Why are you still single? [Archive]

FAMU

02-17-2002, 02:28 PM

This question is for alll the ladies and fellas that are single right now. Are u single by choice? If so, what are you waiting on? Are you waiting on Ms. or Mr. Right? Do you prefer to play the field? If you are playing the field why? Why are you still single?

mystkev

02-17-2002, 03:16 PM

I am single by choice and I like to play the field. I like meeting and mating w/different people. I cannot see myself settling down w/one guy (maybe in a couple of yrs). I could also say that I am waiting for the right guy to come along and since he hasn't I play the field.

misha

02-18-2002, 06:59 AM

I have been married before, and am in no rush to go there again. Men in my age bracket, have usually been married before also, and have kid issues, marriage issues (20 years of marriage comes with much baggage okay?) so, I enjoy their company without wanting more than that.

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 07:04 AM

I am single by choice, not by chance~!!

FAMU, It has a lot to do with those PAST HEARTBREAKS you talked about in your thread~!! :rolleyes:

I've never been married, but it's been five years since I've been in a relationship. . . I just feel like I'm taking a break now. . . from all the headaches that come with relationships~!! :(

So, now I just see whomever whenever I feel like being bothered~!! :upto:

And, when I get ready to settle down. . . I'll just wait til the Lord send me somebody~!! :upretty

dulce

02-18-2002, 08:03 AM

definitely by choice!

been married, have a child, so in no rush to do that...but I also don't settle for less than I deserve so until I find someone that I connect with on all levels, then staying single...

Brightness

02-18-2002, 11:00 AM

I am 50% single by choice and 50% by circumstances. I've been single for over 6 years and just chillin', not always happy about it and yes, I get lonely but I don't let that lead me into meaningless sexual encounters, those just aren't fulfilling long-term and they desensitize you, in my opinion

Playing the field for me isn't an option for me (though some would say I am) since I know I'm not having sex. I don't even get to the point of liking the men I've gone out with enough to want to do that. The one man that I did meet two years ago was headed 2,000 miles away. I don't think I'm waiting but if I'm available this time next year (like something is going to really change after all this time :rolleyes: ) I'd like to see what could happen with that.

Aww, who am I trying to fool. . .I'm single 'cause don't nobody want my ass! :blah:

seductive_tee

02-18-2002, 02:32 PM

Single by choice...as, i'm a patient person...no need to rush anything or anyone.

dulce

02-18-2002, 02:35 PM

Aww, who am I trying to fool. . .I'm single 'cause don't nobody want my ass!

Awww, Bright - that cain't be true! I b'lived airything else up to this...quit playin' girl!:p

Vronni

02-18-2002, 03:34 PM

I'm single by choice-I'm not trying to settle- but there's not alot to choose from around here,either.....

OhSoPrecious

02-18-2002, 04:21 PM

Vronni, Que's been trying to get you out of Oregon~!! ;) Wait a minute~!! It is Oregon, right~?? :eek: I see P-town now. . that's where I am~!! :upretty Girl, where you at~??

Yeah Bright, quit playin girl~!! :D

nubianx2

02-19-2002, 04:38 AM

Single by choice. I've done the marriage thing and have a child, and don't plan on ever having any more. I'm not opposed to marriage again, it's just not a priority.

Tastey

02-19-2002, 06:19 AM

I am single partly by choice and partyly by circumstance.

By choice because I have turned down serious marriage proposals because either I didn't love the person or they just were not the right person, or because they came along at a point in my life when I didn't want to be married.

Circumstance also because now that I feel I am ready to be married, and would like to be married, it hasn't happened yet. I'm sure that it will...in God's own time. :p

Vronni

02-19-2002, 08:00 AM

Ohso,I'm in good ol' Portland (aka P-town), Oregon

02-19-2002, 09:36 AM

Married a long ass time. Every woman I get close to wants too much damn attention and then I feel like I'm married all over again. Why you don't call, what you doing this week-end, when am I going to see you.

So I spend most of my time now laying in the cut, until I see something I want to check out. Then I move. I have a hard time seperating out the crazy ones. I mix them up with the freaks.

HulaSista

02-19-2002, 11:06 AM

Originally posted by mystkev+
I am single by choice and I like to play the field. I like meeting and mating w/different people. I cannot see myself settling down w/one guy (maybe in a couple of yrs). I could also say that I am waiting for the right guy to come along and since he hasn't I play the field.

agree... plus... it's fun...

HulaSista

02-19-2002, 11:12 AM

Originally posted by CD+
Why you don't call, what you doing this week-end, when am I going to see you.

when we doing that.... we just makin convo..... we just bein nosey. you know you like it! :D

Originally posted by CD+
I have a hard time seperating out the crazy ones.

oh! that's easy boo! just listen to how they talk to you in the first 20 minutes of a phone conversation. they tell you everything you need to know!

sistuhchey

02-19-2002, 12:36 PM

Originally posted by CD+

I have a hard time seperating out the crazy ones. I mix them up with the freaks. [/B]

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Next thing you know this crazy-freak mo-fo...saying we're in a relationship?????... and you're my woman.....WTF???? :blah: :blah: ....Chey back-stepping and moon-walking out the door!!!...NOT!!!

knowledge7

02-21-2002, 08:07 AM

Originally posted by Brightness+
I am 50% single by choice and 50% by circumstances. I've been single for over 6 years and just chillin', not always happy about it and yes, I get lonely but I don't let that lead me into meaningless sexual encounters, those just aren't fulfilling long-term and they desensitize you, in my opinion

Playing the field for me isn't an option for me (though some would say I am) since I know I'm not having sex. I don't even get to the point of liking the men I've gone out with enough to want to do that. The one man that I did meet two years ago was headed 2,000 miles away. I don't think I'm waiting but if I'm available this time next year (like something is going to really change after all this time :rolleyes: ) I'd like to see what could happen with that.

Aww, who am I trying to fool. . .I'm single 'cause don't nobody want my ass! :blah:

Feeling it

Brightness

02-21-2002, 03:41 PM

In that case. . .can I get a. . .um. . .uh. . .:idea. . . .FAVOR?
Originally posted by knowledge7

Feeling it

knowledge7

02-22-2002, 04:13 AM

Originally posted by Brightness+
In that case. . .can I get a. . .um. . .uh. . .:idea. . . .FAVOR?

If you can last.....

lightandlovely1

02-23-2002, 07:40 AM

I am single by circumstance and by choice.

I would like to have a SO but I just haven't met the one for me. I date quite a bit and I have a good time with it. I'm meeting a lot of nice guys which makes me realize that there are actually quite a few "good" black men out there - I'll just have to wait until I meet the one for me. I meet guys who have everything that I would like except we have no chemistry together.

lightandlovely1

02-23-2002, 08:00 AM

swtjamaica

02-23-2002, 07:34 PM

...as mr or mrs right...there are people out there that are right for you, and there are people out there that are so not in tune with themselves that they end up creating some of the aforementioned heartbreak...i'm single by choice right now...the last encounter i had was quite confusing to me, and i am chillin and doing another internal check to make sure that it's not something in me that is causing me to attract the "frogs" of life...

shtalker

04-12-2010, 10:40 AM

^^^bump^^^

Brightness

04-13-2010, 10:56 AM

Wow.... 8 yrs later and I'm (still) 'that chick' though reasoning has changed the balance really hasn't shifted all that much.... True Capricorn tendencies make it hard to settle or put myself into certain relationships (no drama)

mystkev

04-13-2010, 11:09 AM

Now that I am 31 I am more interested in getting married and starting a family. I have been focused on school for a while and haven't had much of a social life in the last few years. Now that it's all behind me hopefully I can get out more and meet someone that makes me happy.

shtalker

04-13-2010, 06:45 PM

I guess for my is that I just made some bad decisions and not been true to myself about what I wanted. I have learned over the past 2 years that I need to concentrate on me and all other things will follow. I need to strengthen my relationship with God and he surely will make things right!!

mystkev

04-15-2010, 10:43 AM

I am thinking about asking my father to find me a husband. My mom says that's not a good idea, because my dad has bad taste. LOL.

She says I know what you like, I told her well get to it, find my man. She says she has been praying for me. LOL.

HulaSista

06-03-2010, 05:02 PM

by hard choice - i reversed back to my fantasies of a knight in shining armor and i'll stay single til i get em! lol

BLACK SINBAD

06-09-2010, 12:24 PM

by hard choice - i reversed back to my fantasies of a knight in shining armor and i'll stay single til i get em! lol

Good luck wit dat. Dont be like Chilli and have so so so many terms that you chase your Prince Charming away.

sistuhchey

06-09-2010, 02:53 PM

Good luck wit dat. Dont be like Chilli and have so so so many terms that you chase your Prince Charming away.

I'm hoping it works out with white-boy Bill...between Usher, merriweather..and baby daddy...I believe she "may" be through with brotha's....:p

zuriyahe

06-09-2010, 06:52 PM

Well, I hope she doesn't write off the brothas. There are good brothas out there.

The objective is to find love and a life partner...and if a brotha can do it, then great. But I also do think that she should be open to getting love wherever she can get it....even if that means that she should go outside of her race. She get's this brotha's full support to find good love wherever she can get it...and to NOT settle for BS from anyone!

I do agree with Blacksinbad in that placing unrealistic expectations can backfire...but placing too low expectations can be just as bad. It's all about ballance.

HulaSista

06-10-2010, 12:06 PM

Good luck wit dat. Dont be like Chilli and have so so so many terms that you chase your Prince Charming away.

ha ha... prince charming has to show up for that to happen. :chicken

Brightness

06-11-2010, 07:06 AM

zuriyahe

06-11-2010, 08:17 AM

I'm waiting on the day that I strike physical attraction (EMPHASIS ON PHYSICAL) off my list so until then..... Unless of course, the man is willing to maintain a sex-free relationship because I'm not desiring bedding down with an "inferior body".

Its true.....

I...I...uh...hmmm. Where do I start?

By the way, we all have our personal "requirements", so I am not debating one's personal standards. But I am curious as to what do you consider a "Inferior body" as supposed to "Standard" or "Superior" body? Well, I know that I have a standard to inferior body, but given your above requirements, I would assume that you would have "specs" on what your ideal physical mate would have to fill...and that would fill your physical requirements. Do you also have "emotional compatibility" specs as well?

Brightness

06-11-2010, 09:37 AM

Ideal is a whole different category from inferior. My definition of inferior is subjective but correlates to my own body type. And at this time that doesn't include men who are simply satisfied or comfortable with how their body may look regardless of its true visual state.

seductive_tee

06-18-2010, 10:30 AM

Cause i'm not really looking...plus i'm in love with someone.

misha

07-06-2010, 06:13 AM

I keep going back and forth about it...I want a relationship, are you crazy? Hell no I don't want a relationship! I am either choosing the wrong men, or because we are all older, men think that they can act any old way because there are more of us than them, haven't quite figured that out yet but that is what I am seeing.

Or I am just the magnet for every game playing old man out there! WOMP!