I'm Broke...But at the CLUB.

[que90nek]

What would you do...

If you had a friend...that is in financial strife...serious trouble. No job (in between temps), she's borrowed money from u in the past, ...issues.

You go to this club...and see her...you know it costs 10 bucks to get in....she sees you and buys YOU a drink...u see her with at least two other 5 dollar drinks...u realize that she has spent at least $25 just that nite.....

What do you think? What do you do?

[Mocha]

I would think she used the money I borrowed to her. Or she borrowed it from somebody else, or she really didnt pay for her drinks. But the bottom line is the loaning the money would stop because you can't keep doing that.

But just because she broke don't mean that she should be trapped at home. So I wouldn't make assumptions.

[que90nek]

what if u saw her pay for her own drinks...saw her pay her own way in the club...and remember...she bought YOU a drink too!

[D2daO2da]

I'd take a pic of her ass in the club then throw it in her face when she comes around for some dough. I don't lend money anyhow.. I'll write a check for the bill payable to your vendor.

[mystkev]

I would ask her if anything has changed for her financially (did she get a job, inherit some money). Depending on her answer, I might *remind* her that she owes me money.

[Vronni]

I would ask her what was up? Have things changed ? If no,I would tell her she should chill. Club should not be a priority when you're broke-especially not if it costs $10 just to get in and you are borrowing money to do it

[Mocha]

Well that is what I would do, ask her about her financial situation. If I am loaning her money then I can get deep down in her business, because she is obviously a friend. If she says she still does not have a job I would tell her, she needs to think smart. I understand she needs to get out and release stress, but spending money, probably my own money will not help the situation.

So then the next time she ask to borrow money ( a friend now) I would tell her this is the last time I am doing it or I just would make a decision and tell her I don't have the money. I have responsibilities as well.

[dulce]

been there with an ex-friend that was always having financial drama: no food for the child, car not due, short on the rent...her sista-girl network shrunk drastically after we kept seeing her at clubs & events...always in a new outfit! And we did ask and yes, she bought the gear and the drinks, etc...some of the sistas still deal with her but I had to cut her loose cuz friends don't play friends...

[OhSoPrecious]

I would just think that she's not having financial issues at that time. . and would wait to see how long it takes her to ask to borrow money from me again~!! :rolleyes:

[Brightness]

. . .I'm saying, don't we have any love for the broke women trying to go out and get their mind off their troubles? Maybe she donated plasma earlier that day. . .maybe she volunteered for one of those scientific studies they pay you for. . .recycled some papers and cans for a little change. . .


Originally posted by Mocha+

But just because she broke don't mean that she should be trapped at home. So I wouldn't make assumptions.

[SoftNwet]

I am all about getting your mind off things, that is understanable to want to get out and chill. But this girl isnot only clubbing but also getting a drink for you like it is all good. I am sorry I would have to take a pass on the drink and get her to give me the $$$ on what she owes me. How she gonna be hangin out on your dime. What if something came up on your side and you needed your money.........she won't have it because she drank it all up at the club!!!

[Tastey]

When I loan someone money it's not based on a condition that they spend it on what I think is best. The loan is made for X amount of dollars to be paid back at whatever time.

In my opinion what the person does in between or with that money is not my concern.

If I loan a friend $100 to pay her electric bill and see her at the club that night it's not my bizness. I mean for all I know she paid her electric bill, and then borrowed $30 from someone else to go to the club. If she didn't pay it...who cares...her ass is the one that's gotta sit in the dark not mine.

The ONLY way I'd care was if she still owed me money, the agreed upon deadline has passed and I knew she had it and was not giving it back. But even then, I know that anytime you loan money you take a risk of not getting it back.

That's why I have never and will never borrow money from anyone outside my immediate family (although I may loan it) because people believe that if they loan you money in a tight squeeze they now have the right to tell you how to handle your personal finances. I don't believe that simply because someone has more money than me that they know how to manage it better than me. It just may be that we've run into different situations and different circumstances in life. My family knows and agrees if a loan is made it's just that...a loan...not a license into my life.

[14KBlaqWmn]

Originally posted by Tastey+

If I loan a friend $100 to pay her electric bill and see her at the club that night it's not my bizness. I mean for all I know she paid her electric bill, and then borrowed $30 from someone else to go to the club. If she didn't pay it...who cares...her ass is the one that's gotta sit in the dark not mine.


But not only will she be in the dark, but you'll be out of $100 that you may not see again.

I only loan money to folks IF and only IF I can afford to GIVE it to them since there is no real guarantee that they will pay it back.

[sistuhchey]

Friends have been there.....when I'm broke don't feel like clubbin!!!..I don't do well with no $$$...leave me alone!!!..I'm not very good company...:blah:

[Tastey]

Originally posted by 14KBlaqWmn+


But not only will she be in the dark, but you'll be out of $100 that you may not see again.

I only loan money to folks IF and only IF I can afford to GIVE it to them since there is no real guarantee that they will pay it back.

That's a given when you loan money, it has nothing to do with her being at the club.

What if she was at the movies, and out to dinner too. I just didn't see that part.

It's not my bizness, the only thing that's my bizness is the money I loaned. For all I know she's borrowing money all over town.

[lightandlovely1]

I'd remind her that she owes me money and I wouldn't loan her anymore.

[mack_black]

If I do lend out the money....

I really dont expect to get it back...so if I do then you're a star in my book.....

so if I saw this scenario going down....I would know that she's straight...but would file a memo in the back of my head not to fall for the "I cant feed my kids and need 20.00 till payday" line ever again with the chick......

and Id make sure she bought me two more double remy martins ;)

[seductive_tee]

I wouldn't do anything, but waitto see if she gives me my money before the night is over...if not...no more money.....

[PecanTan]

Learn from your mistakes, friends and money don't mix.:upretty