Keeping his family name after a divorce

[FAMU]

Ladies: Ever given it any thought to keeping your ex's family name? Why or why not?

Fellas: Would you mind if your ex-wife kept your family name? Why or why not?

[misha]

Well, theoretically, the only way I would keep my ex's name is if we had children during the marriage.

When I divorced my ex however, I had every intention of taking my name back,even though we had a child. But because it was not spelled out on my divorce decree that I wanted my name back, I was forced to keep his name. Now, if I want to go back to my maiden name, I have to go to court and have it legally changed, and it isn't cheap.

[Toffee]

Oh my... they can put it in the divorce to decree for you to keep his name? That is so ludicous. I don't plan to legally take my husbands name when I get married.

[que90nek]

if it comes down to divorce....i could care less...

but there is no way i would marry a woman that wants a hyphen or won't take my name.

[FAMU]

Toffee, why would you not want to take your husband last name? To me this essensial in a marriage because it shows that you truly belong your mate. I mean you can't really claim sumthing if your name is not on it. Do you feel me?

[Versatile]

I forgot to put that part in the uncontested divorce decree so I was stuck with it but, afterwards I started thinking just like Tina Turner and said "hell, I earned that." Plus at times, it feels good letting all those other biatches know I was the first biatche that had his only son.

[Toffee]

I don't see what the big deal is about a last name. Y can't he take my name... If I had children they would have his last name.

[FAMU]

Welll, the big deal is that men like show owenership. I have to rightful claim to a woman if she does not have my last name. Who would know that you were my wife if u kept your last name. That would imply that you are still your daddy'd girl and not my wife. Yes, sure the kids would have my last name because they are mine, but the same should go for my wife.

[Toffee]

U make it sounds like.... u got the "U MY WOMAN" Attitude. Like I'm some type of property. NOw I can be called by the marriage name but when it comes to all my paperwork and such no I will not go back and change it.

[nubianx2]

I kept my ex-husbands name only because at the time of the divorce he was already showing signs that he wouldn't be apart of my daughter's life and I didn't want her to grow up with a last name different than mine. However, I am considering hypenating with my maiden name.

[que90nek]

i knew a young lady that wanted to hyphenate because....her father had NO sons and he was the only son in his family.....

[djackso]

Originally posted by Toffee+
Oh my... they can put it in the divorce to decree for you to keep his name? That is so ludicous. I don't plan to legally take my husbands name when I get married.

All that will change once you meet someone that you want to marry. The little selfish hangups will be forgotten.

[Tastey]

Originally posted by que90nek+
if it comes down to divorce....i could care less...

but there is no way i would marry a woman that wants a hyphen or won't take my name.

I have to agree. If I were to divorce what my new name would be doesn't matter.

I also would not marry a man if he didn't want me to take his name.

I notice that a lot of ladies have thier own reasons for not wanting a man's name but I wonder how they'd react if the man turned the tables and said.."For professional or personal reasons I won't give you my name".

Things that make you go hmmmm....

[Vronni]

I would probably keep the name (with a hyphen) unless he did some really foul stuff (but you know the word I'm thinking) to me. Then,if I was to marry again,I would change it to my new husband's name

[HulaSista]

oh hell......why not keep his name. ya work hard to get it....and that way i can make claims on his social security money when he dies:rolleyes:

just kidding.

i would take his name.

[CLSmooove]

And Have... Because of my chldren ....

Que Im one of hose who have hyphenated their name.... I thank God to be blessed with a husband that understands and respects my feeelings about the matter.....

I now go by K. Moore-Shaw.....

[sistuhchey]

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Welll, the big deal is that men like show owenership. I have to rightful claim to a woman if she does not have my last name. Who would know that you were my wife if u kept your last name. That would imply that you are still your daddy'd girl and not my wife. Yes, sure the kids would have my last name because they are mine, but the same should go for my wife.




I MUST DIGRESS ...NIGGA PLEASE!!!... owenership...WOW!!!!!

yessir masta'......Give me a BREAK!!!....Express that ownership to your wife I'll be surprised if she agrees.....WTF!!!

You've taken your macho attitude..to a whole different level...

Famu, I must ask how old are you??? If your not yet 35 I'll blame it on youth... No one wants to be OWNED marriage is a Partnership!!!......

Yea, I'm a hypenated sista...A.K.A..SISTUH-CHEY
:blah: ;)

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by sistuhchey+
Yea, I'm a hypenated sista...A.K.A..SISTUH-CHEY
:blah: ;)

lmao and i'm AKA hula-sista ... :D :cry::D :cry::D :cry::D :cry:

lmao

my bad...carry on...(i couldn't resist...hee hee hee)

[SeaDuceme2]

Originally posted by Mr. Famu+
Welll, the big deal is that men like show owenership. I have to rightful claim to a woman if she does not have my last name. Who would know that you were my wife if u kept your last name. That would imply that you are still your daddy'd girl and not my wife. Yes, sure the kids would have my last name because they are mine, but the same should go for my wife.

Famu you got to be kidding me...let me find out you on some ole captain caveman cockamamie bullshit!

First of all, i will ALWAYS be daddy's girl, no matter how you type it, fax it, or copy it.....Sea will always be Vincent's babygirl, whether I'm married or not. Now a husband/wife that sometimes will not always be.

shit!, my married last name ain't Trump, Rockafeller, Gates, or Forbes so who would really give a shit if I kept the last name "White" or not. It aint like that name gonna guarantee my entrance into the gates of heaven!

[Toffee]

The funny thing is the men who usually trippin on a last name be the same ones not wearing their wedding bands.

[SeaDuceme2]

Toffee you hit the nail on the head with that one!

[que90nek]

i know i'm gonna get it but....

you are slightly correct....if i had married somebody with prior kids....I may have considered the hyphen. but...i probably wouldnt have.