Y is it so many single mothers out there?

[Toffee]

Babygirl said in a thread that their are a lot of single hush honeys with children. For the single mothers what made you have your children/child?

[Brightness]

Well, to answer your thread question. . .for every single mother out there is a single father out there. . .the question is, are they having any involvement in the child's life and/or are they trying to form an untraditional family setting w/the mother for the child(ren) sake.

What made me have my child is that WE were IN LOVE and involved in a committed, MONOGAMOUS relationship. Just because he fell off on his parenting duties didn't mean that I had to the same.

I am about 90% sure there will be no more illegitimate children out of this body because I'm already disappointed that I am in fact a "statistic" by being a single mother and I am not going to be a "double statistic" having several broken links with the father to my children. . . . there's no amount of f*cking in the world that can change that for me.

And yeah, I know this may sound harsh but hey, that's my opinion.

[Toffee]

The question about single fathers is another thread. In my opinion the woman has the final say as to having the child or not. So what made the woman say, I'm having this child?

[que90nek]

good question.

"Just because he fell off on his parenting duties didn't mean that I had to the same. "

well...if he didnt marry u...u r a single parent.

[HulaSista]

when i got pregnant i was with my son father for 6 going on 7 years.

the decision to be a single parent and not marry his dad came AFTER i gave birth.

thangs open up to you...like a pandora's box, after you have kids... you see things you never seen before.

what i seen after i gave birth, i wanted no more of. i broke him off when my son was 3.5 month old. best decision i ever made.

[misha]

well, he did marry me.....and I am still a single parent.. ya know? Some of us are divorced as well as having children with out being married.

I had my child because she was a miracle, and because I was married.

[Babygirl]

Originally posted by Toffee+
Babygirl said in a thread that their are a lot of single hush honeys with children. For the single mothers what made you have your children/child?


Sorry, I don't think that was me who said that.

[Brightness]

Is that correct?

Originally posted by Toffee+
The question about single fathers is another thread. In my opinion the woman has the final say as to having the child or not. So what made the woman say, I'm having this child?

[Reesecup1]

I am single 50% by choice, and 50% by circumstance. Why did I have the child? Because I don't believe in abortions. I made my bed, and was forced to lie in it.

[Toffee]

Sorry Babygirl it was Brightness.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by Reesecup+
I am single 50% by choice, and 50% by circumstance. Why did I have the child? Because I don't believe in abortions. I made my bed, and was forced to lie in it.

I gotta agree with that right there. I love my son with all my heart but basically I had him because I messed up and got pregnant. I was not in love with his father so marriage was never an option for us.

[knowledge7]

so many single mothers because niggas want the gratification of not using a condom, but don't know how to pull out.. so they bail out..

But at the same time.. there are single Fathers out there too.. and they go throguh the same things that single mothers do .....there are just less of them......

[nubianx2]

I always say that I'm a single parent by "de-fault." We were married for a few years before the birth of my daughter, but after she was born he started acting like an ass.:hammer

[Sparkles]

hell even folks who are single parents, be it marriage or shacking who are still playing the single parent role. I have a cousin who is marriage but her hubby dont do shit. He works, but anything in the house, he wont do it.....Will sit around all day and let the kid's mess the house up and she has to come home and clean.

[seductive_tee]

i'll answer later...this single mom has to go get her daughter from cheerleader practice.

[sistuhchey]

not an excuse...just the trurh...irresponsible, dumb, thought that was how it was suppose to be...you popped the cherry...oh my goodness...lawd help I luved me some baby-daddy...turned me aganist my family, had me ducking and hiding, cooking and cleaning, crying and laughing...he could do wrong....

does anyone remeber the group new birth....a sweet & gentle flower growing wild....If by chance......oh yea, I was SPRUNNNNGGG....

Little did I know...and thank god it was 29 years ago...whew!!!

there's really no excuse...even for me...birth control came out in1967

[dulce]

was married AND on the pill...by the time I found out, was already 'bout three months. No turning back then. Happier than I ever imagined that I got him though...and no regrets about not keeping the husband.

[Juicey1]

I had all three of my kids before I was married. I know, I should have been much more careful the second time, let alone the third time. But I have three children because abortion was not an option for ME.

I love my rugrats to death, but if I could go back and do it all over again, I wouldn't do it like I did it the first time. I was 16 when I had the first one, 22 the second time, 28 the third time. I eventually married the last babies father. I wouldn't do that again if I could.