BOOTY CALL and CUDDLING?

[que90nek]

Ladies...please explain to me the relevance behind me being your booty call and YOU wanting to cuddle when I get there! Please explain....if i'm just a booty call......

Please define cuddling too...maybe i don't understand!

[lovely]

and i really dont know that answer to tell the truth. I think for me i equate sex with some type of emotion. I have never had sex with someone that i dont have some type of feeling for....it could be that i "like" you or something stronger so because cuddling makes the whole sex thang more intimate..i really need to have it after sex. I have never just had sex with someone because i was phsyically attracted to him and nothing more....if so i would be having sex all the time(not a bad thought though). Anyways...back to they question...why do i want to cuddle after sex..if its just a booty call? Because i like to cuddle...i like the intimacy of cuddling.

Cuddling for me after sex consists of holding me...usually spooning although i do like to lay my head on his chest. I like to touch..arms, back, chest, face, thighs. I like to hold his stuff and feel it soften in my hand. I like to kiss. I like to feel my legs intertwined with his. I like to talk. I like for him to touch my breasts...but not the same way you touch them during foreplay and sex. ...just hold them. I like to kiss. I like to look too. Watch him sleep...watch him while i kiss him cause i like to kiss.

Maybe i just havent had what everyone else calls a "booty call".

[que90nek]

is there a man that enjoys spooning...YUCK! :blah:

[Juicey1]

For me, after sex cuddling is something I love. Its a winding down period for me. Once I am totally relaxed and ready to go to sleep, then I will turn over on my left side and get into position and go to sleep.

But when I was doing the booty call thang back in the day, it was just that, a booty call. After we got through wearing each other out, we would just go to sleep or leave.

I love to cuddle with the one I love:hearts:

[dulce]

I don't understand the cuddling with the booty calls...that makes it seem like there is something else going on. For me a booty call is minimal talking unless its during the humpin'...my last call was upset cuz I didn't kiss him (okay - that was kinda wrong...) and I wouldn't spend the night. I was like "damn nukka, we ain't in love!"

[mack_black]

booty calls and cuddling just dont go together...if your so-called booty call came in and y'all are cuddling afterwards...that person aint no booty call....

as juicy said..a booty call is skrait-up fucking to the point of wearing it out (be it the dick or the pussy)...then ya slip out while your worn out partner is ........zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[lovely]

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[HulaSista]

Originally posted by mack_black+
...then ya slip out while your worn out partner is ........zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

can you at least leave a note nukka? i hate that shit. come to my house, i ain't waking up to unlock the two gates that guard my door and front yard. betta climb the fence.... :blah:

ya'll already know how i feel..... you seen my other thread....

but i had a coupla guys who wanted to cuddle with me. i thought it was normal.

que....you no like spooning? lol shoulda known.....

[nubianx2]

Originally posted by mack_black+
booty calls and cuddling just dont go together...if your so-called booty call came in and y'all are cuddling afterwards...that person aint no booty call....

AMEN!!!!

[lovely]

when i call a brotha who i am only phsyically attracted to...we screw each other brains out...and then he gets up and leave..... Just like that?

Doesnt sound appealing to me:(

[que90nek]

it's all in how u do it lovely...all about expectations....most times the booty call is the one that you don't want to stay over...that is ...u want him to sneak in...at nite...and get out before day lite...

but having that person stay to spoon ... is not a cool thing to do...
i can see spooning before serious SLEEP...but spoonin just for the sake of spoonin....if u can't feel secure and wanted and loved and all that while i'm stickin it in ya...then perhaps we shouldnt continue....

[dulce]

definitely depends on the person & what's going on with you at the time. If you just need a tune-up, then a booty call is the ticket. Just make sure the other party is on the same page. Some of the best sex I've had was with a booty call that couldn't hold a literate conversation but didn't matter cuz he was fine as hell and he hit it until I lost my voice anyway...

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by que90nek+
if u can't feel secure and wanted and loved and all that while i'm stickin it in ya...then perhaps we shouldnt continue....

can you show allllllllll that while you stickin it in? really? i didn't think that was possible.........

[mystkev]

I don't cuddle or kiss my booty calls. For me it's just a physical thing, you give me what I need and I give you what you need, then we are through. As soon as we're done, I go home, I don't spend the night, I don't want a conversation.

A booty call is supposed to be someone you call up for the ass alone, nothing more.

I know a guy that likes spooning, more so than me. I like my space.

[que90nek]

actually...it can be done....u have to be feelin the individual just a little bit before the stickin happens....

[lovely]

feeling secure and wanted and loved...cause i dont get those feelings from cuddling....its just something that i like. Everyone that i have had sex with..i definitly dont love. Intamicy and love are two complete different things. I have learned to feel loved, secure and wanted without a man. Sex doenst have anything to do with those feelings.

[que90nek]

so why do u love to cuddle, again?

because u like the feel of his manhood on your back?
because it makes it more intimate?

well what is intimacy...maybe i don't understand?

[lovely]

is feeling close to someone. I have never had sex with someone just to have sex with them. Feelings are usually evident..to some extent. Cuddling just extends that. I love to cuddle because it to me is closure to the act of sex..i enjoy it...it feels nice..i love the closeness(not security..or love or the feeling of being wanted)...the feeling of two bodies pressed together..but not in sex. I yearn for intimacy...sometimes more than the act of sex. But that doesnt mean that i need security, love or to be wanted.

But maybe this just stems from the fact that i have never had a "booty call'. So the next person i am attracted to..i will have sex with and then get up and leave. And i will let my Hush fam know how it went.

Okay que?

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by mack_black+
booty calls and cuddling just dont go together...if your so-called booty call came in and y'all are cuddling afterwards...that person aint no booty call....

AMEN Mack...I agree 100%

Cuddling invloves emotions...booty calls don't!

[que90nek]

Originally posted by lovely+
is feeling close to someone. I have never had sex with someone just to have sex with them. Feelings are usually evident..to some extent. Cuddling just extends that. I love to cuddle because it to me is closure to the act of sex..i enjoy it...it feels nice..i love the closeness(not security..or love or the feeling of being wanted)...the feeling of two bodies pressed together..but not in sex. I yearn for intimacy...sometimes more than the act of sex. But that doesnt mean that i need security, love or to be wanted.

But maybe this just stems from the fact that i have never had a "booty call'. So the next person i am attracted to..i will have sex with and then get up and leave. And i will let my Hush fam know how it went.

Okay que?

no, lovely. you should do what makes u feel comfortable...but your expanded sexual desires may require u to relax your requirements, but it shouldnt let folks fall beneath the standard...
u can beat around the bush all u want...but...do what works for u. u are not gonna run out and have sex....its not u.

[dulce]

lovely, ain't nuttin' wrong with never having had a booty call.

I think they just serve their purpose when you are not fortunate enough to have someone that means something to you to be intimate with. In my post, I said SOME of the best sex I had was a booty call but not ALL of it...

[lovely]

Originally posted by que90nek+


no, lovely. you should do what makes u feel comfortable...but your expanded sexual desires may require u to relax your requirements, but it shouldnt let folks fall beneath the standard...
u can beat around the bush all u want...but...do what works for u. u are not gonna run out and have sex....its not u.


Its funny that you would tie this in with the other thread. You are very true...its not me just to run out and have sex. But i actually would like to do that...let down my guard and have sex with someone i dont know..and dont care about. There is a first time for everything:)

[que90nek]

i would suggest a compromise....

get to know them
but perhaps u won't be in love...
perhaps u will not be committed ... nor will they...
perhaps....

it will be....

FUN FUN FUN :upto:

make sure it is somebody that doesnt mind helping u to release...yourself.

[Toffee]

I always thought that with a booty call you don't even have to talk to them let alone cuddle..

[D2daO2da]

You mean you stay after the booty call.

OK.. if it's an ex girlfriend.. I'll get my cuddle on.

If it's a super freak.. I leave my tip.

If it's a friend and I am dick in a glass case.. I slap her high five when I'm done, then i'm out.
D

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by D2daO2da
.. I slap her high five when I'm done, then i'm out.
D

i did that once! lol :D

[lightandlovely1]

I can't speak for anyone else but I want the booty call to GO HOME (or somewhere) afterwards. I don't want to cuddle or anything else. I just want to go to sleep (if he did it right)!

I have a booty call partner who insists on staying and cuddling up with me afterwards. Annoys the hell out of me but he's ooooohhh sooooo good to me that I do still see him on occasion.

The only man that I want to cuddle with would be one that I'm involved with and I want to cuddle up with him before and after (and sometimes in the middle).

[lightandlovely1]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+


AMEN Mack...I agree 100%

Cuddling invloves emotions...booty calls don't!

My booty calls involve emotions - the emotion involved is release!!!

[lovely]

Originally posted by lovely
and i really dont know that answer to tell the truth. I think for me i equate sex with some type of emotion. I have never had sex with someone that i dont have some type of feeling for....it could be that i "like" you or something stronger so because cuddling makes the whole sex thang more intimate..i really need to have it after sex. I have never just had sex with someone because i was phsyically attracted to him and nothing more....if so i would be having sex all the time(not a bad thought though). Anyways...back to they question...why do i want to cuddle after sex..if its just a booty call? Because i like to cuddle...i like the intimacy of cuddling.

Cuddling for me after sex consists of holding me...usually spooning although i do like to lay my head on his chest. I like to touch..arms, back, chest, face, thighs. I like to hold his stuff and feel it soften in my hand. I like to kiss. I like to feel my legs intertwined with his. I like to talk. I like for him to touch my breasts...but not the same way you touch them during foreplay and sex. ...just hold them. I like to kiss. I like to look too. Watch him sleep...watch him while i kiss him cause i like to kiss.

Maybe i just havent had what everyone else calls a "booty call".

OMG..I SAID THIS.

oh how times have changed.

[HulaSista]

if you're visiting with someone for the weekend, sexing blah blah blah... are they still a booty call? or all they just the HLF status at that point? are you still allowed to cuddle?

[MR REMI RED]

Originally posted by dulce
I said SOME of the best sex I had was a booty call but not ALL of it...

HOLLA BACK !!!!
HAve we ???? naw i would have remeba'd in any other lifetime too !!! :D

Originally posted by HulaSista
if you're visiting with someone for the weekend, sexing blah blah blah... are they still a booty call? or all they just the HLF status at that point? are you still allowed to cuddle?

with PROPER understanding and conversation YES ,, WEEKEND LONG/short distance BOOTY CALL.....

spooning ... NAW i'll pass ,,,,,save that stuff for the wifey types....:blah:


but im REMI (MR .RED if ya NASTY !) so i will lay there till just b4 the MORNING DAWN comes up.. and WARNING i will GROPE you in the middle of the nite ....

if ya BUILT right its BODY PARTS that FIT PERFECTLY in my hands while im asleep!!!

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by MR REMI RED
spooning ... NAW i'll pass ,,,,,save that stuff for the wifey types....:blah: !!!

types? like... spooning reserved for committed relationships? ok...

[RemiRed]

Originally posted by HulaSista


types? like... spooning reserved for committed relationships? ok...
Originally posted by seductive_tee
Cuddling invloves emotions...booty calls don't!

nuff said
:D :evil:

some people talk to the other person thru HARDCORE fuckin ,,,, some talk with their hands....

i'll say "WHO' im SPEAKing to DETERMINDS HOW i speak to dem !:D

[dulce]

I don't know about ya'll but I've "cuddled" with a freak buddy...maybe it cuz we were friends but sometimes you just need that hug or back rub or whateva...I've had 'em do that and paint my toenails...

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by dulce
I don't know about ya'll but I've "cuddled" with a freak buddy...maybe it cuz we were friends but sometimes you just need that hug or back rub or whateva...I've had 'em do that and paint my toenails...

i've had one give me a shower... ask me out to dinner... lunch... dulce... i think you're right... if you are friends... it puts a spin on things...

[dulce]

oh girl! did he wash ya hair? that's the ticket right there! will relax the hell outta me...

[dejavu]

Originally posted by que90nek
Ladies...please explain to me the relevance behind me being your booty call and YOU wanting to cuddle when I get there! Please explain....if i'm just a booty call......

Please define cuddling too...maybe i don't understand!

The reasoning for the cuddling is simple just a state of comfort...after some good sex its like a kid that sucks his/her thumb... a sign of comfort...

Would you rather us say okay I got mine so you can go?

[HulaSista]

state of comfort... i like that explaination


Originally posted by dejavu
Would you rather us say okay I got mine so you can go?

i've said this before. and i was surprised how... hurt they were...

Originally posted by dulce
oh girl! did he wash ya hair? that's the ticket right there! will relax the hell outta me...

daaaaaaaaaaayum... i need to try to work that out... *scribbling in note pad* ... i know you have had the pleasure of being compared to ( lol )... (him: i can't find a woman who's level headed like you!) (me: there there, it's okay "pat on head" ... she'll come soon enough )

[RemiRed]

Originally posted by dejavu
after some good sex its like a kid that sucks his/her thumb... a sign of comfort...


kids huh .....

so what do GROWN WOMEN put in their moufs nower days ....... i know a way to MAKE ME COMFORTABLE as ALL HELL !!!!:D