First Love

[seductive_tee]

Is anyone with there first love, if not why? Are you in contact with them or do you see them from time to time? If so, how is it?

[mystkev]

I'm no longer w/my first love. We aren't together anymore b/c we were very young (12 & 13) when we first starting going out and our parents didn't think it was such a good idea that we get so close. We broke up when we were 16.

We talked to each other on the phone every single day until we were 18. We were really good friends. We lost contact b/c our schedules really didn't permit much time for each other. Now I have no idea where he is located. He crosses my mind probably once a month.

If you had a good relationship w/your first love and things didn't end sourly, I would say try to keep in contact. They at times can be the best friends.

[seductive_tee]

If he came back into your life, how would handle that?

[mystkev]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
If he came back into your life, how would handle that?

I would try to be friends again, we had a lot of good times together.

I wouldn't try to get back together w/him, although it would cross my mind, b/c I know that he's not the same guy I fell in love with anymore.

[misha]

I came close to marrying my first love.....we got caught up in the wedding of our daughter. Her wedding didn't happen, and neither did ours. In both cases, it was for the best.

He is still around, and the last I heard, he was involved in a woman and surrounded in drama....good riddance.

[Toffee]

We were 14... we broke up when we were 15. We stayed friends. I talk to him once a year. No I wouldn't get back with him.. Plus he has a complex that I'm taller than him.. About 2" taller. I'm with my second love though... We were together... when I was 22. We both weren't ready for a relationship. He was 27. Now 5yrs later we are back together. Whoever said timing is everything was right on the money.

[HulaSista]

my first love was not my first boyfriend (although a lot of folks think that because were together so damn long)...

but for my first love, i was not his first love, but, i was his true love (is there a difference?)... we broke up when he got wind that another sista (he is filipino) liked him and he went for her, only to come back to me with his regrets (i didn't take him back).

he is married to his second wife having a hard time (not with her, but, just in general) and we actually work across the street from each other. we had a falling out 3 years ago at his sister's wedding (my best friend) and dont keep in touch like we should cause, we were also each other's best friend.

back then, i would have sold my momma's soul to the devil for him. now...i wouldn't do such things for any one! but, if he came back...i think i would give him a chance. it would be easier for me than him, cause, in the last 8 years, i have changed DRASTICALLY. but, if he is the same as i presume him to be, he would love me in spite of.

at the same time...i would have mixed feelings. there is something about going back to an ex that just don't seem right.

[Andre98]

In one of the posts I saw an age of 12-13, I cant even recall the puppy love times. My first real love was much later in my teens, and no, havent heard from her since the early 80s.

[seductive_tee]

Well my first love is in town and i'm an emotional wreck! I see him ever time he comes home but i have never been or felt like this. This time......I just don't know. I have been in tears since Saturday.

[mystkev]

Originally posted by Andre98+
In one of the posts I saw an age of 12-13, I cant even recall the puppy love times. My first real love was much later in my teens, and no, havent heard from her since the early 80s.

I know that we were young, but I've never considered it to be puppy love. For me it was the real thing. Believe me it was true love and my age isn't what determined that. I think everyone is different.

[mystkev]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
Well my first love is in town and i'm an emotional wreck! I see him ever time he comes home but i have never been or felt like this. This time......I just don't know. I have been in tears since Saturday.

How is it that you feel? How do you usually feel when he comes to town?

[seductive_tee]

Part of me is hurting. I'm glad to see him, always am. But this time it's been so emotional.

Usually when he comes, we see each other, spend time, talk, have sex, continue to keep in contact and then he heads back.

I just don't know what happened this time....then his family....they've been calling since Saturday asking whats wrong with both of us.

[mystkev]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
But this time it's been so emotional.

Do you feel like you want to get back together w/him? Well, whatever the case may be, I hope it gets better.

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by mystkev+
Do you feel like you want to get back together w/him? Well, whatever the case may be, I hope it gets better.

If he moved back here yes i would, without a doubt! I have gotto get over this fear of flying.....I hope it gets better to....he's coming by tonight and we gonna talk about this a little deeper.

[mystkev]

If the two of you feel the same way about each other, don't let distance get in the way. I'm sure you will be able to work something out.

[Toffee]

I know how you feel about getting back with an ex. It's like you broke up for a reason. Can't think of the phrase now.. MsX said it once.. Don't chew the same food twice or something like that.

[seductive_tee]

Distance has been there for 16 years, thats how long i've been afraid to fly.....2002 i decided that fear was ending and i'm flying there to see him. I did decided this before this weekend. He's been asking for months and i'm gonna do it.

And there is a 3rd party involved....she's in CA and yes i knew.

[Brightness]

I'm not with my first love from college {who was my first sexual experience} we never made it past college but I saw him from time to time and I did a post on here about when I finally got back into contact with him.

He doesn't live here but we've seen each other from time to time and there's still that underlying & undying attraction. . .and those ****BUTTERFLIES**** which can knock a sistah for a loop every time. I look forward to seeing him every chance I get. I have even thought about pursuing him a bit more aggressively in my daydreams. I haven't had sex with him since 1986 but I have spent the night with him when he's in town. . .it was WONDERFUL

:hearts: :hearts: :hearts: :hearts: :hearts: :hearts: :hearts:



Originally posted by seductive_tee+
Is anyone with there first love, if not why? Are you in contact with them or do you see them from time to time? If so, how is it?

[Brightness]

Ooooooooooooooo. . .

Is that part of the turmoil, too? Or is it more the unresolved feelings?

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
Distance has been there for 16 years, thats how long i've been afraid to fly.....2002 i decided that fear was ending and i'm flying there to see him. I did decided this before this weekend. He's been asking for months and i'm gonna do it.

And there is a 3rd party involved....she's in CA and yes i knew.

[mystkev]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
And there is a 3rd party involved....she's in CA and yes i knew.

I wouldn't worry about her too much. 16 years is a long time. there's obviously something there. Is he in CA? Maybe that's why he's with her, b/c she's more convenient. But you should think about what made you break up in the first place. If it's underhanded shit, I wouldn't go there again, if not then all's fair in love and war.

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by Toffee+
I know how you feel about getting back with an ex. It's like you broke up for a reason. Can't think of the phrase now.. MsX said it once.. Don't chew the same food twice or something like that.

Toffee, i guess we never really broke up....well we did but it wasn't bitter break up at all. We knew there was to much time apart, only time he was home was Christmas and summer. He always said Come on out here for spring break or whatever, even willing to pay my way...i was just to damn scared. That fear may have cost me..i'll know tonight.

And his family...damn they are not helping matters...his mom left a message saying that she anted us both to come see her before he goes....

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by Brightness+
there's still that underlying & undying attraction. . .and those ****BUTTERFLIES**** which can knock a sistah for a loop every time.

Bright...girl u hit it dead on the nose.....but it's more than an attraction...i love him with all my heart...it is going to kill us both tonight...i know it is and he know...he already asked me if i had enough tissue. I just want to know why NOW...why am i like this now...i have seen him every time he comes home and i've never felt like this. I have got to pull myself together and quick, i don't have but a few hours.

[Juicey1]

My first love is dead. He was killed at home while he was sleeping. Before he passed, we didn't keep in touch, but we would run into each other every now and then. We remained friends and he will always have a special place in my heart. I was really hurt when I found out he had been killed.

[Brightness]

I still have very strong feelings for my first love but I've only allowed myself to get so deep in exploring them aside from admitting that I have thought about him and wondered 'WHAT-IF' a million and one times. My roommate from college couldn't resist teasing me when I told her we were getting re-acquainted.

It sounds like there are a lot of feelings in the air between you two and you are finally getting ready to get to the bottom of it, that's a good thing though. As for why now, I can't answer that. . you should have your answer very soon though.



Originally posted by seductive_tee+


Bright...girl u hit it dead on the nose.....but it's more than an attraction...i love him with all my heart...it is going to kill us both tonight...i know it is and he know...he already asked me if i had enough tissue. I just want to know why NOW...why am i like this now...i have seen him every time he comes home and i've never felt like this. I have got to pull myself together and quick, i don't have but a few hours.

[que90nek]

my first love....
is in florida...
she got married...about the same time i did...
but before that...we hooked up...one mo gain....she told me i was fuggin her too hard...that she prefers it softer/slower....easier....i felt really stupid......but i realized what i was doing...i was back in there...tryin to reclaim....tryin to make her remember....in all actuality...she never forgot...but the things that she remembered were all things of the PAST...all things that back then...were OK...were great...back then...but maturity/age/...changes a person...grows a person up....from liking to get the pussy beat up...to liking it to be caressed...and finessed.

here's the funny part...I was --------><------- there with her...I too prefer finesse in love making....my bang bang days were so far behind me...but that particular weekend....i was re-asserting. had i just been myself....who knows....

[seductive_tee]

Well he came by, we talked, cried and laughed and i'm tired as hell...haven't slept a wink.....it's all good though...all my questions are answered as is his....our feelings have not changed....i'll be on that plane in a few months headed to CA...

[mystkev]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
....our feelings have not changed....i'll be on that plane in a few months headed to CA...

I'm glad to hear/read that:D

[que90nek]

this is really beautiful...

[Vronni]

My first "young" love was a good friend. I had a crush on him for a long time and we started kickin it' but he was a player. Then ,when he decided he was serious,I just wanted to be friends because of the things he was involved in. He died about 8 years ago and I'm sad that we fell out of contact before he died

[KissableSexyShortStuff]

NO not still with my first love...... Got to emotional for the both of us... I havn't seen him in over a year. He moved to another state, but when he was here we talked about one or twice a month.....

[Brightness]

That is sooooo romantic. . . .

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
Well he came by, we talked, cried and laughed and i'm tired as hell...haven't slept a wink.....it's all good though...all my questions are answered as is his....our feelings have not changed....i'll be on that plane in a few months headed to CA...

[Qjai]

I was 16 he was 18, we were together for 6 years, had a baby together, I grew up and he didn't....if we didn't disagree so much about the proper care for our child and his lack of interest in his child we could probably be really good friends.

Despite all of that, when I look back, I can still smile. But I dont get any feelings...not anymore. :D

[seductive_tee]

He's gone now .:(..shuttle got him at 430 this morning:(.
We had a wonderful evening, i'll never forget it. :hearts::hearts: Next time i'll see him is in a few months, but i'll be flying to California. :D :D But we'll certainly keep in constant contact!

[sistuhchey]

My first love= Baby's daddy tried it after (25)years...wasn't happening....different times, different lifestyles.....:blah:

[Versatile]

I was 15 and he was 21 when we met. We still keep in touch and I still see him from time to time although we have never been together. We are very good friends and he talks about getting together but I no longer have that interest in him.

[D2daO2da]

My first love was in college. My first crush was in Junior High.. that don't count.

My college love turned into a long distance relationship and so I haven't seen or heard from her in 8 years. Not that I want to.

If she came back.. I would be civil. I am not the person that I used to be.. no need to front.

I wouln't be like... we should be together.. no hollywood movie over here.

We was young.. That was then.. keep the old memories.. don't need to make any new ones.

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