Deceived - Part II

[OhSoPrecious]

(Scenario)

You've been seeing this married man for a few months now . . . all along you've suspected that he's not married~!! :eek:

There are just some things that don't add up . . . sometimes. . . which leads you to believe that maybe he is really not married, even though he says he is~!! :rolleyes:

Or, could it be that you really wish that he was not~??!! :confused:

Anyway, after all that . . . if he were to come out and tell you that he is not married . . . how would you feel~?? :eek: You've suspected this all along . . . so, would you be uspet with him for lying to you in the first place~?? :(

Or, would you sort of understand why he might have wanted you to believe that he was married~!!! :rolleyes: (Lord knows what reason that might be~!)



Does that make sense~??

[Brightness]

Okay, you lost me there for a second but I understand now. . .

I think some men (as Admin can attest to) see how the married/taken men get all the play because you know they aren't going to be all up under your ass.

Some women like a challenge like men and when you can cop a married man then you know he won't be in your face all the damned time. . .he'll take his ass home and not be loitering in your apartment.

[OhSoPrecious]

But, how would you deal with something like this~?? :rolleyes: Please don't say that you would never knowingly date a married man . . . it's a scenario . . . so, what if~???!! :D

[Toffee]

I would be upset with him lying to me... If he didn't want a monogamous relationship he could have just said so instead of saying he was married. That's a pretty big lie to tell someone.

[misha]

I would feel highly insulted that he felt he had to tell me that lie, and I would be done with the situation and him.

[seductive_tee]

I'd ask him why he lied and take it from there. If i was really feeling him i might be like "well that's good to know you not married" but since you coming clean, any other lies you want to confess to right now.

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
I'd ask him why he lied and take it from there. If i was really feeling him i might be like "well that's good to know you not married" but since you coming clean, any other lies you want to confess to right now.

seductive tee...i will have to agree with you...i would do the same.......

[CD]

two times, to two different women about being hooked up, but I really wasn't.....

[SWEETC]

I would be upset! He should tell the truth in the beginning and let me know up front what kind of relationship he wants so I can decide if I want to be apart of it.

[Brightness]

I would be a little concerned and wonder about the reasons for the deception but in the end, his being single would be a good thing, right?

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by seductive_tee+
If i was really feeling him i might be like "well that's good to know you not married"


That's exactly how I would feel about the situation~!! :eek: :cool:

Bright . . . yes, it would be a good thing that he's single~!! :)


CD. . . why did you lie~?? :confused: Please explain . . .

[ThickBodyHottie]

tricks are for kids and my name's not milton bradley.

[CD]

Originally posted by OhSoPrecious+
CD. . . why did you lie~?? :confused: Please explain . . .
Basically I just wanted to get the pootang. Meaning I have sized the lady up and I've determined that I don't want any exclusive or committed relationship with her, but she is still cool to hang out with and sex. With that said, I'll throw a hurdle out in front of her "I'm seeing someone", and if the lady clears the hurdle then I know that all she wants is to keep the dick around until something better comes along or she's head strong and think she can make me weak with her womanhood and change my mind......:rolleyes:

[Andre98]

First, I am still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that a man saying he is married could be an advantage and not a mandatory lock out to outside liasions. I always thought this kind of man must have male model type looks, be loaded with dough, or be some kind of wizard, sexually. Something that makes him "some other" type of man. I can't see being my regular old charming self, and attracting that kind of attention.

Now, CD, I can see what you are saying... it's cold blooded to say you are married and not be, but the singles game is just that, cold blooded.but what I get from Oh So Precious' thread starting senario is, from the female's viewpoint, would the fact that he was deceiving you negatively outweigh or would it balance out the fact that you were apparently okay with him deceiving his so called wife. It's like he is not the kind of cheating bastard you accepted him as. Should you be glad for the lack of adultery going on, or mad that someone you tolerated being a liar of sorts, actually lied to you? It is a conundrum(had to look up the spelling)

It makes me think twice when I am online chatting, and a woman asks me am I married. My first year online, I used to say no just to keep the chat lively, because saying you are so often brings the response "...then where's your wife, and why are you online talking to women", yada yada .... But lately I noticed, in saying that I am married, the first response back often has been "Are you happily married?". Again, I was taking it as a judgement on some reasoning that no married men should be online chatting in open forums, that theory that chat is for single and ready to mingle folks..... but this thread as me wondering if I was being probed by an online woman or two, who was looking to be the "chick on the side" until something better comes along for her. That Atlantic Starr song comes to mind, where she sings, "...I don't care about the other girls....just be good to me."

This is a good scenario to think over... it is a real puzzle.

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by CD+
then I know that all she wants is to keep the dick around until something better comes along or she's head strong and think she can make me weak with her womanhood and change my mind......:rolleyes:

I was afraid you would say that~!!! :rolleyes:

(sigh)


Btw, Andre . . . that is exactly where I was trying to go with this scenario~!! :eek: :cool:

It just had me thinking . . .


You are too deep, bruh~!! ;)

[ThickBodyHottie]

Originally posted by CD+

Basically I just wanted to get the pootang. Meaning I have sized the lady up and I've determined that I don't want any exclusive or committed relationship with her, but she is still cool to hang out with and sex. With that said, I'll throw a hurdle out in front of her "I'm seeing someone", and if the lady clears the hurdle then I know that all she wants is to keep the dick around until something better comes along or she's head strong and think she can make me weak with her womanhood and change my mind......:rolleyes:


all that lying just for some temporary pussy?
you could have just said, "i just wanna fuck you".
next time, just save your breath and tell the truth...you may need that air in your last days...

[CD]

WELCOME......by the way that's some name you got....:D

Originally posted by ThickBodyHottie+
all that lying just for some temporary pussy?
you could have just said, "i just wanna fuck you".
next time, just save your breath and tell the truth...you may need that air in your last days...

Couple of things:
1- I throw out the hurdle at those that's coming at me.
2- It an't no big effort to tell someone "I'm seeing someone"
3- If they do clear the hurdle....The pussy be on tap for as long as I like (1,2,3 yrs at least thats been the trend).
4- I got this move from a woman....lady told me she had six kids and she was only 24 yrs old...:eek: Later she told me why she did it.
5- The move works like a charm....most folks an't gonna tell you the real deal anyways and this way I know the deal without having to talk about it.

[Brightness]

That's some interesting philosophy to use. . .I don't totally understand it, though.

[ThickBodyHottie]

neither do i...but, if it toots his caboose...

[OhSoPrecious]

I understand what you're saying . . . not saying that it's right. . . but, isn't saying that "you're seeing someone" a little different than saying "I am married"~?? :confused:

Or, what you're saying is... that it has the same effect~?? :rolleyes:

[Tastey]

It seems to me if I'm seeing a married man....I must not want commitment either, so if he suddenly revealed that he is available that would leave me with a quandry.

I mean for months according to the scenario I've accepted the fact that this "relationship" was not going anywhere, certainly not gonna lead to marriage because guess what? He's already married.

I guess I don't understand the logic behind lying about being married when there are so many other things you can say or not say to avoid commitment. :confused:

Yes, I know there are women who flock to married men, but those women do so because they want married men and they don't want commitment. If that's why he wants as well then they have a perfect arrangement.

If I were seeing a married man I certainly would not be naive enough to be entertaining thoughts of one day being his wife. I mean...if he cheated WITH me...well ya'll know the rest. That's not the case always...I'm sure...just pointing out the obvious.

In my humble opinion for a man to simply lie about his marital status just to get some coochie without commitment is just...well...STOOPID!

[OhSoPrecious]

You done dug up an old one that time~!!! :D

Btw, I don't feel that way anymore about the married guy~!! :rolleyes: I believe he's married~!! Damn~!! :hammer


At that time, I guess I really didn't want him to be~!! :upretty (sigh)

[MsMeelah]

Why?????

Originally posted by CD+
two times, to two different women about being hooked up, but I really wasn't.....