The Bosses Wedding

[Admin]

Fam, my boss (female) is getting married. She invited the entire dept to the wedding. Our immediate team is only like 7 folks. Instead of getting married on a sunday, she chose friday night at 7pm? WTF?

Ummm, Friday is a work day and I get off at 6pm. What was this woman thinking. The wedding is in September, so I was asking folks if they were gonna go. Most said Yes until i asked them if they were gonna change clothes at work?

These folks looked at me like Arnold Drummond "What you talking about Willis?

I then layed the: DAY, TIME and riding in Rush Hour traffic...then I got the "Oh Yeah, Huh?"

I cannot attend, because I have to DJ at the club that night, but there has not been an email saying that if you want to attend the wedding, you do not have to stay until 5pm on that day.

I just wanna see who is gonna show up after leaving here at 5 and trying to go home, Shower, Dress then to the wedding at 7pm...in Friday Rush Hour traffic.

Q: Is this not the craziest shyt yall have heard?
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[Tastey]

You have to remember when wedding invites go out alot of folks are invited out of obligation and wanting a gift. Every invite is not sent because you are expected or even wanted to attend.

The fact is anybody who truly wants to be there will ask to be off that day, leave early that day, or do whatever neccessary to be there.

The others won't and that's expected.

[Admin]

Tastey, so this is just a ploy to get gifts? Do you think she cares if we all do not show up? She knows I have 2 jobs.
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[Tastey]

Tastey, so this is just a ploy to get gifts? Do you think she cares if we all do not show up? She knows I have 2 jobs.
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Honestly that's exactly what I think. I mean you just said it, there ain't no way you all could show up at no Friday night wedding.

But she also knows if she didn't invite her coworkers, some folks feelings would be hurt, and it could cause tension in the office.

So she put out the invite, hoping for a gift, but not really caring if you come.

[seductive_tee]

The wedding is in September, she can send an email 2 days prior and say all who plan to attend can leave a few hours early.

Admin, would you have given a gift if she had not invited you?

[Juicey1]

In the department I work in, when folks got married, we didn't expect a invite. Weddings are expensive and trying to pay that money for dinner per person is hell.

When I got married, I didn't invite my department because I was marrying in my home state.

When one of the other guys here got married, he didn't invite us and we didn't expect him too. We did collect money as a group and gave a gift. They did the same for me and I didn't give an invite. I got about three gifts off my register from my department and I was geniunely surprised and grateful because I really wasn't expecting anything.

I kinda have to agree with Tasty. She knew you guys couldn't make it at 7pm, she just invited you all out of courtesy. She probably figured, maybe one of you would show up, but not all.

[sistuhchey]

but they do things a tad bit different...

for the "over the top" weddings...w/embossed raised gold silk blend invites...you would have received a personal invite in the mail.....awaiting a rsvp response...I would think...

but for the smorgas board kind of keebler...come one come all we're meeting in the park after work to say our vows....anything goes...byob..

and then and again...maybe she was just being polite..inviting the entire crew...knowing good and damn well ya'll just be getting off work???..and can't make it.....who knows....

[rainy]

well i wont go as far as to say it is a straight gift grab (not that it isnt in the realm of possibility), but more likely done out of courtesey. maybe there are people she truly wanted to be there but work politics dictated she do an all or none type of thing.

[jaila]

i wouldnt bother wit it. She gotta understand that you have two jobs and that the skrilla is much more imporant than her lil off the wall nuptuals. Wish her good luck and roll wit it. I mean is this broad really worth rush hour traffic?

[Pamalicious]

You have to remember when wedding invites go out alot of folks are invited out of obligation and wanting a gift. Every invite is not sent because you are expected or even wanted to attend.

The fact is anybody who truly wants to be there will ask to be off that day, leave early that day, or do whatever neccessary to be there.

The others won't and that's expected.

Agree with this - I'm not inviting my entire department only the black people - and with this destination thing - they ain't coming either, lol

This is how we do it in our office. There are two Keeblers before me on the Wedding Tip and we will have very nice showers but it is understood that we won't be coming - just like they will give me a very nice shower but they know they aren't invited.

[Tastey]

I remember a couple of years ago I had just started a job and one of the employees was engaged.

Her wedding was about three weeks after I started work there. She was a nice person and we talked from time to time.

I got an email to come to Melissa's "shower" at the office.

It was during office hours, so I bought a nice, small gift for the shower got a break from work and ate some cake. lol

The day after the shower I came in and she had put a wedding invite on my desk. My first thought was "WTF? I don't know you why are you inviting me to your wedding?"

But I didn't say that I read it, then politely declined.

She told me "Well I didn't think you'd come but I invited the whole office and I didn't want you to feel slighted."

I thanked her but told her I already had plans that day (which I did) but I wished her the best.

So in office situations sometimes it's just done to keep a good working relationship going on.