How do you tell A woman [Archive]

knowledge7

02-15-2002, 05:30 AM

Fellas, if you have experienced a woman with a bad smelling coochie....how the hell do you tell her? It ain't a problem with gaining the courage, but if you are in a relationship. How do you tell her without hurting her feelings. What do you just buy her some Summer's Eve? wash it for her? Leave her a email?

lovely

02-15-2002, 05:59 AM

I'd just mention to her(not right after or right before sex)some products that would help her. If your bold enough to buy those products for her..then do that. If not..then while ya'll are in the store..maybe mention it. She might be ignorant of the fact that it's foul(i dont understand how)..but she might be. Or maybe she needs to see a doctor. She might have an infection or something. Maybe mention that too her. Its going to be a weird situation...she is going to be affected either way you do it. But you cant keep smelling that mess.

Versatile

02-15-2002, 06:11 AM

Tackfully place a do not enter sign.....*lol* just kidding. Seriously though I know you said fellas, but there are not many up here so I thought maybe a woman point of view may offer some assistnace. There are many questions here. For instance, is this just once a month or constantly? My daughter carries an unusal odor during her time and there is nothing, and I do mean nothing that can help, other than a prayer that no one else smells it. Douching wasn't an answer since it happen only during that time and she is still a virgin. Douching has also been proven to cause more problems than to help. Six years ago I developed an odor that was not normal for me. I was diganoise as have spots on my cervix that was in a class 3 category. Cancer is class 5. They where frozen and to this day, I have yet to emit the odor. It may be a sign of infection so seeking a doctor quick may help. Many times, a "forest of pubic hair" will enhance a smell, so neatly triming her pubic area may help and wearing cotten lined underwear. Does she wear tight pants? Because a coochie does have lungs and needs to breath *lmao* Lastly, the best way to tell her is just to be up front and honest with her in private. I'm sure she'd rather here it from someone she cares about then to have people whispering and or embarrasing her about it.

Andre98

02-15-2002, 06:29 AM

...with that. It's an awkward sit-chee-a-shun, but i guess it has to be done.

mystkev

02-15-2002, 06:37 AM

Be extremely nice about telling her. Is this an end of a rough day smell? or Does she smell lilke this even after she's taken a shower?

If it's the end of the day, suggest that she take a bath or shower to relax. If it's an all the time smell, maybe there's something wrong w/her diet, does she eat a lot of spicy foods? I really don't know what to say other than just coming out and saying that she does not smell fresh.

SoftNwet

02-15-2002, 06:52 AM

Originally posted by Versatile+
Lastly, the best way to tell her is just to be up front and honest with her in private. I'm sure she'd rather here it from someone she cares about then to have people whispering and or embarrasing her about it.

You hit it right on the head!! Just tell her in private and if she is a real woman she will be emarassed at first but she will definatley take care of it, with a quickness!!!!

Tastey

02-15-2002, 03:48 PM

Just tell her honestly, and discreetly.

It's an assumption that odor means uncleanliness but it may be a medical problem.

Also everybody's body is different.

Some women can have wall banging sex for hours and go right to sleep, wake up the next morning and shower, while others if they don't shower immediately the FUNK will keep you awake all night.

Also sometimes what a man eats will cause his sperm to emit an odor after it's inside a woman. (So it might be your fault too. ;) )

So it's best to just sit her down, and talk about it in a nice way.

D2daO2da

02-17-2002, 07:32 PM

I was in that situation and told her about Douche. She was amazed that I knew that stuff.. So she was straight after that. Most of the time I do my thang after the shower anyhow.. I been real blessed with clean chicks.

Summers Eve... Sanitary Wipes... been my friend for a long time.. I'd be like.. yo check these out .. Got some samples from work.. lol

Melotic

02-17-2002, 07:53 PM

:beating

She can't smell it...

misha

02-18-2002, 07:10 AM

I would try to find a female friend of hers, and try to get her to talk to her about it...

then it could be part of a natural conversation...you can't get away with asking her if she uses summers eve or massengil...LOL

knowledge7

02-21-2002, 05:55 AM

See ...if it was me.. I would just plain tell her off the break.. blunt and honest... opnly because that is the how I like the relationship to be.. open and honest.. if I got a bugee in my nose tell me.. if my nuts stank after basketball.. tell me.. don't hide it..

BUT unfortanatly a lot of peopel are too sensitive.. so ya'll are suggessting telling her VERY nice....and getting her to take a shower....

Now I know if I ever come across one.. again...

02-21-2002, 07:14 AM

That's a hard one. I don't remember having to deal with that one my brother.

I know it takes some carefull handiling, especially if its real good cause there is always the chance that she'll hit you with that perscription: "NOASSATALL".

That shyt is like pinacillin(sp) it's a cure all for a whole lot of relationship ills...

Mocha

02-21-2002, 07:22 AM

Well when I had the tampon stuck up in me..I am sure my boyfriend smelled something before I did...why he didn't say somthing I have no idea...

But when I told him about the tampon, he said you did have a funny smell:eek: . I was like why didn't you say something, anything could have been wrong..he was like I don't know:blah:

Anyway, we were young and he probably didn't know how to say it. My friend now would tell me in a hot second if something is smelling different. It hasn't but I know he would.

I think what you have to do is say sweetie, baby, snapper smells different? I mean just don't say she smells but please let her know, cause regardless how smell conquenous some women are, other's do not catch the smell right off as your mate would. So let her know...

MsMeelah

02-21-2002, 07:26 AM

Originally posted by misha+
I would try to find a female friend of hers, and try to get her to talk to her about it...

then it could be part of a natural conversation...you can't get away with asking her if she uses summers eve or massengil...LOL

Tell her friend???!!!! Thats crazy! If my friend came to me and said ... "Meeelah girrl so and so said your coochie stanks" I would be pissed!!!! How does he know that her "friend" is real friend? she might spread that shit all around town... I would never tell my mans boy to discuss a problem.ESPECIALLY something as personal as that. Thats insane..

knowledge7

02-21-2002, 07:36 AM

I don't think she meant to say it like that.. I think she meant to say it like a suggestion...

misha

02-21-2002, 10:28 AM

Originally posted by knowledge7
I don't think she meant to say it li8ek that.. I thinik she meant to say it like a suggestion...

Thanks knowledge.

misha

02-21-2002, 11:30 AM

Originally posted by MsMeelah+

Tell her friend???!!!! Thats crazy! If my friend came to me and said ... "Meeelah girrl so and so said your coochie stanks" I would be pissed!!!! How does he know that her "friend" is real friend? she might spread that shit all around town... I would never tell my mans boy to discuss a problem.ESPECIALLY something as personal as that. Thats insane..

And furthermore, who the hell are you?

knowledge7

02-21-2002, 11:53 AM

Misha.....calm down boo boo.. do you need a hug.. I would be more than happy to assist you with a warm hug.. and some milk and cookies..,....

misha

02-21-2002, 11:57 AM

Ah, thanks, knowledge.

I do think that newbies should get to know the people and the different personalities on this board before "going off" on old heads.

Fighting a battle with no ammo.....

knowledge7

02-21-2002, 12:00 PM

Understandable.....I will keep my mouth shut......Be good ;)

misha

02-21-2002, 12:01 PM

I was not speaking of you...but, thanks.

Versatile

02-21-2002, 12:16 PM

Originally posted by misha+
And furthermore, who the hell are you?

Uh Oh...let me go get the popcorn.

MsMeelah

02-21-2002, 12:51 PM

Originally posted by misha+
Ah, thanks, knowledge.

I do think that newbies should get to know the people and the different personalities on this board before "going off" on old heads.

Fighting a battle with no ammo.....

Misha. to answer your question. I am Jameelah,29, Washington DC. I was not "going off" on you. Don't take it personally. I was merely stating my opinion. Is there a rule somewhere that says that you have to walk on eggshells with your posts until you come out of "newbie" status? I have learned that on a message board and when you are reading from a computer screen, you cannot see facial expressions or hear someones tone of voice like you would in regular conversation. Just something to think about. So mabye you should get to know MY personality before you "go off" on me. Peace love and blessings my sistah...

misha

02-21-2002, 12:57 PM

No Ms 23 posts. You really should get to know who you are talking to before calling them insane.

Going off? You are a newbie aren't you? You haven't seen going off yet.

Walking on eggshells is unecesary. But allowing others, especially people that you do not know, to speak without going off about their comments. No, facial expressions and the like cannot be seen. But in time, you will get to know everyones personality and style. That is if you don't continue launching on those that were here long before you. Something for you to think about.

mack_black

02-21-2002, 01:02 PM

heres how you do it....

BITCH yo cootchie stank...so Im puttin you on a 6 week diet of fruit,veggies,water, the sauna, and serious aerobic exercise to burn that shit outta ya....In the meanwhile I aint eating no mo stank pussy nor am I sticking my dick in the stank...I dont want my dick to get sick...but I will be doing on the spot scent inspections.....till Im satisfied that ya been cleaned up :D

the straight up approach hurts...but one gets more repsect for honesty than smiling in sombody's face fakin truth... ;)

BTW Ive heard that using douches extensively cleans out the natural cleansing action of the cootchie, causing it to stank......

knowledge7

02-21-2002, 01:03 PM

DC repprin over there.. go head girl..

But to be honest.. THat was the perfect way to come at that situation.. Babygirl you handled your self very nice..

Welcome ot the fam....

HulaSista

02-21-2002, 01:07 PM

Originally posted by mack_black+
heres how you do it....

BITCH yo cootchie stank...

why she gotta be a bitch?

mack_black

02-21-2002, 01:14 PM

'Cuz her cootchie stank....and she dont recognize? that dont seem like she's upholding the lady aspects of being a woman.....isnt cleanliness next to Godliness?....and a woman cant smell her cootchie to recognize that it stank?...

actually not BITCH...more like BIIIAAATTTCCCCHHHH ;)

MsMeelah

02-21-2002, 01:40 PM

Originally posted by misha+
No Ms 23 posts. You really should get to know who you are talking to before calling them insane.

Going off? You are a newbie aren't you? You haven't seen going off yet.

Walking on eggshells is unecesary. But allowing others, especially people that you do not know, to speak without going off about their comments. No, facial expressions and the like cannot be seen. But in time, you will get to know everyones personality and style. That is if you don't continue launching on those that were here long before you. Something for you to think about.

Never called YOU insane my sister, I said the theroy was insane.Like I said before, I never went off on you.You said that I should allow others to speak without going off on thier comments, you should do the same. I was speaking my mind on post # 1. I will continue to do so.
I am a newbie but I do know some of the members in here personally. Thats probably why I feel so at home. I am sure some of them can that when it comes to me,,YOU have not seen going off yet. I apologize if I offended you, that was not my intention. Have a nice evening.:beer

MsMeelah

02-21-2002, 01:42 PM

Originally posted by knowledge7
DC repprin over there.. go head girl..

But to be honest.. THat was the perfect way to come at that situation.. Babygirl you handled your self very nice..

Welcome ot the fam....

Thank you!!!! :)

misha

02-21-2002, 01:45 PM

Originally posted by MsMeelah+

Never called YOU insane my sister, I said the theroy was insane.Like I said before, I never went off on you.You said that I should allow others to speak without going off on thier comments, you should do the same. I was speaking my mind on post # 1. I will continue to do so.
I am a newbie but I do know some of the members in here personally. Thats probably why I feel so at home. I am sure some of them can that when it comes to me,,YOU have not seen going off yet. I apologize if I offended you, that was not my intention. Have a nice evening.:beer

I also know members personally. My three years of posting speak for me, don't need people to do it. Your apology is accepted.

HulaSista

02-21-2002, 01:48 PM

Originally posted by mack_black+
actually not BITCH...more like BIIIAAATTTCCCCHHHH ;)

see you needs to quit......:beating

you means to tell me that if this happened to your lady love you will call her this?

Tastey

02-21-2002, 01:52 PM

Originally posted by mack_black+
'Cuz her cootchie stank....and she dont recognize? that dont seem like she's upholding the lady aspects of being a woman.....isnt cleanliness next to Godliness?....and a woman cant smell her cootchie to recognize that it stank?...

actually not BITCH...more like BIIIAAATTTCCCCHHHH ;)

Mack, I know you are not that ignant!! Puhlease. There are several medical conditions that could cause a woman to have an odor. And as with ALL odors other people usually smell them before the offender.

Ya'll men act like them rusty balls is spring fresh 24/7....NOT!!! :beating

MsMeelah

02-21-2002, 02:17 PM

Originally posted by misha+

I also know members personally. My three years of posting speak for me, don't need people to do it. Your apology is accepted.

Neither do I sweetheart... don't remember asking anyone to speak for me... :)

misha

02-21-2002, 02:19 PM

Originally posted by MsMeelah+

. I am sure some of them can that when it comes to me,,YOU have not seen going off yet.

Then what is this?

MsMeelah

02-21-2002, 02:41 PM

Originally posted by misha+

Then what is this?

that was not asking anyone to speak for me but...

OKAAYYYY big sister 2thousandplusposthreeyearmember alll-might-teee!!! YOU WIN!!
*bows down and kisses foot*
:rolleyes: I am done with this conversation..

misha

02-21-2002, 02:48 PM

You were done before it started.

Mocha

02-21-2002, 03:25 PM

Originally posted by Tastey+

Mack, I know you are not that ignant!! Puhlease. There are several medical conditions that could cause a woman to have an odor. And as with ALL odors other people usually smell them before the offender.

Ya'll men act like them rusty balls is spring fresh 24/7....NOT!!! :beating

I was thinking the same thing. Men think we want to have odors. All the shit we go through it is unrealistic to be fresh as a summers breeze every damn day...from wearing panty hose, to cotton panties, to funky ass condoms with spericide, to dirty ass dicks in us (if your not using a condom). Not to mention the period and all the other health issues women have...

But to have a slight odor Mack we should be told by being called a bitch?...that shit amazes me.

Plus some niggas got they head between our legs so damn much it's ok if you smell it before we do...tell her damn...don't call her names and cuss her out. Especially if she is your women, and you know the smell wasn't there at first. Something is wrong!

que90nek

02-21-2002, 05:06 PM

ummm

i missed this thread.....

i am glad this particular tiff is over.

hell...what's the argument even about!?!

Mocha

02-21-2002, 05:11 PM

Originally posted by que90nek+
ummm
hell...what's the argument even about!?!

I guess it is written down in the hush rule book that you have to have a certain number of post to state your opininon:confused:

que90nek

02-21-2002, 07:07 PM

not any hush book that I am familiar with.

lively debate is all good...but.....BUT.....

debating about nothing....well, hell...it won't be the first time! :D

normally, i'm around to diffuse the situation...put the focus on more funny fun things...like ME!

i've even been known to pick a fight with soft in those situations...hell...soft is so easy!

OhSoPrecious

02-21-2002, 07:21 PM

Originally posted by que90nek+
normally, i'm around to diffuse the situation

Dammit Que. . . you can't be in all of them at the same time~!! :blah: You missed this one. . . let it go~!!!! :upretty :D

HulaSista

02-21-2002, 10:00 PM

lol@oh so!

misha

02-22-2002, 02:17 AM

I love the collective amnesia up in here. How soon everyone forgets about battles begun because newbies came onto the board attacking established members. Do you remember admin launching on QJai (when she was a newbie), when all she did was try to give him some advice? Don't believe me? Check out the Father's Day is a joke thread in the old hush.

All I am saying is this: If you are a new person, take time to get to know the board and the people already there. Get to know their personalities, and their style of posting. Know who and what you are dealing with before personally attacking someone.

That has nothing to do with stifling opinion, that has to do with knowing what to base your opinion on. Agree, or not agree with what someone posts. But if ya launch on me, expect it back. No matter who you are.