Intimate but not serious

[knowledge7]

I need some advice ya'll

My friend just met this woman online about a month ago, and they have met and were really vibin..

They hooked up and went out a few times. (ya'll know how that is)

The problem is......that she JUST got out of a 3 year relationship with her Daughters fauther and they are still living together because of financial reasons....:confused: But since then they have separated everything in the house and they got about their seperate ways..

his problem is ....he really is vibing with her and wants to take it a step futher than just what they have here.. but he doesn't know whether or not to chill and let her handle that first... or to go with his feelings..

Keep in mind that they only met a month ago...

[Juicey1]

I think he just needs to chill and let her drop off her excess baggage first. Not saying they can't be friends, but I don't think he should take it a step further until she has that problem resolved.

[mack_black]

Welcome to the hush.....

(I know that you're talking about yourself....but ..... :D .. we wont go there)


anyway.....

1 month? and wanna go further with the situation you just painted?

nah.....

watch the scene for a while and see if its even worth it....a month is not enough time to make any big moves.....

[que90nek]

u wouldnt by chance be...THE KNOWLEDGEMENTAL ...would ya?

one month time...LOL...man...go on ahead and keep hittin it...but don't limit yourself....if u r REALLY feelin her...stay true to her...but as long as she is still livin with ole boy...she probably won't be true to u!

[knowledge7]

Yeah it me that the story is about...

And yeah I am Knowledgemental.......you know I couldn't stay away for long..

Don't get me wrong thoguh.. I am still taking my time.. the next step I was talking about was as far as cutting off the rest of my contacts.. brothers ya'll know what I am talking about.

I just don't want to cut them off.. and be real with her.. cause of the situation.. but then again how can I show her that I am coming real if i am not being real myself.. feel me.. that is where I am coming from...

[que90nek]

seems to me that she is the one that needs to "show and prove"....her situation is f-d up and she knows it.

are u ready to move her in with u?

[mack_black]

I gotta agree with Que.....

her shit is fucked up.....

so keep ya contacts and do your thang..until she comes for real....if she ever does....'cuz it seems to me that she aint gonna be leavin no time soon. I also think that 'living with someone just for the finanacial' is a bunch of bullshit...

the chick is involved and just dont wanna leave....dont get caught in the hype dude... :D

[knowledge7]

Her "reason" for still living with him is because of financial reasons. they both don't have the money to move yet so both thinking rationally they decided to stay until one or the other can leave..

Still bullshyt but I will let them deal with that..

Until then .. I am on the backlburner chilling with the numbas in the pocket...

[misha]

Seems to me that the next move is hers. If it were me, I wouldn't change a thing until she gives me reason to.

She may never free herself from that situation. if she does, then do what you gotta do.

Welcome home Knowledemental. *hug*

[knowledge7]

True True.. So basically ya'll saying that a should chill and see what she do.. until then stay where I am.....

[Qjai]

maybe its just me, but I can't see any situation where I'd stay with someone for financial reasons. I guess I'm just willing to give up a lot of stuff for my own personal happiness.

If I am not strong enough to let it all go and strike out on my own...then I'm in no place to build a relationship.

Thats my two cents.

[Toffee]

I'm with QJai with this one.... There were reasons for the breakup and that's enough for me to do what I have to do to get out. Do not through away your numbers and cut you "Contacts". The ball is in her court and just wait to see what she does with it.

[Tastey]

Welcome home Knowledge...you have been missed! :D

This girl is tripping. She is still living with that man because she's still involved with that man.

Keep all your old contacts, old numbers, Hey if you want...I'll send you a new number (mine) ;)

At this point you don't need to come real with her because she is not coming real with you.

[Vronni]

I would proceed with caution. Wait and see what happens since you just met a month ago and you are still in that "getting to know you" phase. There may be more than financial reasons that are keeping them in the same house and only time will tell

[seductive_tee]

Contacts...:D i tell you, you hear something different all the time...:D

Anyway....i think she should be making the next...and even if one of them moves out...still take it slow...and you did say this is the baby daddy...........

Do you call the house? If so, hows his attitude?

[HulaSista]

Welcome home Knowledgemental.........although you stopped emailing a sista...but...its all good!

I agree with Qjai and the others.

Don't get trapped dude. This is a common conversation I have with my patna's out this way. IT AIN'T WORTH IT. You won't believe the shit that can happen as a result of this.

Go out on a date with one of them "contacts" and when sista girl got her own spot and baby daddy ain't got the key to the house.....THEN proceed with caution.

Don't sit and wait on NOBODY to get out of a bad situation.

Now go have you a drink and come back and tell us all about it! :beer

[knowledge7]

Now see her being that she is living with this dude.. I am already like ....okay he could alwasys get the nana when he want, cause they still love each other but claim that they are not IN love .. then they have the baby..

SO little ol me.. just chill.. I never call the house.. just out of respect for him.. but he has called mine, and asked if I was seeing her and I simply told him yeah.. he got the number because he found it in her purse. So his response was oh okay.. then he hung up.. SO that right there set me off uneasy abotu her ... so right now I am not really feeling the situation when I know that I could have something a little better without all these damn strings...

Oh and last night was a dousy.. lol....she calls the crib and ask for me. .. then she gets this dude on the phone.. so she said that she wanted to clear some things up. SO she had me tell this dude that we was doing "thangs" Just to hurt his feelings.. I couldn't tell that man that.. feel me.. he started crying right when she said that.. so you know that something is wrong wioth her

[CLSmooove]

Oh Helllllll No.... U need to forget about her..... She playing games with ole boy and putting u in the middle and that is NOT right....

Leave that situation alone..... its going to get worse way before it gets better

[Juicey1]

Walk away Knowledge, walk away. I smell trouble in this situation. Seems like girlfriend is using you to hurt him and thats kinda dangerous.

[nubianx2]

Knowledge,
Hopefully you see this situation for what it truely is, a set-up. You need to forget you even met this individual and the drama they're about to unfold.

[misha]

AH HELL NAH!!!!

Forget what I said, run like the wind!!!!! You don't want no parts of that!

The lady has issues. Steer way clear of her!

If you don't, in time, you may be that man crying on the phone!

[mack_black]

the ladies are right.....

see if you continue on....you might wind up 6' under 'cuz dude snapped and went on a jealous rampage......just looking fo yo ass....

[Brightness]

This is not a good situation at all and it seems like the girl is getting a kick out of the predicament she has both of you men in. . . if anything just add her to your 'contact list' but don't invest too much energy at this point.

[Vronni]

this is some serious drama.It's seems like she is playing you both-she is living with him but seeing you then throwing it up on his face. It's probably no accident that your number was still sitting in her purse. be careful because if she is trying to make him mad and/or jealous, there is no tellin' what he might do and he is obviously still in love with the woman or he wouldn't be crying over her to another man. For her to be that callous towards him also,is not a good sign :blah: :blah:

[Qjai]

woman like her end up domestic violence cases....back away bruh

[knowledge7]

Latest update.....

She called last night and aske d me to come over and get her cause the dude flipped and beat her ass.. ....I don't seen my mama get beat so you knwo that I couldn't have that, I got in the car and wen tot scoop her.. I knew that the dude was going ot be there.. so when I got there... ol' dude was sitting ther waiting for me.. I thought I was going to have to reach in the trunk and break out the gloves.. (lol) but it wasn't her that got beat it was him.. he sat ther and told me that she hit him with a bat across the head cause he told her that he was going to take the kid and go .. so of course her being the mama ...she wasn't having it.. so I told him and her face to face that they need to work their problems out and leave me out of it.. so she ran to the car with the bat talking bout I bets to be going ot get some gas cand coming back to get her.. so ya know ME......I closed the door rolled down the window and told her to handle her business and when she get it straight DON'T call my phone.....so now I got to change my damn numbers and shyt.. fucking round with her.. dayum..

crazy ass....but she was sweet...

[Brightness]

:cry: :D :cry: :D :cry: :D :cry:

That is just way too much drama

ROFL @ crazy ass....but she was sweet...

[que90nek]

lol


lol

whew


lol

if this was sinnah we would be not believing this!!!

see sinnah...how being an actual person brings creditability to the post....LOL

this is funny!

[mack_black]

dude....

you need to check the type of women-folk that you're picking up.......
now imagine if you decided to have crazy ass live with ya.....

she gets mad one day and in your sleep youre having a nightmare of getting your ass beat by a crazed bitch with a bat....only thing is.... ITS FO REAL..... :eek:

[seductive_tee]

I got the construction workers in my office laughing at me cause i'm laughing at this....this is too funny....

why u just ain't call the police?

[knowledge7]

It ain't the women that I be meeting.. I think crazy women just be attracted to me like that.. ....ya'll be laughing at me.. that ain't right.. :fu :D :D

[Tastey]

We ain't laughing at you Knowledge...just at the situation. RTFLOL

Man, I'm like Que I had to check and make sure this wasn't a Sinnah post for real. :D :D :cry: :D

[Qjai]

Originally posted by Qjai+
woman like her end up domestic violence cases....

I knew it :beating

[mack_black]

Originally posted by knowledge7
It ain't the women that I be meeting.. I think crazy women just be attracted to me like that.. ....ya'll be laughing at me.. that ain't right.. :fu :D :D

I am...... :D:cry::D:cry:

dude you alright with me.......you'll be OK :D

[HulaSista]

Now go have you a drink and come back and tell us all about it! :beer

great update boo.......

You won't believe the shit that can happen as a result of this.

and i see you have found out plenty.

see what meeting folks on the internet will do to ya?

LMAO......

just kidding ya'll....i'm the worse one...:D

[OhSoPrecious]

Originally posted by knowledge7
And yeah I am Knowledgemental.......you know I couldn't stay away for long..


Welcome back~!! :hearts:

[Sparkles]

How in the hell did I miss this, knowledge- you better watch yourself, this is some hilarious shit. DID you hear back from Crazy Carrie?!?!?!?!\lolol


btw--- welcome back, you were missed!!!!

[knowledge7]

She called... about three days ago.. and sais that she wanted to apoligize.. and that she had done something to make things better. So she said that she had gotten rid of her problems. and that she was ready to move on ewith her life.. and that God had helped her see her way...so I told her that I hope that she can stay that way and that she had a good life.. She asked me to be in it with her.. SoooooooI said.. I ain't trying to do spend a lifetime wondering if I might wake up with a bat in my face or if another man was going ot show up....so she gave me that look of disgust and Rollllllledd Out..... Rollled out

[que90nek]

so....
u saw that look of disgust over the phone?

dawg...u hit it one more time didnt you!!!!!!

[Sparkles]

get out of my head cause we are ------------><--------here!!!

Knowledge you weren't wrong, that was the least she could have done(broke you off) for taking you throught that pointless drama.



Originally posted by que90nek+
so....
u saw that look of disgust over the phone?

dawg...u hit it one more time didnt you!!!!!!

[knowledge7]

my bad......I left a little bit out.. yeah I met up with her to see that face...of course.. but naw we didn't do nothing..

[que90nek]

shoot...
man...set her out!

pass her to the bruhz! oops...i had a flashback...sorry.

[HulaSista]

lmao......i was tinkin the tame ting! knowledge..... do you feel good about your decision? i hope so....

[knowledge7]

hell yeah I am happy.....I would rather be guilt free.. and drama free.. than to be in a world of hurt and pain.. YA MEAN

[lightandlovely1]

I think you need to leave her alone until they have truly separated. You can stay friends but I wouldn't deal with her in any other way until she's cleared her plate. Otherwise, you starting out with drama and it's only going to get worse.

[knowledge7]

babygirl that has been over..


But now she got her own place......lol.....

Ain't that some shyt