How Long: Question for the Guys

[lightandlovely1]

How long should a woman make you wait before sexing you up for the first time (if she wants you to take the relationship seriously)? Are there any circumstances that mitigate if she doesn't make you wait that long?

[knowledge7]

At least a bout a good two weeks...

naw..

It all depends on the dude.. for me about two weeks...

You can't say that a one night stand might not lead to somethign else in the future

[HulaSista]

light and lovely i like the way you worded this question.

*sitting back with my popcorn*

[lightandlovely1]

Thank you Hula. I'm still waiting to hear what our brothers have to say on this one.

[lightandlovely1]

Originally posted by knowledge7
...

It all depends on the dude.. for me about two weeks...

You can't say that a one night stand might not lead to somethign else in the future

So Knowledge, you are saying for some men it could be 2 days and for others it could be 2 months?

[knowledge7]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1


So Knowledge, you are saying for some men it could be 2 days and for others it could be 2 months?

yep.. Some men look at a woman that have just met.. and they say to themselves..

She looks good...

She is professional.. which they assume she is smart

Damn ..I wonder how she is in bed....I know them professionall women be some freaks....with they man...

Depending on the man...

[que90nek]

for me...it varies with the woman....

it's all about what YOU can handle....whether or not you are comfortable with yourself the next day. I really appreciate a woman that is able to go and get what she wants...I appreciate even more a woman that is comfortable enough with herself...to have sex whenever she is good and ready. and not a moment before.

[D2daO2da]

Waiting has nothing to do with it. A woman should have a list of what she is looking for. discuss all of them and ask the brother if he wants the same thing. She shouldn't be sexual for almost a month. Quality time.. Don't even invite him over to your house. Always meet in public, go Dutch and provide your own transportation. After a few dates in that month, break out the 1-3 year plan. If you both are gravitating toward one another talk about what you want. If he just want some ass... and don't want the same things you want.. then he is not the one for the serious long term relationship. If you both want the same thing.. then sex will happen naturally. Don't get it twisted, if you want to get your groove on.. you don't have to wait at all. but when you want that long term thang put the breaks on. A lot of brothers will tell you the truth and say they want the same thing or they just want the ass.
D

[mack_black]

shaking his head in dismay......


waiting to drop the ass for a serious relationship :rolleyes:
who is to say that once you drop the ass that the relationship gets any more serious than it was before? maybe he might not like what he got and moves on...maybe you didnt like what he had to offer and dont want him anymore.....

I would hope that after you checked dude out and had a good feeling, good vibe about him you would consider dropping the ass...I would hope that it would be a natural thing and not some scheduled event.....

sex is just another aspect of the relationship...depending on how 2 wanna-b luvers are flowing... to me it doesnt matter when it gets dropped could be the first hour after I meet you, or it could be 3 months after I've met you...additionally there shouldn't be a clock involved...that just seems to make it less intimate, less sexy, just an act....

but then again thats my opinion :D

[lovely]

Originally posted by mack_black+

sex is just another aspect of the relationship...depending on how 2 wanna-b luvers are flowing... to me it doesnt matter when it gets dropped could be the first hour after I meet you, or it could be 3 months after I've met you...additionally there shouldn't be a clock involved...that just seems to make it less intimate, less sexy, just an act....



I like that. :beer And i agree.


(Boy have i changed in the last couple of months:rolleyes: )

[djackso]

Waiting period is high schoolish. If we are going to have a serious relationship we are going to have one if we have sex the first night or a year later.

[lightandlovely1]

Gosh you guys are good. I wish you were on my other list. Hope you don't mind if I quote your POV?

[Mocha]

Originally posted by djackso+
Waiting period is high schoolish. If we are going to have a serious relationship we are going to have one if we have sex the first night or a year later.

I have always said that...and I don't regret any decisions that I have made.

I was told by one of the Hush ladies...that is probably why my relationships don't last. :confused: I completly disagree, just like Mack was saying either they will or they won't. One of my longest relationship lasted from us having sex on the first night...and the last one I had, we didn't have sex at all, maybe once after 2 months, now we are not together.

So let it flow.....vibe from that individual

[lightandlovely1]

I think I'm in agreement that if you are feeling each other, it won't matter how long you wait. My longest relationship was one where we had sex very early and I've had short ones where there was no sex. I think as long as you are up front in the beginning, then you should be ok.

[HulaSista]

*crunch crunch crunch *

* reach in bag *

*crunch crunch crunch *

* take sip of soda *

* reach in bag *

*crunch crunch crunch *

[FAMU]

I agree with what was being said about sex is just another aspect of a relationship and that if the relationship was meant to be it is meant to be.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
*crunch crunch crunch *

* reach in bag *

*crunch crunch crunch *

* take sip of soda *

* reach in bag *

*crunch crunch crunch *

RTFLOL

[swtjamaica]

Originally posted by mack_black+
shaking his head in dismay......


waiting to drop the ass for a serious relationship :rolleyes:
who is to say that once you drop the ass that the relationship gets any more serious than it was before? maybe he might not like what he got and moves on...maybe you didnt like what he had to offer and dont want him anymore.....

I would hope that after you checked dude out and had a good feeling, good vibe about him you would consider dropping the ass...I would hope that it would be a natural thing and not some scheduled event.....

sex is just another aspect of the relationship...depending on how 2 wanna-b luvers are flowing... to me it doesnt matter when it gets dropped could be the first hour after I meet you, or it could be 3 months after I've met you...additionally there shouldn't be a clock involved...that just seems to make it less intimate, less sexy, just an act....

but then again thats my opinion :D

...i couldn't have said it better myself!!!:beer

[HulaSista]

so *crunch crunch* what you guys are saying is... *crunch crunch* *swuurrrrrrrrrp* BURP! (pardon me) is that ... it don't need to be timed? *crunch crunch* so..... if she ain't feelin you yet...... and it's been.... like.... 2 years.... this is really okay by you? anthony, come here and bring me a beer really?

if i am correct, lightandlovely, are you askin a generic question or a question for each man to anwser specifically about himself?

*crunch crunch*bang crumples*crunch*crunch*

[lightandlovely1]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
so *crunch crunch* what you guys are saying is... *crunch crunch* *swuurrrrrrrrrp* BURP! (pardon me) is that ... it don't need to be timed? *crunch crunch* so..... if she ain't feelin you yet...... and it's been.... like.... 2 years.... this is really okay by you? anthony, come here and bring me a beer really?

if i am correct, lightandlovely, are you askin a generic question or a question for each man to anwser specifically about himself?

*crunch crunch*bang crumples*crunch*crunch*

LOL @ Hula!...yes this is a generic question. My girlfriends and I were battling about this one again today.

[scoops]

Originally posted by lightandlovely1
How long should a woman make you wait before sexing you up for the first time (if she wants you to take the relationship seriously)? Are there any circumstances that mitigate if she doesn't make you wait that long?

Id say about 3-4 weeks but that depends on how much we are dating