busted...

[que90nek]

What would you do if you found a promissary note in the amount of $600 in your SO's house. A note between him/her and a "friend." One that you have never heard of.

[Melotic]

I don't think there is that much reason for concerned... After all, you said their house... They may already knew you didn't have it or you would bitch about giving it to them...

[que90nek]

and if you are married?

let me clarify....you found out your SO let somebody borrow $600.

[Melotic]

I would have a problem with my wife lending that amount of money, without my knowledge... But, if it's from her funds, she would have to deal with it... But, I won't lie I would question her willingness to help a friend... If it's a female, I probably won't be concerned... A male would be out of the question...

[que90nek]

so...
what's done is done though?
so if it was a guy that she loaned to...u would question her to death? divorce her? what?

[Sparkles]

Originally posted by Melotic+
I would have a problem with my wife lending that amount of money, without my knowledge... But, if it's from her funds, she would have to deal with it... But, I won't lie I would question her willingness to help a friend... If it's a female, I probably won't be concerned... A male would be out of the question...

I sort of agree with Melotic if it's her money, but how did the person come across the agreement?!?!!?

[que90nek]

they found the agreement...

i soandso agree to pay QUE back $600.

signed
soandso

[Sparkles]

was it her own money from her stash or joint account and was it friend of her that the so already knew they were friends.


It could very innocent-a friend helping a friend out!!!!

[que90nek]

in a marriage...do you really have YOUR OWN money?

but...let's just say it was the person's own bank account.

[Melotic]

It would seem as though she is up~to no good, if this is a male friend...

Melotic: "That's very dis~respectful, are you to doing something I should know about, if that's the case... I will step~aside..."

I would just question her integrity...

[Toffee]

I would question it.. There is no real thing as "your own money" any money out of your account going to someone else is less money coming into your household. I would question my husband. And if you really had good communication with each other it would have been brought up before the money left the account.

[D2daO2da]

I would bring it up..
Note to self... include this topic in my future s.o. quiz

I wouldn't trip because the promissary note is a legal document and is enforceable in a court of law. That was the smart thing.

I would however want to be included in future business loans. Male or Female doesn't matter. In my field the contract is more important. She could have lent the money without the not and will be more assed out if they didn't pay. Also I guess knowing the whole situation would help too.

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[HulaSista]

married or not, i would be perturbed.

and i've done it before. when the person didn't payback as agreed, i will be acting like a collection agency and calling on it my damn self.

[mack_black]

It depends on your level of comfortability with your S/O....
one thing that was not mentioned was the timeline....was it last week or last year..the timing makes all the difference in how this is handled........

[djackso]

Been in that situation & the best thing is to trust your S/O.

[que90nek]

very good question...timeline.

the date on the paper was over a year ago.

[HulaSista]

a year ago.....

okay....

so i guess s/o gonna have to tell me the truth on if the person paid back.

if yes, let it go and move on.

if no, i will start my collection efforts.