For the Singles...

[Bedroomeyes]

Should you date more that one person at a time??

I was reading my new Jet magazine and this was one of the topics.. So what do you think?

[que90nek]

yes date a handful...
but narrow them down...to one...then give commitment a chance...if that is what they want too.

[mystkev]

I date more than one guy at a time. They are all different and fun to be around. If only I could roll the part of each personality that I like into 1 guy, I would be one happy lady.

[Tastey]

Dating more than one person is cool as long as everyone involved knows that their is nothing exclusive or shady going on.

[HulaSista]

yes...you should

yes...i do

it gives me a chance to learn about myself and how i get along with different personalities.

it gives me a chance to test my tolerance and patience level for the opposite sex

it gives me a chance to see (without telling) what i like and don't like about the opposite sex so that i can narrow down what i need and don't need in that committed relationship in the future...

it is fun

they all know upfront what is up; if they are lookin for commitment, i do not date them, because, our purpose in the dating process will end up a fork in the road and someone's heart will be broken...

and when i am ready to narrow thangs down, i will.

[seductive_tee]

Sure date more than one, as long as the other person knows and doesn't have a problem with it.

[14KBlaqWmn]

I think it's best to date one person at a time. If you date multiple people a couple things could happen:
1. You may end up really digging both and not sure who to choose

2. You're spreading yourself too thin making it harder to really focus on one person (possibility of overlooking some critical info)

It's not worth all the drama to go out with folks simultaneously.

[HulaSista]

you know what 14k, it's actually no drama at all. its makes for some funny experience and when you host a party, you can invite everyone to bring their own dates, because, you're not serious with them anyways. :beer:

the only way you can spread yourself thin is if you WANT a committed relationship, and can't see straight for all the numbers that get dropped on you. if we're single and waiting (per se), we're not suppose to be lookin that hard, are we?

the one that i am suppose to be with, as i was told, will MAKE IT A POINT to be the only one you'll want to date and you have no other choice but to stop and look at him and focus enough to question: should i? try? even then, you may find that you don't want a relationship with him cause you have given yourself time to get to know that person anyhow.

also, i maintain ONE criteria the guy must have in order for me to even take him seriously for talk on relationship and exclusively dating each other. so that i hold true to that, i don't think i'll be missing out on the wrong brotha.

i am not wanting a committed relationship, and don't believe i will over look anyone.

plus...most dates takes weeks to happen because each person is considerate of time and life that the other person have. by the time you go on the date you have talked enough to feel comfortable on the first date and you already pretty much know what you go do with them (second date, friends only, etc...)

i find there are a lot of guys i am diggin, and, they are diggin me, but to stay true to myself, and my personal commitments to get my self together (job, money, spiritual life) we choose to agree that we are attracted and if it is meant to be...yada yada yada...blah blah blah, etc, etc, etc, et al... ;)

[Toffee]

I date more than one person at a time. Helps you narrow things down. And sometimes you don't want a monogamous relationship because of your different reasons.

14K these guys that u only date one at a time are they showing u the same respect. Because if they are I consider that a committed relationship... And if you are only seeing them and they are seeing Becky and Sue also then it would seem that they are playing you.

[OhSoPrecious]

I say date a few. . . who cares what people might think~!! :blah: Afterall, life is too short to limit yourself~!! :upretty

[Brightness]

I think it depends on where your head is at and where you are in the dating scene. Sometimes you are out for companionship and can't get all your needs/wants met by one man so you date others simultaneously. One man has similar interests as you, one man has mad conversation & intelligence, another might appeal to your sense of adventure and then there's always the one that can lay it down on you just right but they never like to go anywhere and you wish they would keep their damned mouth shut. . .

On the flip side, when you are seeking a more committed, monogamous relationship then you tend to deal with men on a one-on-one basis like 14K said. That way you can make sure that person is getting your undivided attention and you're not busy juggling your datebook. Sometimes you can 'play' yourself and miss out on a good thing.

[14KBlaqWmn]

Hey, if you want to date numerous people, that's on you. Like I said, my personal preference is to date one person at a time.

[14KBlaqWmn]

Originally posted by Toffee+
14K these guys that u only date one at a time are they showing u the same respect. Because if they are I consider that a committed relationship... And if you are only seeing them and they are seeing Becky and Sue also then it would seem that they are playing you.

The majority of the men that I have gone out with, I have not had any problems with them not respecting me. And to me a committed relationship is a lot more than the one man dating one woman thing.

In fact, the whole relationship concept is very deep to me. The reason why I don't allow for half-stepping. Usually after 1 or 2 dates, I know what level I want this person to have in my life, and I try to get a sense of what level that person wants me in his life. Since my separation from my ex-husband 4 years ago, there have only been 3 men that have even piqued my interest to consider dating them further. And believe me it's not an easy task to get me to really like someone. Currently, I am seeing someone that IS seeing only me, but we're nowhere near a committed relationship. Again, there's a lot involved in having a committed relationship other than just not seeing other people.

[14KBlaqWmn]

Originally posted by Brightness+
I think it depends on where your head is at and where you are in the dating scene. Sometimes you are out for companionship and can't get all your needs/wants met by one man so you date others simultaneously. One man has similar interests as you, one man has mad conversation & intelligence, another might appeal to your sense of adventure and then there's always the one that can lay it down on you just right but they never like to go anywhere and you wish they would keep their damned mouth shut. . .

On the flip side, when you are seeking a more committed, monogamous relationship then you tend to deal with men on a one-on-one basis like 14K said. That way you can make sure that person is getting your undivided attention and you're not busy juggling your datebook. Sometimes you can 'play' yourself and miss out on a good thing.

Bingo. And my head is not trying to get into different people and different personalities. I need a one-man-does-it-all.

[nubianx2]

When I'm not looking for a committed relationship, dating more than one man at a time is the answer. I have no problem letting them know that we are not exclusive, it's up to them to either go with the flow or not. Life is way too short to spend time not enjoying it.

[lovely]

I will date more than one person at a time. But i will only sleep with one person on a regular basis.
In dating more than one person..i make it known that he is not the only person i am seeing. If things were to become serious with one person..then i wouldnt have a problem ending the other relationships.

[Mocha]

If I am dating it is usually one person, I find that mutiples can be very demanding. If it doesn't work then I move on, but more then one is too confusing and sometimes I think that hinders an individual to get closer to you if he know you are not really focus on him and trying to build from the situation your in now.

Now that is only for those who only chose to be open like that. But that would be too much for me.

[Vronni]

For me, I might "kick it" with more than 1 person at a time,but I would only consider myself "dating" one person at a time. When I am serious about someone then I am focused on just them....

[D2daO2da]

Date as much as you can...

Date doesn't equal sex

Get your dates on:
Breakfast date,
Lunch Date,
Dinner Date,
Make sure Dinner Date don't stay over to become breakfast date.. well not right away.

He he He

Dating is healthy. It's great to socialize and to get out and get some air. You can also see things you haven't seen or done before.

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by 14KBlaqWmn+
I need a one-man-does-it-all.

Me too, girl~!! ;) Just haven't found that one yet~!! :rolleyes: Which is why I don't mind dating more than one~!! :upretty

[Melotic]

Originally posted by 14KBlaqWmn+
I think it's best to date one person at a time. If you date multiple people a couple things could happen:
1. You may end up really digging both and not sure who to choose

2. You're spreading yourself too thin making it harder to really focus on one person (possibility of overlooking some critical info)

It's not worth all the drama to go out with folks simultaneously.

It's hard to choose... Some~times you don't want, nor do you have to choose... Those are days of youth...

[Brightness]

We're kinda like. . .victims of circumstance on that tip. . .lol


Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+


Me too, girl~!! ;) Just haven't found that one yet~!! :rolleyes: Which is why I don't mind dating more than one~!! :upretty

[scoops]

Originally posted by Bedroomeyes
Should you date more that one person at a time??

I was reading my new Jet magazine and this was one of the topics.. So what do you think?

Yes date as many as you can, you'll never know if that person is the right one if you dont know whats out there.