10 Year old Cousin

[Juicey1]

Fam,

A couple weeks ago, my 10 year old cousin hung and killed himself (they say). I didn't know him very well. The last time I saw him was at his fathers funeral about 5 years ago. My parents called and told me about this and I just can't believe that a happy, energetic (so they say) 10 year old hung himself.

From what I hear, he was in the basement. His mother called to him and told him that if he wanted to see the baby before she puts him down for the night he should come on upstairs. He didn't answer her back. I "think" she may have called him again, but he didn't answer back. Well she didn't go check on him and later (I am assuming) she went downstairs and found him hanging by the neck.

They didn't really do an investigation into his death and I just can't understand that. My belief is that someone hung him. Either his mother or his mothers boyfriend. I wonder if someone dared him to do it. His family is being vague about the details.

I just wonder what does a 10 year old have to be that depressed over that he would hang himself.:confused:

[Mocha]

That is very sad....I agree that don't make sense. And for a parent not to want to know what was going on is more sad. Usually parents want to talk to teachers and other friends to see if he was talking about this. Plus how do a 10 year old hang their self. Is the rope tied that tight for him to do it? Doesn't he need to stand on something?...yeah there are a lot of unanwersed questions in my opininon.

[14KBlaqWmn]

You'd be surprised at the things that go through children's minds and the things they will do.

You mentioned a baby and a boyfriend. Maybe he felt left out or like no one was paying him any attention. Maybe they (the mother and/or boyfriend or someone else) were abusing him and he didn't feel he could talk to anyone. There's so many things that could be reasons why he killed himself and unfortunately we'll never know what was going on with him.

I'll keep your family in my prayers.

[nubianx2]

It breaks my heart to hear of the the death of a child, especially a suicide. Like 14K mentioned there could've been a lot of issues going on. Chidlren are definitely affected when a new sibling comes along, especially if they've been an only child for a while. It doesn't take much for them to feel that they don't matter or are not loved by anyone.

Juicey, you and your family are definitely in my prayers during this extremely trying time.

[Melotic]

This is very sad...

[dulce]

Juicy,

My heart hurts for your loss - you and your family are in my prayers.

This hits close to home with me because I have an 11yr old. In another thread I told the Fam about the drama at his school & over the past few weeks he has NOT been acting like his usual happy-go-lucky self. Turns out there is even more going on behind the scenes than originally thought. So I made it a point to do some research on children & depression - found that it is not uncommon for children that age to have thoughts of suicide and act on those thoughts. I am so grateful that my son talks openly to me and I've committed to giving him all the time he needs each day to talk or to just be together. I could not live if I lost him.

I am so saddened to hear about your cousin and thinking about the pain he must have been in to do something like that makes me cry. Our children go through so much - I wish your family the strength to get through this.

peace...

[Juicey1]

Originally posted by 14KBlaqWmn+
You'd be surprised at the things that go through children's minds and the things they will do.

You mentioned a baby and a boyfriend. Maybe he felt left out or like no one was paying him any attention. Maybe they (the mother and/or boyfriend or someone else) were abusing him and he didn't feel he could talk to anyone. There's so many things that could be reasons why he killed himself and unfortunately we'll never know what was going on with him.

I'll keep your family in my prayers.

I thought about that too. Its just hard for me to imagine a kid killing himself. Kids are supposed to be happy, not have any worrys, but in todays society its not so. So much is put on children in their young lives. A lot of children have seen things as a child that I as a grownup have never seen.

Thank you all for your prayers and concern. I haven't had a chance to talk with his Grandmother (my cousin). I don't know his mother at all. His father was my cousin and he was killed about 5 years ago because of pay back. It seems he had killed a couple guys around town and he finally met his end. My cousin (the grandmother) had 10 children and has been through a lot, but she has been strong through it all.

[Tastey]

You and your family have my sympathy Juicey1. :(

I think that maybe there is more to it and maybe the mother knows and just doesn't want to say so. Suicide is a touchy issue in families because when you are the one left behind, there is alot of guilt. That may be why she's being vague.

Also as Dulce said, as sad and unbelievable as it is lots of kids actually consider, attempt, and succeed at suicide. I was reading an article not long ago that said a child as young as 3 months can suffer depression.

We always ask about what? But clinical depression is a disease. It's not being sad, it's not having the blues, it's a disease caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It can happen to anyone at any age. :(

[Toffee]

I can understand how u feel Juicy.. My mother boyfriend's oldest son shot himself.. We will never know why.. He scored a 33 on his ACT and like 1500 on his SAT. Had full scholorship to college. I had known him for about 10 years.

My heart goes out to you and your family.. because I truly understand.

[OhSoPrecious]

I am so sorry to hear that, Juicey~!! You and your family are in my prayers~!!

[sistuhchey]

May God bless and keep you and your family....May answers be revealed through prayer....