Negroes & hair!!!..(Pulling from Toffee's thread!!)!!!

[sistuhchey]

WHY IS THIS STILL A ISSUE!!!!....:blah: :fu

Long, short, nappy, straight,braided, bought, sewn,glued...or just your own damn hair!!!!....WTF!!!!

why, are we so stuck on stupid about hair???? So if your hair is long does that make you a better person??? or if it's short does that make you ugly???...DAMN!!!! come on sistuhs, can't we get pass this????

I think it has to do with the Black man and the White women obession:blah: :blah:

[mystkev]

I think the obsession comes from years of being told that we were not good enough our hair (too nappy), skin tone (too dark), noses (too broad),etc.

It's hard for some people to get past that, especially if you are raised to value longer hair, lighter skin or thinner noses. For me it does not matter.

People w/these features may not see themselves as being better, but people w/issues might think they think that (Am I making sense?).

For example my cousin is fair skinned w/green eyes, she is the sweetest person that I know, but she used to get into a fight a least once a week. According to the girls she thought she was too good. It was there own insecurities not her attitude.

[que90nek]

i was thinkin this same thing...lookin at the other thread....it seems like the problem rests with US...we perpetuate the lie...that the longer your hair the better, the skinnier the better, the lighter your eyes, the fairer your skin...etc etc....

[dulce]

I just got a "hair" comment the other day that - while it usually rolls off my back - really just kinda stuck with me and pissed me off...Talking with a couple of sisters, one just got a new cut and we were admiring it - convo moved on to hair care and in the middle of the everything, this other sista looked at me and said "You wash your hair everyday? Aww, that's some white girl shit! We oughta take your black card back." What the fuck? Like wavy hair negates my blackness?

[misha]

I have witnessed this with my daughter. She has had to endure those kind of comments her entire life.

I remember when she was little, being embarrased because her hair was long....she said that other kids laughed at her because they claimed that couldn't possibly be her hair.

I also remember the questions and the snickers when I would call her into the house to put on sunblock. She has fair skin and would sunburn badly every summer. how many times I saw her cringe when one of her friends would accuse her of trying to be white. Once one of them asked me if my daughter was white. NO! I answered, and stomped away pissed off to no end.

[14KBlaqWmn]

I think it's that the woman is jealous of the person that has what they don't and wish they could have.

[dulce]

I guess I look at it as the last stubborn vestiges of the "divide and conquer" bullshit that's been sprinkled over us by the european culture. It's jealousy and ignorance. I have heard - and immediately corrected - friends & family when I hear them talking about their kids and their nappy hair or how dark they are. Black folks have enough to deal with out in the world without feeling insecure about what we look like...I appreciate us in all our variations and wish more of us did, too.

[Toffee]

I remember kicking this girl's ass when I was in 6th Grade.. I got off the school bus.. and the neighborhood school was letting out.. someone behind me was saying "white girl, white girl" I kept walking cause I knew that wasn't me. Then I get shoved.... Oh it was on now.. cause u know a girl can't go home after she got her ass kicked... I tore her up...
I'm not the lightest sister on the block nor the darkest.. so I can't understand y she would say that. But as a child I was more concerned about winning the fight...
And u would think things would change the older we get.. but they don't..

[dulce]

And u would think things would change the older we get.. but they don't.. (Toffee)

ain't it a shame that they don't?

[mystkev]

Originally posted by Toffee+
And u would think things would change the older we get.. but they don't..

The people doing that when they were kids are the same ones doing it as adults. What's truly sad is that they pass the same line of thinking on to their children?

[sistuhchey]

Originally posted by dulce+
I guess I look at it as the last stubborn vestiges of the "divide and conquer" bullshit that's been sprinkled over us by the european culture. It's jealousy and ignorance. I have heard - and immediately corrected - friends & family when I hear them talking about their kids and their nappy hair or how dark they are. Black folks have enough to deal with out in the world without feeling insecure about what we look like...I appreciate us in all our variations and wish more of us did, too.

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Thank You!!!!...(very well put)

[dulce]

Thanks Sistachey, glad ya feel me on this cuz I feel really strongly about it...

[davinci]

my nana (n. - grandmother. often used to replace such term.), god bless her, is an asshole. she's old south and she shows favoritism to my light cousins. she hates keeblers, but she hates dark negroes. she loves my son when she's not accusing him of trying to burn down the house (my ex is very light, though her fam is med complectided--her mom is bad!, i digress;) ) anyhoot, it's gonna take time.

in the MD/DC/VA(/PA)area there a lot of light skinnededed folk. the house negro/free slave mixing bowl, if you will. i saw it all the time in elem, jhs, and hs. i was caught up in liking the light girl until i realized the asses had no color in skin-tight-jeans, and then the world opened up for d, circa the 2nd grade:D

my point...time will only heal our trippin'. but as i tell folk, slavery is the best and worst thing that happened to black folks. at the club there was a long couch with about 8 women sitting on it; each one was a different tone, with different hairstyles and texture, and each was beautiful.