Do you tell him?

[lovely]

You have had an abortion as a young adult. You are now married and trying to have a baby. Do you tell your husband about the abortion? Would you have told him before you got married?

Men...do you think that this is something that you should be told before marriage.

Women..if you have had an abortion..how does it affect your other pregnancies?

[Bedroomeyes]

Knowing me it probably would have came up a long time ago.. What is there to hide??

[Babygirl]

It will eventually come out anyway during your first prenatal visit, because they ask you have you been pregnant before, had any abortions, miscarriages, ect...

I told my husband about my abortions prior to us getting seriously involved because 1. I wanted to know his view on being pro choice/pro life and 2. it is a part of my life.

Since we are trying to concieve I often wonder if he thinks about my past and if those actions have something to do with our difficulty now..he assures me he doesn't think about it, and to just be optimistic.

But if this is your situation Lovely..be honest and tell you S/O, it was a decision you made for whatever reason, and shouldn't have any bearing on your marriage.

[Sparkles]

Some women are ashame of the fact that tthey have had abortion, so they probably would never tell. I am like BE's in the situation had happen that way, I would have told my S/o also, but that just me. Some folks feel that it's your past so leave it there! However, I have seen and been a part of situation where your "PAST" comes back to haunt you. So I say tell it upfront before someone else does!!!

[seductive_tee]

I'd tell before hand, especially if we trying to have a baby.......

[lovely]

I have a friend...her and her husband just found out she is pregnant and she didnt tell him about the abortion. Last night she woke up and couldnt go back to sleep because she had some kind of dream that she didnt want to talk about. But she is afraid that something could happen because of the past abortion. She wants to talk to her husband but sheis afraid that he will hold it against her. I think that she should have told him before they got married (although i didnt tell her that..didnt want her to get anymore upset than she is).

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by lovely+
You have had an abortion as a young adult. You are now married and trying to have a baby. Do you tell your husband about the abortion? Would you have told him before you got married?

Men...do you think that this is something that you should be told before marriage.

Women..if you have had an abortion..how does it affect your other pregnancies?

my husband would have known this WAY early.....so that......if he has issues with such things, then, we can discuss how to avoid it in our relationship.

i had one after my first son, so, i don't know how it would effect my future pregnancies. i have heard that women do just fine.

[HulaSista]

lovely......call your girlfriend right now......and encourage her to talk to her husband openly adn honestly about the abortion and dream. tell her that if she didn't trust that her husband could handle the things she needs to discuss, then, maybe she made the wrong decision in husband. (hope i don't sound harsh.....but...i just feel communication between spouses.....is.....HIGHLY important) also...tell her to pray on it first, THEN go to her husband.

[mystkev]

Personally, I doubt that I would share w/anyone if I had an abortion, even my husband or husband to be.

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by lovely+
Women..if you have had an abortion..how does it affect your other pregnancies?

Sometimes it doesn't affect pregnancies at all.....

[nubianx2]

If it was a situation where we were having difficulties conceiving, then I'd probably tell him.