Sometimes I feel....

[lovely]

that i am so ignorant and inexperienced when it comes to sex. I want to know everything and do everything. But i am a good girl. I am striving to be Christlike..not doing a good job though:( Sometimes i just want to give up on my relationship with God so i can do what i want. But then again..i know that I wouldnt be where i am today if it werent for him and his grace in my life. Its just a confusing place to be.

I needed to get that off my chest.

[mack_black]

This sounds like you aint getting enough that you need on the regular...cuz I'll tell ya..if ya squeezed your legs and felt that l'il pain that made you remember the last night....

you wouldnt be confessing ;)

probably 'regular' for you would be like 3X a day right? LOL...

[que90nek]

well...
lovely...u don't have to have multiple partners to learn the ropes...but if u have the RIGHT partner...he/she.....I mean HE will take the time to help u to explore yourself....help u to cum out of yourself....
but...i blame your more experienced partner.

[davinci]

my advice would be act like a man. we don't really care if you're satisfied. i bust mine, you better get yours;) seriously. sounds like you're putting undo pressure on yourself. throw caution to the wind. and to bust a "U" on you...foresaking God to bone has some seriously fuckuppedness to me. we all sinnahs...ha...and we all go thru phases...ha...but the lord understands...ha...sorry worry not...ha...because the prodigal son (or daughter in this case) will always be loved by the father (or mother, depending on your views)...ha!

me, mack and que can stop over for some tutoring........

[HulaSista]

lovely..... i feel you......

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by lovely+
I am striving to be Christlike..not doing a good job though:( Sometimes i just want to give up on my relationship with God so i can do what i want. But then again..i know that I wouldnt be where i am today if it werent for him and his grace in my life. Its just a confusing place to be.

Lovely,
Growing up in a strict religious home I can definitely feel you on this. You have to keep in mind that your spritual walk is specific to you and although you've been raised a certain way, you also know that some of your upbring was extreme. Continue to pray and seek God daily knowing that while you are not perfect he is a forgiving and passionate God.

[davinci]

Originally posted by nubianx2+


Lovely,
Growing up in a strict religious home I can definitely feel you on this. You have to keep in mind that your spritual walk is specific to you and although you've been raised a certain way, you also know that some of your upbring was extreme. Continue to pray and seek God daily knowing that while you are not perfect he is a forgiving and passionate God.
welllllllllllllll

[que90nek]

lovely...
stay pure....
find you a husband and explore all those areas at THAT time!

ok...i said it...

now...what were some of those things that you don't think that you know? what is this "everything?"

[mystkev]

Don't give up on your relationship w/God for anything.

Lovely, you don't have to know everything, maybe you can work on one sexual thing at a time. I've had this problem, where I wanted to please the guy and was always worried that I wasn't good enough when it came to sex, especially oral.

So I asked a very good friend to be my "mentor". I would practice w/him once a week. Now, I know that I can do a good job, but really he did not teach me anything new I just needed to be more confident in my abilities.

[que90nek]

"mentor?"
where do i sign up....
and once a week...WHOA!

[mystkev]

Originally posted by que90nek+
"mentor?"
where do i sign up....
and once a week...WHOA!
You're on the other side of the country I don't think it would work out.

[seductive_tee]

Ya'll men are something else.

Lovely...you're rushing it...maybe it's not time you know all you "think" you need to know. In all due time......

[que90nek]

what is it that she think she don't know...

yeah...i'm all the way over here....

mentoring is fun though. :upto:

[Bedroomeyes]

I think we all wanna be confident and make sure we're doing it right.. But Lovely... How can you say you're inexperienced.. Some of the stories that you tell ... You are hardly inexperienced..... :upto:

[que90nek]

thats why i'm asking what it is that she think she don't know...

[lovely]

Not inexperienced as far as not knowing how to have sex..i just want to have more of it...to do everything..toys, video cameras...sex in front of people...with people i dont know..tieing up folk..being tied up. Things i havent done.

[davinci]

Originally posted by lovely+
Not inexperienced as far as not knowing how to have sex..i just want to have more of it...to do everything..toys, video cameras...sex in front of people...with people i dont know..tieing up folk..being tied up. Things i havent done.

whoa!...oh...hmmm...i see...okay...ah ha...mmmm.........

[que90nek]

did u forget the threesome with two ques and you....:upto:

[davinci]

Originally posted by que90nek+
did u forget the threesome with two ques and you....:upto:
fa sho!

[seductive_tee]

Lovely...go to a swing party......

[mystkev]

For toys try: Good Vibrations (http://www.goodvibes.com)
If you have any sex clubs in your area maybe you should go to one of them. Like seductivetee said go to a swing party.

[davinci]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
Lovely...go to a swing party...... or we can bring it to you.....

[Vronni]

lovely, please don't give up on your relationship for Christ for anyone. It's much too important.You are stressing yourself unnecesarily,in my opinion. Most people learn just by experience,which takes time. But again,I would say don't forsake your spirituality for anything.

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by davinci+
or we can bring it to you.....

Minus myself of course...been there done that and don't plan to do it again....especially with ya'll.....

[mack_black]

Originally posted by lovely+
Not inexperienced as far as not knowing how to have sex..i just want to have more of it...to do everything..toys, video cameras...sex in front of people...with people i dont know..tieing up folk..being tied up. Things i havent done.

just like I thought.....a hot ass leo who aint gettin enuf...
maybe you need a Mentor to practice with... :D
Im sure Que will provide mentoring services for ya ;)

[que90nek]

gentlemen...gentlemen...

i am married
and
i live too far away...

right?

[davinci]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+


Minus myself of course...been there done that and don't plan to do it again....especially with ya'll..... meant to lovely. sorry for the confusion;)

[Brightness]

I agree with Vronni and the other 'sensible folkz' :p who stress continuing in your relationship with Christ. Oftentimes, Satan tempts us and succeeds when it comes to sexual indiscretions. If we strive to achieve the status that God requires of us then a lot of time we don't have time for all the extra-curricular activities and/or extreme degrading things to which we subject our bodies.

And before I come off sounding haughty or 'holier-than-thou' I've been through feeling something similar to what you mentioned.

I think it's funny that mystkev used the term MENTOR because that's how I've referred to my 'sexual teacher' years ago and people would look at me strange when I said it. I had a MENTOR when I was 19 who turned me the heck out. He took me places I'd never been, quite a few I've never been back to (consciously) until I find a life-partner to share them with.

Basically, there's nothing wrong with having fantasies, preferences and fully knowing your sexual boundaries. Actually, that's quite healthy. . .it only becomes detrimental when you feel compromised or seek those type of interactions to break from tradition.

I hope that makes sense and I didn't digress too much from the topic.


Originally posted by Vronni+
lovely, please don't give up on your relationship for Christ for anyone. It's much too important.You are stressing yourself unnecesarily,in my opinion. Most people learn just by experience,which takes time. But again,I would say don't forsake your spirituality for anything.

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by lovely+
that i am so ignorant and inexperienced when it comes to sex.

The Hush will make you feel that way~!! :rolleyes: Like you don't know shyt and have been doing it all wrong~!! :hammer Have you wanting to go out and try STUFF~!! LOL (just like I did)

I felt the same way at some point. . but, guess what~?? :eek: I do know shyt and have been doing it all right~!! :D :D

Btw, very well said Bright~!!! :)

[lightandlovely1]

Originally posted by lovely+
that i am so ignorant and inexperienced when it comes to sex. I want to know everything and do everything. But i am a good girl. I am striving to be Christlike..not doing a good job though:( Sometimes i just want to give up on my relationship with God so i can do what i want. But then again..i know that I wouldnt be where i am today if it werent for him and his grace in my life. Its just a confusing place to be.

I needed to get that off my chest.

I wouldn't worry about what it is that you don't know. When you get with the right man, he will teach you what it is that you need to know to please him - just like you will teach a man to please you.

As far as your relationship with God, coming from a religious home myself - and still trying to stay on the right path myself - I've chosen to accept that sex is a gift from God. Whether I'm right or wrong in my perceptions, is between God and myself. The most important thing is to not allow guilt to separate you from God.

[davinci]

well said.