really like this person and you think everything's just great. Throughout the meeting your mate and your parent don't let on that they already know each other. The cat comes outta the bag when you're at your parent's house and your mate calls and leaves a message for the parent that he/she feels that they need to tell you about their past. You happen to hear that message. What would you do? Confront the parent? Confront the mate? Would you continue to date them? Why or why not?

[swtjamaica]

...mature adults do not sleep with their mates' best friends when they get mad...or at least they shouldn't ...if i was in this predicament, i would have no other choice but accept the fact that i fucked up, and had to suffer the consequences...sexin' the best friend would be extremely petty on my part, and that wouldn't be the way to "get back at" my lover...all that to say that my lover should not take me back...

Scenario #
i would confont both parties to find out why the secrecy...i would then base my decision on whether or not to be fucked up w/my mate on the answers or non answers i received...

[mystkev]

Scenario #1: No the mate should not take me back, b/c not only was I selfish enough to give them an ultimatum about their career, but I cheated w/their best friend. Both things alone are enough reason for them to not want me back.

Scenario #2: I agree w/Spicy talk to both the parents & the boyfriend. I would continue to date them.

[14KBlaqWmn]

In scenario #1, what if you were the person to leave to pursue a business and walked in on your mate with your best friend. How would you feel? Would you take either of them back?

In scenario #2, what if you were the person that dated your mate's parent. Should it make a difference at all? What would be your explanation to your mate as to why you didn't mention it before? After you explain, do you think that that should be enough for them to take you back?

[HulaSista]

scene 1: act 1

being who i am now... i would be convinced they should take me back. however, i would respect them (after i have cried for 3 months) that they didn't.

scene 1: act 2 (flip script)

i couldn't take them back. the idea of not knowing what they are capable of would torture me.



scene 2: act 1

i would ask questions on both sides. then... i would take time away from both parent and mate. i will make my decision in a month or two. it would take me that long to get used to the idea of them having had been together. if sex was involved, i probably couldn't do it. if there was no sex, then, i would be straight.

scene 2: act 2 (flip script)

i would have been known how the parents kids looked and when i met my man, i would have been told him "i dated your dad"... i can't see myself hiding the fact that i knew the dad. i am not THAT good at all...