How is it possible................ [Archive]

FAMU

02-18-2002, 05:47 AM

for a woman to use a man for sex? I was talking to a cousin of mind and she was talking out how she had this guy that she only used for SEX. I was like how could that be possible cause I know for a fact that woman are far more emotional than men, especially when it comes to sex. Men have the ability to just have sex with no attachments or feelings. Not to mention that we are guranteed a nut ; whereas woman are not always so lucky. My questions is how can a woman say that she is using a man for sex when it is possible she will not achieve an orgasim? If a woman says she is using me for sex, but she nevers gets a nut and I always do; then who is using who?

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 05:51 AM

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Men have the ability to just have sex with no attachments or feelings.

Where have you been~?? :confused: Women have this ability now also~!! :hammer

But, according to your post. . if ole girl is not achieving orgasm. . then maybe she's not the one "using" somebody for sex~!! :rolleyes: I don't know. . .

mystkev

02-18-2002, 05:55 AM

I can have sex w/o emotions and I usually do. An orgasm isn't all there is to sex, the physical act is enough for me. They are actually using each other. What she probably meant was that it was only about sex, he's just a dick to her.

By the way I've had guys that got all emotional on me, so don't think it can't happen.

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 05:56 AM

while it may be true that we as women are more emotional, we can also be very physical creatures -- just like men. Some times we just want/need that physical closeness that sex may bring and if that is all we want then that is all we are going to take away from the encounter. What you(men) fail to realize is that while we are using you you are getting caught up like you think we are.

Your argument is that since we are not guarnteed a nut every time that we are going to get emotionally attached, but like I said....if all I want to do is get me sum then I promise you I am going to get me an orgasm......maybe 2 or 3. I already know going in that this is all I want from this person and I know that he can get me where I need to be that is why I chose him.......he is going to comply simply because, as you stated -men are physical, and they are going to be hyped becuase a womam called them and not the other way around so they are going to try to "show and prove" when they get there....which is what we are counting on.

Now there are going to be many arguements on this going back and forth but I am here to say that women can use men for sex!!! In this day and age we, women, can separate sex from love and love from sex. And the sooner you, men, can get that through your heads the better things will be. You, men, are so worried that we are getting hooked on the dick that you fail to see that you are getting hooked on the "softNwet" of the mattter. Just take it for what it is........SEX! Now when we say we want to make love then that is where the feeelings come in. But if we are calling at 11:30-12:00 then it is a booty call and please....treat it as such!!!!!

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 06:22 AM

Damn Soft. . after that reply, we can close this one down~!! :eek: :D

misha

02-18-2002, 06:26 AM

I think it depends on the man. There are men that the only emotion I feel for them is friendship. In that case, I can separate the two....sex and love. There are other men, that I cannot do that with.

As far as guarantee of having an orgasm, I have realized that as I get older, the more valid the guarantee. It s very rarely now that I do not have one.

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 06:27 AM

Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+
Damn Soft. . after that reply, we can close this one down~!! :eek: :D

I am just so tired of men thinking that we are so emotional that we can not separate the dick from the heart. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

I can love some one and still not want to sleep with them and I can sleep with someone and not love them......once the fellas can get that through their heads the better. But believe me the man that gets the love, physical-mental and emotional, from me will have the $1 million prize!!!!!!;)

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 06:29 AM

Originally posted by misha+
As far as guarantee of having an orgasm, I have realized that as I get older, the more valid the guarantee. It s very rarely now that I do not have one.

You ain't neva lied!!!!!!

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 06:30 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+
I am just so tired of men thinking that we are so emotional that we can not separate the dick from the heart. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

I don't know about you. . . but, I've been running into some men lately that have been having the problem of separating the two~!! :rolleyes: Hhhhmmmmmm

Sparkles

02-18-2002, 06:32 AM

cause I am guaranteed to get me, regardless, call it selfish or whateva. Now aFamu has a good question because many have talked about not being able to get a Nut. So in those cases who are actually being used?!?!!?

djackso

02-18-2002, 06:59 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+

women can use men for sex!!! In this day and age we, women, can separate sex from love and love from sex. And the sooner you, men, can get that through your heads the better things will be. You, men, are so worried that we are getting hooked on the dick that you fail to see that you are getting hooked on the "softNwet" of the mattter. please....treat it as such!!!!!

Very Interesting!

FAMU

02-18-2002, 07:25 AM

Maybe, my young age and inexperience in this area is a factor cause I just don't see how a woman can use me for sex. I mean how can you use someone that is a willing to particiapte. Soft and Misha, I hear what you are saying and if thats the case you can use me anytime.

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 07:29 AM

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
I mean how can you use someone that is a willing to particiapte.

Easy~!!! :upto: In fact, it's better when they are willing to participate~!! :evil:

You don't always have to use someone that is not willing to conform with what you are doing~!!! :hammer

dulce

02-18-2002, 07:41 AM

it's hard to add anything after Soft put it down so well, but here's my two cents...

a woman can use a guy for sex if the guy wants more than just the ass...I've had this same conversation over the years with male friends and it always seems to come as a surprise that women are capable of this. But we do not fall in love with every dick we meet...basically, anytime you are dealing with an unequal relationship, somebody is getting used...and if you've been told honestly and choose to stay, then enjoy the ride...

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 08:08 AM

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Maybe, my young age and inexperience in this area is a factor cause I just don't see how a woman can use me for sex. I mean how can you use someone that is a willing to particiapte.

You are getting used because we chose to use your dick to give us what we want. Just becuse you are willing to comply does not negate the fact that we could have used any other dick or inadamate object that we had at our disposal. Women have used many things to get them off, such as-the bullet, the rabbbit, dildos, hands, and even veggies but when we want the human factor we use a dick that will comply to our request.

FAMU

02-18-2002, 08:17 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+

You are getting used because we chose to use your dick to give us what we want. Just becuse you are willing to comply does not negate the fact that we could have used any other dick or inadamate object that we had at our disposal. Women have used many things to get them off, such as-the bullet, the rabbbit, dildos, hands, and even veggies but when we want the human factor we use a dick that will comply to our request.

But if I nut and you didn't who had the most pleasue? Who is going to go home with the biggest smile on there face?

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 08:24 AM

it is not about the nut it is about just getting some. And like I said the first time, when we are making the call.......we are already geared up to get ours!!

But even if you do have a smile on your face we still used your dick to get what we wanted!!! That smile just goes to show that ignorance is bliss!!!:p LOL

FAMU

02-18-2002, 08:27 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+
it is not about the nut it is about just getting some ,

Do you actually have sex without the expectation of getting a nut? Am I hearing you right or am I taking this to far out of context?

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 08:31 AM

Oh, hell no, I am going to get my nut but.........there are some women that do not get theirs on the regular and just want some penetration and that is when the dick gets used.

FAMU

02-18-2002, 08:40 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+
.there are some women that do not get theirs on the regular and just want some penetration and that is when the dick gets used.

I don't see myself sticking King Kong, Jr. in some coochie just for the thrill of it:confused: Soft, maybe you are using some dick, but the ladies that just want penetration without the expection of getting a nut and think they are using the dick are just fooling themselves.

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 08:46 AM

there are plenty of women that have never had an orgasm but have learned to ejoy sex any way so, if they only need penetration and are not looking to get a nut then ole boy got used. Do not think that for one minute that just because you get a nut that you were not used. We want you get yours as well that helps you to justify the fact that you were just a booty call.

FAMU

02-18-2002, 08:51 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+
Do not think that for one minute that just because you get a nut that you were not used. We want you get yours as well that helps you to justify the fact that you were just a booty call.

Use me all you want.

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 08:53 AM

Now you see how it IS possible!!!!;) :cool: :p

You just do not feel used, that is how women stroke a mans ego
we let you think that it was all for you, but in reality is was all about us in the first place.

Give me another topic.....that was fun!!!:)

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 08:56 AM

I just hope he really understands it now~!! :rolleyes: :D

D2daO2da

02-18-2002, 09:58 AM

Women and men alike are capable of making booty calls. Yes women can pencil dick in on their schedule without strings attached. There are plenty of them on Black Planet.. lol

Other than that you have to take it for what it's worth.. it's just sex. I have had giels call me or email me with a day to come over and kick it. So I check it against my schedule and handle my business. I may not hear from them for weeks or months.. but the next point of contact is for another meeting. Simple as that.

D

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 10:03 AM

Originally posted by D2daO2da

Other than that you have to take it for what it's worth.. it's just sex. I have had giels call me or email me with a day to come over and kick it. So I check it against my schedule and handle my business. I may not hear from them for weeks or months.. but the next point of contact is for another meeting. Simple as that.

D

And you know that they just want the dick and you have come to a mutual understanding and it works, right?!!?

Melotic

02-18-2002, 10:06 AM

They keep falling in love with me...

I have not met one women in my life that can just have sex, without emotions...

misha

02-18-2002, 10:10 AM

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Soft and Misha, I hear what you are saying and if thats the case you can use me anytime. [/B]

You betta quit playing!!!!!

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 10:11 AM

Originally posted by Melotic+
I have not met one women in my life that can just have sex, without emotions...

Being able to separate the two comes with maturity........notice I said maturity, not age. Once you have matured enough to know your body then you also know your mind and are able to see sex for what it is with whoever you do it with. You know a booty call from a genuine interest and can differienciate making love from phucking.

dulce

02-18-2002, 10:18 AM

They keep falling in love with me...

damn, Mel, like that? you must be puttin' it on 'em!:p

que90nek

02-18-2002, 10:25 AM

Originally posted by Melotic+
They keep falling in love with me...

I have not met one women in my life that can just have sex, without emotions...

well....

hmmmm....

i agree, melotic. i think some women realize that all the man wants them for is a booty call...they too try to play the game...eventually the woman starts feeling used and lonely....and gets depressed and wishes she had someone for real.

FAMU

02-18-2002, 10:26 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+
Now you see how it IS possible!!!!;) :cool: :p

You just do not feel used, that is how women stroke a mans ego
we let you think that it was all for you, but in reality is was all about us in the first place.

My wife just informed me that I have been used on a regular basis:eek:

djackso

02-18-2002, 10:28 AM

Women learn to separate love & sex after years of being used themselves but in general most women have sex for attention & affection. It's not until women are in their 30's that they want a nut like a man.

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 10:35 AM

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+

My wife just informed me that I have been used on a regular basis:eek:
http://www.theunholytrinity.org/cracks_smileys/contrib/blackeye/lol.gif
Boy you got me rolling over here!!!!!!

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 10:36 AM

Originally posted by djackso+
It's not until women are in their 30's that they want a nut like a man.

That is when we realize that is what you men have been doing for years and we just get with the program and get ours too!!!

Sparkles

02-18-2002, 10:38 AM

Mel, I think it depends on how many times you keep having sex with these allege friends. I have done it in the past, but wouldn't be able handle the emotion part for a long period of time....

Originally posted by Melotic+
They keep falling in love with me...

I have not met one women in my life that can just have sex, without emotions...

que90nek

02-18-2002, 10:40 AM

finally the truth starts to come out....
thank you sparkles...

Melotic

02-18-2002, 10:41 AM

Originally posted by que90nek+

well....

hmmmm....

i agree, melotic. i think some women realize that all the man wants them for is a booty call...they too try to play the game...eventually the woman starts feeling used and lonely....and gets depressed and wishes she had someone for real.

It has become the norm from men, especially Black men... Women have learn to accept it, though they really don't want too... The Majority!

FAMU

02-18-2002, 10:42 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+

That is when we realize that is what you men have been doing for years and we just get with the program and get ours too!!!

Yeah, by that time the program has gotton old to us. So yall go ahead and have yall little fun.

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 10:42 AM

Originally posted by que90nek+
finally the truth starts to come out....
thank you sparkles...

What are you trying to say Que?!?!? I do not think that any one could to a long term Booty call arrangement with out getting caught up. That is why you have to have several Bootys to call, that way you are able to keep the emotion out of it.

Sparkles

02-18-2002, 10:46 AM

I almost agreed completely with this reply, until you made yu last statement!! Maybe I was one of the lucky once, I have been having "nut's" since I literally start having sex at 18.

You are so on point though about women learning how to seperate sex....

Originally posted by djackso+
Women learn to separate love & sex after years of being used themselves but in general most women have sex for attention & affection. It's not until women are in their 30's that they want a nut like a man.

Melotic

02-18-2002, 10:46 AM

Originally posted by Sparkles+
Mel, I think it depends on how many times you keep having sex with these allege friends. I have done it in the past, but wouldn't be able handle the emotion part for a long period of time....

I aint mack'in...

But, this misconception women want to believe... That they can have sex without emotion, it's called...
Reverse Psychology...

que90nek

02-18-2002, 10:49 AM

ya'll are double speaking....

first u say you can do it without emotion....and now i am reading that u can only do it for a little bit without emotion!
which one is it...

and the better it is the quicker your emotion comes? or is it after 2 times....the emotion comes...

lol...you are kiddin yourself.

dulce

02-18-2002, 10:56 AM

gotta disagree, que, because I have been told by more than one guy that I act like a dude...cuz I CAN sleep with someone and not get caught up...I don't play games with myself by trying to act nonchalant - if I feel something, then I come out with it but haven't had a problem separating emotion from sex...and I gets mine everytime, too!

and I KNOW I'm not the only female out there like this...

djackso

02-18-2002, 10:56 AM

Soft is the exception but a woman does not have sex without a emotional or financial motive involved.

Melotic

02-18-2002, 10:57 AM

Reverse Psychology...

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 11:01 AM

Originally posted by djackso+
Soft is the exception but a woman does not have sex without a emotional or financial motive involved.

Huh?!??!:confused:

djackso

02-18-2002, 11:05 AM

I know women have sex for emotional rewards & I know women have sex for money but rarely does a woman have sex just for sex & keep that way. Soft, maybe you can but women in general can't. One day she will ask for more than sex.

FAMU

02-18-2002, 11:06 AM

What I think Jack is saying is that woman either have sex because they really like the dude or they have sex for some sort of financial gain.(ex. dinner, movie, bills, etc.)

Jack, I think you are treading into hostile teritory because not many hush woman would admit that they have had sex for money.

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 11:07 AM

Originally posted by djackso+
I know women have sex for emotional rewards & I know women have sex for money but rarely does a woman have sex just for sex & keep that way. Soft, maybe you can but women in general can't. One day she will ask for more than sex.

I never said that I do not have sex for those reason that you listed but I also know when I am doing it just to release some stress and not for any other reasons.

mystkev

02-18-2002, 11:12 AM

Well I am 23 years old, I can have sex without emotions or financial motivation. I have been able to do this for the past 4 years. I have a booty call that has lasted for over 2 years and it is about to end b/c his ass is in love with me.

There are plenty of women that can separate emotions from sex. I do not want anything from the guy other than his dick, no relationshiop and no money. It's not about age it is about the woman herself.

Brightness

02-18-2002, 11:55 AM

a multi-orgasmic woman is going to climax.

When I was younger and in college, I could do this (and I ALWAYS came but sometimes he didn't) but as I matured and got older, I realized it really didn't serve a purpose for ME . . .

dulce

02-18-2002, 11:59 AM

:confused: funny how the fellas ASK us what we think and then proceed to TELL us that what we think...maybe your opinions apply to the females in your experiences but just as I don't paint all brothas with the same brush, please don't do it to us...there are exceptions to every situation...

mystkev

02-18-2002, 12:04 PM

Originally posted by dulce+
:confused: funny how the fellas ASK us what we think and then proceed to TELL us that what we think...maybe your opinions apply to the females in your experiences but just as I don't paint all brothas with the same brush, please don't do it to us...there are exceptions to every situation...
Thank You! Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!

Melotic

02-18-2002, 12:12 PM

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 12:14 PM

Originally posted by Melotic+

So, that is way find it hard to believe... I haven't had as many a Hugh Hefner, but I have had my share...

And they all have gotten caught up?? Come on :rolleyes: :rolleyes: !!!!

FAMU

02-18-2002, 12:26 PM

Originally posted by softNwet+

And they all have gotten caught up?? Come on :rolleyes: :rolleyes: !!!!

Oh, a man can't have it like that?

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 12:29 PM

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+

Oh, a man can't have it like that?

Oh, heeeeeeeellllllllll No!!!!! Not every woman thinks your dick is a bar of gold!!!!

FAMU

02-18-2002, 12:33 PM

Originally posted by softNwet+

Oh, heeeeeeeellllllllll No!!!!! Not every woman thinks your dick is a bar of gold!!!!

Its obvious you have not had any of my dick yet:rolleyes:

SoftNwet

02-18-2002, 12:43 PM

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+

Its obvious you have not had any of my dick yet:rolleyes:

And never will!!!!!:fu

seductive_tee

02-18-2002, 12:59 PM

I used a man for his tongue...and he obliged each and every time.

Melotic

02-18-2002, 01:17 PM

Originally posted by softNwet+

And they all have gotten caught up?? Come on :rolleyes: :rolleyes: !!!!

You are en~titled to your opinion...

But, that's what I said, aint it...

que90nek

02-18-2002, 01:22 PM

melotic...i certainly understand....

but i don't think it had anything to do with these TWO INCHES!....it was more about the possibility of....the possibility....of ME.

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 01:35 PM

Originally posted by que90nek+
and the better it is the quicker your emotion comes? or is it after 2 times....the emotion comes...

Perhaps, it happens somewhere between the 2nd and 3rd time~!! :rolleyes:

Fellas. . it is extremely possible. . okkkaaaaaaay~?? :blah: :hammer :D Don't fool yourselves~!!

Andre98

02-18-2002, 01:51 PM

Everybody must be off today and on the Hush! Famu, man, I can only hope you are playing devil's advocate and don't really seem so clueless, broad sweeping women with that generalization.

When the thread is this long, I dont even try to read all the other replies, so I'm sure someone said this already. But just like there are women looking for emotional commitment, and when they think it might be coming, they go with the sex in the meantime, so there are men that do the same. Would if help your understanding it its a ugly man/fine woman scenario? When i was single, I wish there were women that would use me just for sex, instead of all the mixed up, emotional games that were played. And...if the man is doing his job, the female should get her nut from his licking before he sticks it, and still get a few before he's done.

dulce

02-18-2002, 02:02 PM

Mel, my point exactly - we can each only speak from our own experiences...so I don't doubt what's happened to you but by the same token, I ask that my (and others) experiences be given validity, too!

SoftNwet

02-19-2002, 04:39 AM

Originally posted by dulce+
Mel, my point exactly - we can each only speak from our own experiences...so I don't doubt what's happened to you but by the same token, I ask that my (and others) experiences be given validity, too!

And I second that!!!:hammer

Tastey

02-19-2002, 08:11 AM

Men (even Hush men) don't understand women. LOL

Let me break it down for you fellas. A woman can use you for sex if sex is all she wants.

The problem comes in when men say they want sex, but act like they are in a relationship.

Man says in the beginning. I just want sex, the woman says Cool. Then the man starts taking the woman out to eat, to movies, chillin at the crib, spending the night. The woman starts to feel for this man...they he says "I told you in the beginning all I wanted was sex...you just couldn't seperate the two"

No, no, no my brother. You were having ALOT more than sex, so apparently you wanted ALOT more than sex but you didn't want a RELATIONSHIP. You wanted to act like you were in a RELATIONSHIP while still being free to f*ck other women. But you could not be upfront and say that.

And that is where things went critically wrong.

I promise you brothers if you go to simply have sex with a woman, and get up and go home. And that's ALL you do. No cuddling, no talking, leave the romance and candles at home.This woman is not gonna catch feelings for you. Why would she want YOU when she don't even KNOW you. Sorry but ain't no d*ck that good. Stop kidding yourselves.

Men are EGO driven. Their egos won't let them accept that they have been used neither will it allow them to think that if any woman got some of their bomb d*ck she would have to catch feelings. LOL Whatever man...whatever!!! LOLOLOLOLOL :p

SoftNwet

02-19-2002, 08:28 AM

Where were you when I needed you yesterday!?!?!! But thank you for that. Hopefully they will see clearly now!!!

Tastey

02-19-2002, 08:33 AM

Originally posted by softNwet+
Where were you when I needed you yesterday!?!?!! But thank you for that. Hopefully they will see clearly now!!!

Girl, I'm at home sick...need to have my butt in the bed instead of Hushing. lol Yesterday all I could do was hold my head up long enough to read. lol

SoftNwet

02-19-2002, 08:48 AM

Originally posted by Tastey+

Girl, I'm at home sick...need to have my butt in the bed instead of Hushing. lol Yesterday all I could do was hold my head up long enough to read. lol

Feel better Boo!!! Glad you were able to come back and represent!!!!;)

HulaSista

02-19-2002, 11:42 AM

Originally posted by Tastey+
Their egos won't let them accept that they have been used neither will it allow them to think that if any woman got some of their bomb d*ck she would have to catch feelings. LOL Whatever man...whatever!!! LOLOLOLOLOL :p

BAM! That is it right there. I can tell you your dick was the bomb, but that has DOES NOT MEAN that i want you as my husband.

That just mean: YOUR DICK IS THE BOMB, can i schedule you in for another round in 2 weeks?

I know a guy right now who says he KEEPS getting used because every sista he gets' with, he tells them he wants a relationship, and 6 months later, they tell him "i'm sorry, i only used you for sex". dude is foine and yet, he can't get no proper love.

men CAN and DO get used ... every day