who would you go for.....

[HulaSista]

THIS IS ALL IN FUN.......


okay, I got a scenario for you.

You met these 3 men at the same time. Now it's time to date one exclusively cause you ready to focus on one brotha.......

guy #1: christian man, down on his luck, but he is workin and waiting for God to deliver him out of his bad times. chronic "sadness" in his life, yet, he still have faith that God will deliver no matter what. can't find anything to be happy for. yet he still waits for the Lord. says you are a person he would marry . never married, no kids, 2 years younger. marathon lover. ya haven't had sex, but, he's willign to wait until married to do it. DETERMINED in all things in life. lives in kansas.

guy #2: got a child, divorce, good man. established in his career. going to school. loves to travel. says you are a person he would marry . no sex yet. is willing to wait. promises a great life. can handle shit when it gets hard and tough. lives in idaho.

guy #3: just like #2, but, is a control freak and CUTS the conversation if it gets heated. he hates ALL FORMS of drama and debate. he believes there is no such thing as a GOOD debate. compliment his you left and right. has LITTLE patience, although he swears he does. says you are a person he would marry . lives locally near you.


who do you date?







Disclaimer: This is not me. I repeat. This is NOT me!

[que90nek]

can the answer be

NONE of the ABOVE?

aint nobody movin to idaho....and how does he know he would marry u...geez...we been talkin and we done got together a couple times...and now i'm to believe that u can marry me.

kansas is an ok place to live, but...i don't recommend MOVING to start a relationship...plus if he is down on his luck....maybe he should move....seems like he needs to get his shiznit together.

so what do u like about guy number 3....let me guess...he is good in bed! he is the one that is currently knockin the boots!

[dulce]

well gee, I guess I'd take bachelor #2...if he wasn't so dang geographically undesirable! ixnay on the move to idaho...

[mystkev]

I would choose guy #2, because he's seems the most together.
Guys #1 & #3, both have emotional issues. I happen to know guys like both 1 & 3 and both are pains in the ass.

[HulaSista]

(*this is fun*)

keep it coming...

[que90nek]

"marathon lover" and u havent had sex with him!

yeah...tell me anything! :rolleyes:

[HulaSista]

lol

this is all based on conversation......and frequent visits with each other (no matter who did the visiting. person was able to spend time with each one fairly and equally)

[Brightness]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
guy #2: got a child, divorce, good man. established in his career. going to school. loves to travel. says you are a person he would marry . no sex yet. is willing to wait. promises a great life. can handle shit when it gets hard and tough. lives in idaho.

[Brightness]

And HS never said anything about moving. . .just who would you date exclusively on a deeper level. . .those other two might be trying to get the hell out of Kansas & Idaho so if you live in a half-way decent city, why not?


Originally posted by que90nek+
can the answer be

NONE of the ABOVE?

aint nobody movin to idaho....and how does he know he would marry u...geez...we been talkin and we done got together a couple times...and now i'm to believe that u can marry me.

kansas is an ok place to live, but...i don't recommend MOVING to start a relationship...plus if he is down on his luck....maybe he should move....seems like he needs to get his shiznit together.

so what do u like about guy number 3....let me guess...he is good in bed! he is the one that is currently knockin the boots!

[OhSoPrecious]

And, he could always move to Dirty Jersey or meet me half way~!! :upto: :evil:

(I wonder why nobody picked the Christian man~??) :confused: :rolleyes: (I'm just buggin...) :)

[que90nek]

Originally posted by Brightness+
And HS never said anything about moving. . .just who would you date exclusively on a deeper level. . .those other two might be trying to get the hell out of Kansas & Idaho so if you live in a half-way decent city, why not?




if i was a woman and had to choose...
i would give the guy that was closest a chance...even though he is kinda stubborn. i will give it a try. distance relationships don't work.

[14KBlaqWmn]

Originally posted by que90nek+
distance relationships don't work.

I wouldn't say that. Anything can work if you put your mind and effort into it AND it's reciprocated..

Honestly, I'd go for guy #2. Guy #1 would have to be just a friend....I'd listen to him and help him get through his troubles, but I don't think I could get serious with him in the state of mind that he has. We'd be on two different plateaus. Guy #3 would be just an acquaintenance. Something about the short patience thing and the fact that he doesn't like debate that doesn't sit well with me.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by HulaSista+
guy #1: christian man, down on his luck, but he is workin and waiting for God to deliver him out of his bad times. chronic "sadness" in his life, yet, he still have faith that God will deliver no matter what. can't find anything to be happy for. yet he still waits for the Lord. says you are a person he would marry . never married, no kids, 2 years younger. marathon lover. ya haven't had sex, but, he's willign to wait until married to do it. DETERMINED in all things in life. lives in kansas.
[/i]

The key phrase is a Christian man. I may date any man but if I'm looking for one to settle down with and ONLY one is a Christian that's the one I'm gonna pick.

OhSo...you didn't give everybody time to pick. ;)

[que90nek]

tastey...u r on point with this one!

my answer is off because i don't know how to be a woman!

[Brightness]

See, that was the RED FLAG for me. I know from experience that a man who lacks patience can act very irrationally. . .that combined with he doesn't like drama tells me his coping skills may be low to non-existence.


Originally posted by 14KBlaqWmn+


Something about the short patience thing and the fact that he doesn't like debate that doesn't sit well with me.

[HulaSista]

kewl...

okay...adding more twist to this...

its been 3 months that you have known these three...

you just told your chosen brotha that you are ready to chill exclusively with him.

guy #1: the Lord has delivered him! get's the job he was looking for... nearer to you and is actually more attractive than the other two. he will be moving in 2 weeks. he wants to go to church with you (to help in finding him a church home)

guy #2: moves further away from you to take on another job (in New Hampshire) and tells you his divorce wasn't final, that he's been seperated, but, now that it is really final (he has paper work to prove that its dated 2 weeks ago.) he felt comfortable telling you...now...after three month. He wants you to help him move and he will be leaving in 2 weeks. He's also Mormon.

guy #3: he's been acting pretty good. he lets you speak when you are having a conversation and has been consistant with this pattern of behavior for 2 weeks. he is going on a trip in 2 weeks and wants you to go. He's just found the Lord last Sunday and wants you to visit with him at church one sunday. He is Apostolic.

Does any of this change your decision or at least get you to rethink/wonder about your selection?

:confused:

[Brightness]

. . .can't we ever get the full scope upfront?

I've been down the married man path so I've asked to see the decree BEFORE proceeding. As for the MORMON, I ask religious affiliation during the get-to-know you process, just like I divulge and make an assessment of where I am in my spiritual walk.

Now, the job thing or getting delivered you can't foresee but some of that stuff you know before you decide to become exclusive.

And yes, my answer has changed to NONE OF THE ABOVE. . .these dudes are too secretive!!!

[que90nek]

so now brite goes with my original answer!

[lovely]

Before Hula added the update on the three brothers i would not have chosen either one of the three. Im not relocating for anybody. I cant deal with a control freak...nope. So i wouldnt have picked any of them. I have come to the realization that if i cant get what i want and need out of relationship without going through a whole bunch of mess than that relatiionship is not for me.

[14KBlaqWmn]

But aren't "messes" a part of life. How you deal with those "messes" help you to gain valuable knowledge and experience.

I'm not saying to subdue yourself to nonsense and put yourself in some deep drama. I'm just saying that sometimes when you've met someone worthwhile, things are not gonna be 100% perfect. Sometimes it takes a person to show that they care and that they are trying to make an effort to understand you inside and out.

Hula, my answer would change after the info you gave. I would choose guy #1. Good luck to you!!!

[mystkev]

Dang you messed up my relationship. I'd have to change my mind and go w/guy #1

[Tastey]

Originally posted by HulaSista+

guy #1: the Lord has delivered him! get's the job he was looking for... nearer to you and is actually more attractive than the other two. he will be moving in 2 weeks. he wants to go to church with you (to help in finding him a church home)


I knew I had winner. :D

[que90nek]

14k, messes are a part of life...but i don't have to let your mess become MINE. :D

[OhSoPrecious]

In that case, I think I'll take the Christian man also~!! :hearts: LOL

[que90nek]

i'm not very good at reading...
but there are now...TWO christians!

[14KBlaqWmn]

Originally posted by que90nek+
14k, messes are a part of life...but i don't have to let your mess become MINE. :D

True, but some "messes" aren't that deep. And that's what I was referring to. But I know you knew that already. ;)

[misha]

I don't want none of these men.

But if forced to choose, then i would go with number one.

[Vronni]

my choice would be #1.even if y'all don't up romantically ,he would probably be a good friend. You go girl!

[Juicey1]

Before the scenerio changed I probably would have just chilled and dated #1 & #2. I wouldn't be able to deal with #3 because we would always be into it. I have had a control nut and it will never happen to me again. I wouldn't move though. They would have to move to Dallas. I ain't volunteering to leave Texas.

Now, going with the second scenerio, I would have married #1 and lived happily ever after:D

[Admin]

Hell, the nigga could live in Anchorage Alaska:D...guy #2: is my choice..go for the stability. Hell, yall can always move! Easier to move than to find another man? I think.

Holla

[lightandlovely1]

I'm not sure between 1 and 2.

I was married to a negative person and the toll that it takes on you is a killer. However, if his attitude were ok, then I wouldn't be concerned about the other stuff. I trust God to keep me but I also believe that he means for me to get off my butt and try instead of sitting around waiting for things to happen. So it would depend on what # 1 was doing while he waited.

I always ask about religious affiliations in the first conversation or 2 so unless #2 told me he was a member of a cult or a non-christian, or opposed to christianity, I would be ok with him too. It's funny this came up because I just had to distance myself from someone who is an atheist. Darn shame because I like him otherwise. As far as moving to Idaho, I'd move if we had taken the time to build a relationship and were marrying. Of course, the move would be contingent upon us seriously considering my locale as a place to move as well.

#3 has issues that I wouldn't want to deal with.

Originally posted by HulaSista+
THIS IS ALL IN FUN.......


okay, I got a scenario for you.

You met these 3 men at the same time. Now it's time to date one exclusively cause you ready to focus on one brotha.......

guy #1: christian man, down on his luck, but he is workin and waiting for God to deliver him out of his bad times. chronic "sadness" in his life, yet, he still have faith that God will deliver no matter what. can't find anything to be happy for. yet he still waits for the Lord. says you are a person he would marry . never married, no kids, 2 years younger. marathon lover. ya haven't had sex, but, he's willign to wait until married to do it. DETERMINED in all things in life. lives in kansas.

guy #2: got a child, divorce, good man. established in his career. going to school. loves to travel. says you are a person he would marry . no sex yet. is willing to wait. promises a great life. can handle shit when it gets hard and tough. lives in idaho.

guy #3: just like #2, but, is a control freak and CUTS the conversation if it gets heated. he hates ALL FORMS of drama and debate. he believes there is no such thing as a GOOD debate. compliment his you left and right. has LITTLE patience, although he swears he does. says you are a person he would marry . lives locally near you.


who do you date?







Disclaimer: This is not me. I repeat. This is NOT me!

[lightandlovely1]

Oh hell, you've only known these knuckleheads 3 months? Seriousnbess requires more than 3 months so you can watch the slugs crawl out of the woodwork!

#1 was a good choice as long as he was proactive in his job search. I was married to the one who waited for stuff to fall in his lap.

#2 lied so he's DISMISSED!!!

#3 may still be in the running since I've only known these jokers 3 months.

I'd still take my time and see what happens.

[D2daO2da]

#1... showed patients and faith and for that he was rewarded and blessed. He know's that is not about him but his relationship with god... so he is your stronger of the three. He is the Gentleman, the person that acts out of love and lives with the fear of god. He has prayed for guidance and is blessed. Choose him... His heart is bigger.

#2.. Stretching the truth, what was he divorced for... He may be hiding assets from his Ex. Is he paying child support. Does he have custody. Will there be a thread about him being on Jerry Springer next week.

#3.. Needs time to mature into his faith. He has not been tested by the devil yet. So support his walk and let him know you are there. Tell him you are dating someone else and se what he says. He might flip on ya... If he still calls after that then he is a real friend and wasn't fronting.

D

[sistuhchey]

I agree with que,,,sorry Hula...NONE of the ABOVE!!!...Now if they wanted to continue to communicate with Chey for a year or more, then maybe we can decide....

I ain't moving ... on a promise....