Close your damn mouth...and stop making all the cotten pickin noise when you eat!!!

[lovely]

There is this lady i work with...she is older..probaly in her late fourties(older than my mother). When she eats she makes so much noise and she chews with her mouth open. I cant stand it. Every day she eats these salads...and salads are not the quietest thing to eat. OMG..this woman would make so much noise..i'd feel like pulling my hair out of my head. This is my stongest pet peeve...making noise when you eat. I eat with a group of women..and she happens to eat with us most of the time...and most of the time i just deal with it. BUT...today. I dont know if its because i am PMSing or what. But she gotta chewing....and i could feel my bloodpressure and pulse skyrocketing. I was so irritated that i finally said "Mrs. ______, do you have to make all the noise when you eat!" Everybody at the table(about 4 women) stopped eating and looked at me. The lady talking about she aint know she made noise when she ate...so i said" If you chew with you mouth open then you are bound to make noise when you eat. " She said she didnt know she chewed with her mouth open. All the cotton picking noise she be making and she dont hear it!!!!! Anyways..she said she was too self counsious and couldnt eat with us today and she left and went to eat her lunch elsewhere. And i was happy:blah: The other ladies i eat lunch with said that i was wrong..although they be talking about the way she eats. They said that i was disrespectful because she is older. I think thats more the reason that she needs to eat a little neater and quietier. I dont feel bad at all. In actuality i feel better..because i can probably eat my lunch without having to watch food moving all around her mouth. And hearing it. Yall dont know...its some nasty mess.

Anyways..i had to get that off my chest.

Love ya'll:beer

[Mocha]

good for you. How the hell they go tell somebody you was wrong. I think you did the right thing. Just because she older don't mean that she can do what the hell she wants. I think it was more respectful to let her know what a majority of you guys were thinking instead of steady talking about it.

I would have told those other about themselves....straight up!

[Tastey]

You were right Lovely. You didn't disrespect her by telling her the truth. It's what she needed to hear.

The only thing I could say is maybe you could have told her in confidence instead of in front of people, but you were right to tell her.

Enjoy your quiet lunches from now on. ;)

[Mocha]

she probably couldn't take it no more and it just blurted out......your nerves got bad! LOL!

[PecanTan]

Originally posted by Tastey+
You were right Lovely. You didn't disrespect her by telling her the truth. It's what she needed to hear.

The only thing I could say is maybe you could have told her in confidence instead of in front of people, but you were right to tell her.

Enjoy your quiet lunches from now on. ;) DITTO on telling her in private, but at least you said something. I don't know if I would have had enough nerve.

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by PecanTan+
DITTO on telling her in private, but at least you said something. I don't know if I would have had enough nerve.


Whew!!! I just had a flashback of my ex-husband eating/chewing. Lovely, I definitely feel ya on this one, I definitely had to let my x know that eating withhis mouth open was totally unattractive.

Note to Pecan - You know you got more than enuff nerve.

[davinci]

she said "cotton pickin."

[mystkev]

I think the lady was being disrespectful, that's nasty chewing w/your mouth open.

Has she talked to you since the incident?

[Juicey1]

There is this guy here at work that makes loud smacking sounds when he eats. It drives me up the damn wall. I am so glad I don't run into him often in the breakroom, but when I walk in there and see him in there, I want to turn around and leave. He's a real nice guy, but he needs to stop making those noises. His wife works here to, I wonder if she has ever told him to stop smacking:confused:

[Andre98]

It might have been more polite in private, but I tell ya, if she goes and makes a complaint against you in the workplace, it would be between you and her what was actually said. They are going to believe whatever she says, because she is the one lodging the complaint, and she'll have the power to embellish on it, because her feelings are hurt, and really stick it to you! So in front of others has its advantages...like it or not, they are witnesses.

So, I probably would have done like you, and tried to put up with it as long as possible, and that would have it build up until I have to just come out with it, right in front of everybody. Also, there is no better time than to "strike while the iron is hot", as the expression goes. The only thing I might do as a man, if it was another man, is not say this in front of any women. I would be afraid to say anything, if it was across gender lines, the man would get cast as the villian right quick!

I had this dude at work way back on a job I had in the 80s. He was okay, by the way of description, he was one of those men that were a little effeminate and a little "churchy", always praising the Lord regularly. I have no problem with that really, know you have to work with different folks that have different strokes, so I made no inquiries, was pleasant to him, and besides, he also talked about exploits with females, so, true or not, most everyone left it alone. Well, he had this habit of being "handsy". Laughing at a joke, or making a point, and many times when he was just near you, he had to put a hand on you. He was like Sammy Davis Jr., everybody was his best friend immediately. I wasn't the only one, but, damn, I dont need somebody touching me all day! Hand on the shoulder, grabbing the arm, he did it to everybody, but it was only two women in the office out of twelve. I kept trying to reason with myself over whether I have a problem, period, or a problem because it feels gayish. Would I have a problem if it was a woman? I had to admit, that I may not have cared if it was a woman, but dammit it was a man, and I got a problem with it. So one day, he commences with the "laying on of the hands" and I just broke. I said, "You know I have been meaning to say this, and there is no time like the present....Can you do me a favor? I know it's your way and all, but can you stop touching me?" I made a reference to Sammy Davis Jr with Nixon to try to keep the mood light, but, there in front of most of the folks ( except the women), I just wanted to clear the air. I know they felt the same. He kind of blew it off, that "you so crazy" line...but he did stop, and with everybody. He also left the job a few weeks later, and we debated whether it was because of that. The bottom line is that you have a right to be comfortable. You did the right thing to speak up. The ones that also had complained but then thought you were wrong for saying something need to grow a spine.

[davinci]

had a co-worker who people avoid 'cause that sumbitch will talk a hole in your fuckin' head. and he does the huh...huh...d...you know what i'm saying...you understand...huh...ah...uh...uh uh....

then this mofo told me, "you know why my ex said she left me? she said i talked too much." took everything i had not to say, i see why.

[Andre98]

"...know what I'm saying?..." every two sentences... I hate that too!

[MsMeelah]

OMG !!! I Finally have people who UNDERSTAND!!! I DESPISE!! NOISY eaters!! I cannot explain to you how badly that works my nerves. I share an office with a brother who is sooooo loud. I tried to deal with it but I finally said something. He said " I have to chew my food" It is not neccessary to smack so damn loud when you are chewing for your food. Didnt your mother teach you any table manners? Don't get me started on the slurping of the tea in the morning. I hate to sterotype but he is a flamboyant gay guy and he has to add drama to everything! That is one of my biggest pet peeves, people say I overreact but I can't help it man. I try to deal with it but just irritates the hell outta me, it always has.

[SoftNwet]

I OVER-stand what y'all are talking about. But I got it worse there is a woman at work that has a chronic cough. I am talking 24-7!!!! No matter where she is she is coughing her ass off. Then to top it off it off she goes in the break room and start blowing her nose in addtition to all tha damn coughing...........and they can not understand why I eat out side of the office?!?!?:confused:

[Andre98]

I was reading that some folks cough habitually, like it's a reflex or "tick". The article listed it along with picking one's nose, scratching when nothing itches, and clicking the teeth. They get used to the activity of it, and may not realize they are doing it so unnecessarily. Now the nose blowing is just ig'nant!