Why ya motha don't know about me?

[seductive_tee]

Would you marry someone who had never mentioned you to there mother, father or the person who raised them, especially if they spoke to them often, just never mentioned you or the fact they were getting married?

**stolen from the show Girlfriends**

[Admin]

**Warning!! Will Robinson**

You know what? That shyt would be wack to me, especially if you talk to your folks on the regular. You know yo momma would kill ya ass if you did not tell her.

Now, I am guilty of not bringing my Homie Lover Friend's around moms, but mom's knew mrs admin waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay before we tied the inot in Vegas baby!

Holla;)

[Melotic]

It seems like they are hiding something... I want her folks to know me, and I want to know her peps...

[Mocha]

NO! That is dumb....especially you are close with your family. Naw! I wouldn't

[dulce]

I would be out...and have been...dated this guy for awhile and he was going that route, so I told him how I felt and when nothing changed (gave him a little time) I bounced...met his dad a few years later at the ex-guy's Bday dinner (we're still friends) and he asked old boy "why didn't you ever bring her over? I like her..."

what was worse was that he knew all my folks...

WACK!

[nubianx2]

Although it'd be nice for my S/O to meet my family well in advance, my family would need to understand that me introducing them to them prior to the nupitals is a courtesy. And not necessarily for their approval.

[Vronni]

that's just wrong. I would not continue dating someone who hadn't introduced me to the parents in a reasonable amount of time.

[14KBlaqWmn]

I don't think I would marry them for a couple of reasons:

1. Either he's ashamed of me. If he is, then why marry me.
2. Or he's ashamed of his family. If he's ashamed of his family, then that's on him, that doesn't mean that I wouldn't accept them or get along with them.

In either case, there would be a trust and communication issue going on and if I can't trust him or talk to him about his true feelings, then we don't need to be together.

[nubianx2]

A situation very similar to this happened with my sister. She always make excuses as to why he couldn't make it. To make a long story short, we ended meeting him recently. About 2-3 weeks before they got married. He let everyone know that he'd been asking to meet the family.

After meeting him, we all realized that my sister kept him away intentionally. She thought that we wouldn't approve of him.

[djackso]

Sometimes a person knows what's best for them. If a person has a parent that interferes in their lives that might cause fiction then it's best to exclude that parent from their relationships. On girlfriends William wasn't ashamed of her. He knew mama would cause some shit. Being from a marriage where in-laws ruined it I can respect leaving no good in-laws out completely. You should trust your S/O judgement & stop thinking the worst.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by djackso+
Sometimes a person knows what's best for them. If a person has a parent that interferes in their lives that might cause fiction then it's best to exclude that parent from their relationships. On girlfriends William wasn't ashamed of her. He knew mama would cause some shit. Being from a marriage where in-laws ruined it I can respect leaving no good in-laws out completely. You should trust your S/O judgement & stop thinking the worst.

I agree. Sometimes it's for the best.

I have a meddling sister. She has caused friction between me and more than one of my boyfriends. My current avoids her like the plague. She's family and I love her...but sometimes even when you are close to family if you know how they are...you need to make a decision.

[OhSoPrecious]

No, I would not marry someone never having met their parents~!! :rolleyes:

Btw, that was a good episode last night~!! :upretty I can't believe ole girl bailed out of her own wedding like that~!! :eek:

[D2daO2da]

Nope.. Didn't we have a thread about marrying the other persons family...

Even if my futre mother in-law is a crackhead.. I wanna know. I may have to buy an extra safe. If that person doesn't introduce you to any of his family and ask you to marry him. He already married with another family across town.

You got to at least meet the parents once. talk to them on the phone.

[HulaSista]

nope.

cause whether or not he chooses to invite them to the wedding is one thing. but, i would rather know the parents so they can understand where i am coming from. if there is friction, then, gat doggit, let there be friction. we ain't got to live with each other, so, i ain't trippin.

[Sparkles]

Excuses, excuses, and more excuse. Yeah there are instances when family can be the worse, but tell me a head of time, and let me meet them anyway, and trust my judgement and let me decide if I want to be around "your" folks, atleast give me the options...

Originally posted by D2daO2da
Nope.. Didn't we have a thread about marrying the other persons family...

Even if my futre mother in-law is a crackhead.. I wanna know. I may have to buy an extra safe. If that person doesn't introduce you to any of his family and ask you to marry him. He already married with another family across town.

You got to at least meet the parents once. talk to them on the phone.

[misha]

But I tell the man ahead of time. there has never been some one that I was serious about that I didn't introduce to my family.
And I don't think that I would want to be with someone that didn't do the same. Hell, if they are crazy, or whatever, he needs to know that. Meet them once, and get on with your lives.