He Touched My....

[seductive_tee]

Child - Ma, my poo poo(vagina) hurt.

Mother - What you mean, did someone touch you?

Child - Yes, the boy in my class pulled my dress up while we were having story time and touched my poo poo.

Mother - Did you tell the teacher?

Child - Yes, she put him in time out.

Mother - That's it?

Child - Yes, and daddy said that is what the teacher was suppose to do.

Ok, let's speed it up...Daddy knew about this but said nothing to the mother. Daddy knew because child told him when he picked her up from school the day before child told Mother. Mother is hot because Daddy never mentioned it. Mother confront's Daddy, Daddy says child did not say anything about boy touching poo poo.

What would be your next move?

This is a real situation and i'll be forwarding to the person who is asking for advice/comments.

[seductive_tee]

Mother went to school, teachers "CLAIMS" she doesn't recall the incident or putting the child in time out.

[que90nek]

my next move would be to get all the adults together and talk...
another move would be to go to the hospital and have the child examined...for her to say that it hurts...means something....what "touch" could cause your "poo poo" to hurt?

time is of the essence. mother, father, and teacher.

the child is already telling several different stories.

it's obvious that she didnt tell father about the "poo poo."

I already don't believe the child entirely.

[Bedroomeyes]

so she talked to the school before she talked to the father?? My first move is to pull her pants down and do my own searching to see what is going on with the poo poo... Then... I'm calling my doctor and having an appt scheduled..

Seems like she needs to have a serious talk with the father.. get the facts straight..if he tells the same story.. then go to the school and talk to the teacher and principal and make sure they understand that this is not a minor thing to happen.. And they are to contact me at all times! :hammer

[Tastey]

My concern is that BOTH the father and the teacher deny talking with the child about this.

Is is possible she is not telling the complete truth? :confused:

I mean it very well could have gone like this:

Child: Teacher Billy touched me and it's hurts.

Teacher: Billy go to time-out.

End of classroom situation

Child: Daddy, Billy had to go to timeout cause he touched me and it hurt.

Daddy: Good, he was supposed to go to timeout.

End of conversation

No mention of where she was touched or anything like that.

I also like Que wonder how was she touched so that it HURTS?

This situation needs to be investigated further.

[OhSoPrecious]

This is serious. . . I would definitely stay on top of this one~!! :hammer

Good luck to your friend~!!

[seductive_tee]

She says her child has a very sensative area, but the boy did not hurt her in anyway. They were sitting in the Indian style on the floor during story time, he lifted her dress and touched her poo-poo. She told the teacher and teacher put him in time out.

Now she had to ask the father about it, and he was dead wrong for not telling her, DEAD WRONG...and they live together.

Teacher doesn't recall that incident because she says the boy is always disrupted and in time out. So my friend left the school and went to work.

I asked her was she crazy, she should NOT have left without speaking with the principal and atleast informing her of the incident. What if it happens again, first thing they'll say is why didn't you inform us. I told her she needs to request a meeting with the boys parents.

That teacher remembers.....

[nubianx2]

She definitely needs to have a meeting with the principal, teacher and the boys parents. It's better to address problems now than later.

[14KBlaqWmn]

Maybe the teacher does....maybe she doesn't. Sounds like too many different stories are going on for this one incident. Did anyone ask the boy that touched her? Is there a possibility that the girl is looking for some attention that she may not be receiving from home or from the teacher?

My point is, that there are so many different things that could have happened, but there is one way to get to the truth. Have everyone to meet and find out what happened.

[seductive_tee]

She not seeking attention, i know the lil girl very well, she is my god-daughter. Her mother did not confront the boy, and she shouldn't, that his why they need to call his mother or notify the principal.

By the way, the age of the children are 5 and 6.

[14KBlaqWmn]

I think the boy does need to be asked....not by her mother, but by his parents. But at any rate whether this situation is real or unreal, both children need to understand that things like that are not acceptable.

And Tee, don't be blinded just because she's your god-daughter. Children do a lot of things that we would never think they would do or say.

[seductive_tee]

I'm not blinded, all i'm saying is she needs to get to the bottom of things by requesting and having meetings with the principal and the boys parents, so this doesn't come back to haunt her if it happens again.

[que90nek]

this story is so wacky...

the child has a "sensitive area" but the boy "didnt hurt her"

how does an area become sensitive....seems like the child is doing some acting...

scenario: touch the knee..."does that hurt?" child: "no" touch the poo poo...child:"oh oh it hurts it hurts"

and as far as the Father being wrong...i disagree...strongly! seems like he has very little information as well!

scenario: daughter comes in from school and says "daddy, tommy got put in time out for touchin me" daddy says, "GOOD." then daddy turns on the celtics game.

and please explain the relevance of the children sittin "indian style"...to me all that says is that the little girls dress was already hiked up pretty good.

kids seek attention for a myriad of reasons! they could see mommy and daddy in an argument...and reach out...
they could see a glimpse of something on tv...and re-inact....there are many things.

i think the an interrogation of the other child...will yield an answer...combine the two and you'll get the truth.

[Sparkles]

your right kdi's are funny. Just the other day my daughter came home saying the little boy hit her in the nose.:hammer this morning while brushing her teeth she wet some tissue and put it on her nose because that's what the teacher did when he originally hit her. She said because she thinks it still not well.. I was like WTF . :confused: I asked her was it still sore and she said no but that does mean it's not well!!!:eek:

[lovely]

Originally posted by que90nek+
this story is so wacky...

the child has a "sensitive area" but the boy "didnt hurt her"

..to me all that says is that the little girls dress was already hiked up pretty good.

kids seek attention for a myriad of reasons! they could see mommy and daddy in an argument...and reach out...
they could see a glimpse of something on tv...and re-inact....there are many things.

i think the an interrogation of the other child...will yield an answer...combine the two and you'll get the truth.

Remember when you were 5 or 6. I guarentee that we all did some inappropriatte touching at one time or other. Now this does not belittle the whole situation. It does need to be handled..but not blown out of proportion...esp since we are not sure of what happened. Now if this was an older student with a younger student it would be a much more serious situation.

[Versatile]

when she was about 5. She told her brother that the teacher smacked her in the face for talking out of turn. My son calls me at work to tell me what she said and that she was crying with a bruise on her face. I talk to her and still crying, she tells me the same thing. I in turn immediately call the school to tell them what time I'd be there tomorrow so the teacher would be there to "catch her beat down" and get dismissed at the same time. Then it hits.....my daughter has always called me on the job to tell me everything before she even tells her brother and sister. She also waited to tell him 1 hour after they were home. So, After I got home, I calle dher in my room and asked her could she tell me the difference between a lie and the truth. She said yes the truth is when it really happens and a lie is just make believe. So I siad when you told me you teacher smacked you were you lying or telling the truth, she said, I was not lying but it didn't happen I was just practicing my acting skills like you told me too. :eek: Boy did I feel like an azz. Some kids have overactive imaginations so just did before you react like I did.

[que90nek]

so at that point...did she catch a beat down! or at least the story about the boy that cried wolf!

[Versatile]

Yeah my daughter caught a beat down...followed by an extensive talk that from this moment forward, her practing her acting skills would not jepordize anyones situation in real life.

[que90nek]

yeah...i get the feeling that that teacher was bout to catch it!:beating

[D2daO2da]

My son was being bullied, he would tell the teacher, she was like "Well if I see it then I'll punish them" (he was 7 at the time) So since she never caught anyone in the act she didn't do anything about the situations.

I took him out the school.

He in catholic school where the teachers have eyes in the back of their heads. Well at least so far so good.

Did she reinact how this kid hurt her poo poo, if all else fails hire a 8 or 9 year old from another school to put the smackdown on this kid.

I remember when I was in third grade.. We used to steal kisses and this 6th grader kicked me in the back because that was his sister. I never stold another kiss.. Well at least while I was in school... Ok I started back up when I got to high school...

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