Cheating?

[lovely]

Is cheating in a marriage the same as cheating in a committed relationship.

Would you leave your spouse as quickly as you might leave your SO?

Those of us who are "Christians"...would you automatically leave your spouse if they cheated. Why or why not?

[mystkev]

I think cheating is bad either way, but it is worse in a marriage.

I would not leave my spouse as quickly as I would a s/o, I would try to work on our marriage first. If I get married, I want to be married for life.

[que90nek]

i just finished that book TEMPTATIONS...and I thought about that....let me give it some thought.

[misha]

I don't see it as quite the same. but if a man couldn't keep from cheating on me before marriage, we would not get married.

Guess that isn't fair, after all, but being in a relationship isn't the same as being married. But if a man commits to me, such as getting engaged, and cannot control himself, that won't change after the I do's.

[lovely]

Originally posted by que90nek+
i just finished that book TEMPTATIONS...and I thought about that....let me give it some thought.

I too just finished this book this past weekend. Gave me a lot to think about. It actually left me speechless...because if gave a perspective that i had never thought of. Thats where these questions come from.

[que90nek]

i recommend that book...i really do.

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by que90nek+
i recommend that book...i really do.

Can i borrow yours?

[que90nek]

yes, come get it :upto:

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by que90nek+
i recommend that book...i really do.

Ditto

[HulaSista]

can a sista get a author name? full title? isbn number? something?

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
can a sista get a author name? full title? isbn number? something?

Temptation
Author: Victoria Christopher Murray
ISBN: 0-446-52792-0

She also has another book "Joy"

[HulaSista]

thank you very very much..............

[Tastey]

I need to get my book back from my sister. :) It was wonderful! I loved it!

Anyhoo back to the question at hand.

Some people take the commitment they make to a marriage more serious than the commitment they make to a relationship. I've known men to consider themselves broken up with a girl just because they haven't talked in a few weeks so it's okay for them to start seeing someone else. Go figure.

For me commitment is commitment. I would not cheat either way.

If my husband cheated before I could say whether I'd stay or go it would depend on the circumstances. I could forgive a one night stand or moment of weakness.
I don't think I could overlook an ongoing affair or a series of one-night stands with different women. That speaks volumes about the man's character.

[D2daO2da]

Cheating in a marriage is worse in my opinion. There is much more vested in the relationship.

I wouldn't leave my wife (nit married yet) if she cheated. Now if she stole my money or talked about my mama.. I'd have to cut her.

There is marriage counseling. If we are in a commited relationship I'd think twice about buying her a ring and taking it to the next level.

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[davinci]

lovely, you know my opinion from the other threads that eventually led to this question.

anything less than marriage is wishful thinking. including engagement.

a promise to a person is different than a promise before God or a legally binding contract (for those that don't do the God thing).