Puttin the shyt out

[seductive_tee]

Starting a new thread pertaining to Toffee's post.

When you are putting someone out, mainly a S/O, would leave there stuff outside the door or in a trash bag in the house to give to them?

[djackso]

Neither. Why can't the two of us sit down & say " This isn't working" then find other living arrangements. Going home with your shit packed up is very disrespectful. Put the shoe on the other foot.

[nubianx2]

It depends on the circumstances.

If my S/O has been MIA for a few days then, his stuff will be in plastic bags outside of my locked door.

If there is a mutual understanding that we need to go our separate ways then he can pack his own stuff.

[seductive_tee]

not coming home or calling for 2 nights is disrespectful as well. Especially if we living together and supposedly a couple.

[que90nek]

i agree with djackso....

bottom line this is still a human being....if u are to split up...split up...but putting somebody's private possessions on the front lawn....is grounds for a suit....IF...something should happen to those items....especially since u gave NO notice for this person to vacate the premises.

[Bedroomeyes]

Originally posted by nubianx2+
It depends on the circumstances.

If my S/O has been MIA for a few days then, his stuff will be in plastic bags outside of my locked door.

If there is a mutual understanding that we need to go our separate ways then he can pack his own stuff.

Ditto... And if I put it out.. He betta get it before the trash man comes... :upto:

[que90nek]

yeah....
u put his stuff out...
and u don't even know anything!

i could be in a coma somewhere...or something....maybe my family don't really know u...to call u....there are too many scenarios.....

[shtalker]

If they catch me on a good moment then He could come and get his stuff but if he has stayed out then his shyt might be on the curb.

[djackso]

I've seen this many times. Put his shit out today. Move his shit in next week. He is crazy for giving up his place anyway.

[Bedroomeyes]

Ever heard the saying "bad news travels fast".... if something that drastic was going on.. Then I would know...

and why doesn't his family and friends know me if we're living together?? :upto:

[misha]

I have tried it both ways. The one time that I allowed him to pack his own stuff, he tried to steal mine, and I had to call the police and have him drug out.

Another time, I put his stuff in the bags he brought the stuff in and locked it in the storage closet. When he came for the stuff, I unlocked the closet and walked back into the house. He stood outside my window crying and pounding on it to be let in. I called the police, he had an old warrant, and they drug his ass away.

I love it when a man expects the utmost respect from me when he has shown me nothing but disrespect.

[seductive_tee]

Originally posted by Bedroomeyes+
Ever heard the saying "bad news travels fast".... if something that drastic was going on.. Then I would know...

and why doesn't his family and friends know me if we're living together?? :upto:

AMEN!!!!!!

[Toffee]

If he did leave he would only be able to get his stuff when I'm around...

[djackso]

Mental Note: Don't live with Misha cause Misha calls the Police.

[shtalker]

Originally posted by misha+
I have tried it both ways. The one time that I allowed him to pack his own stuff, he tried to steal mine, and I had to call the police and have him drug out.

Another time, I put his stuff in the bags he brought the stuff in and locked it in the storage closet. When he came for the stuff, I unlocked the closet and walked back into the house. He stood outside my window crying and pounding on it to be let in. I called the police, he had an old warrant, and they drug his ass away.

I love it when a man expects the utmost respect from me when he has shown me nothing but disrespect.

Misha you a mess!!

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by Bedroomeyes+
and why doesn't his family and friends know me if we're living together?? :upto:

Lady...you and me are -------------><--------------- !!!

And for the reasons of this thread...this is why I would not live with my boyfriend...only MY HUSBAND...

I had an ex...i took care of his ass so good while he was sick...when he got better...and i moved back home...things got worse in the relationship caused i moved...he brought ALL MY SHIT and dropped it off in front of my momma's house. I was HOT...

Misha...I don't blame you AT ALL! :beer

And Que, a sista ain't got to know the story...because the story is...HE ain't came home and he ain't called.

And what ever reasons' he got for NOT calling or coming home, he can explain that too me after he pick his shit up and hook his phone up in his new place of residence.

[Vronni]

Here's my two cents:I personally would not leave someone's property on the lawn unless there was some domestic violence or something involved.When I did this before,I packed up the stuff but left it inside. Even though we weren't together ,we were still cool and I didn't want anyone to steal his stuff

[OhSoPrecious]

I would never leave his stuff outside~!! :rolleyes: Unless. . . (what she said)

After all, the best part of breaking up. . is making up~!! :upto: How else would I get to see him~??? :evil: That's why his stuff ain't going outside~!! :hammer :p

[SoftNwet]

go by his job and when he came out I would politley ask him to open the trunk and put his shit in there for him. That way he could not say that I took his shit or that I left it out and something was missing. I do not think that I would put it outside....gotta keep the nosey neighbors out of my biz-nass!!!

[Juicey1]

I did this once: My daughters father had been away in Texas for over a month or so. While he was away, some things happened and I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. Well I failed to get my locks changed and he popped back up and walked into my apartment to get a "jacket" he said and he left. When I got up and got my clothes on, I put all his clothes in the car and drove to his sisters house and left them on the couch. I didn't set them out or throw them out or we would have been fighting. That fool is crazy!

[mack_black]

LOOK....

all YOU thinking ladies aint even thinking now..... :rolleyes:

he didnt come home for a few days and all of a sudden..."that nigga done fucked up..Im puttin his shit out"... that`s just plain crazy......

not one of y'all said that you would call the police to find out if the man is ok....
what if he got car-jacked, kidnapped, maybe even killed, he's in the hospital...and got jacked and no one knows who he is cuz there aint no ID...and I could go on with millions of other scenarios other than the "nigga fucked up" scenario......

but naw....the nigga aint show up, so he MUST be with some otha bitch..so Im throwing his shit to the curb......

Im really surprised at the responses from supposedly thinking women....please dont tell me that this is how y'all think...say it aint so......

[que90nek]

thank you, mack!

exactly.....there are SO many scenarios!!!!why assume the one that shows how insecure u really are!

[SeaDuceme2]

My hush ladies, yall are off da heezy:D

I think the above reactions are common reactions..

Depends on where we are in the relationship, Now if shit it cool and I have no reason to think otherwise, Yes, I will be worried, calling everybody I can trying to figure out where he is.

Now if he just trying to play me stupid..You gaaaaaaaaat dayum right his shit might be on the curb and hell naw I aint puttin the shit in no bags either, skraight up scene from "Jungle Fever":fu

[Juicey1]

Originally posted by mack_black+
LOOK....

all YOU thinking ladies aint even thinking now..... :rolleyes:

he didnt come home for a few days and all of a sudden..."that nigga done fucked up..Im puttin his shit out"... that`s just plain crazy......

not one of y'all said that you would call the police to find out if the man is ok....
what if he got car-jacked, kidnapped, maybe even killed, he's in the hospital...and got jacked and no one knows who he is cuz there aint no ID...and I could go on with millions of other scenarios other than the "nigga fucked up" scenario......

but naw....the nigga aint show up, so he MUST be with some otha bitch..so Im throwing his shit to the curb......

Im really surprised at the responses from supposedly thinking women....please dont tell me that this is how y'all think...say it aint so......

I knew where his crazy ass was and just wanted him to stay there. But Nooooooo, he has to pop back into town. I didn't want to be bothered with the drama anymore, so I made sure he didn't have to come back to my house for anything!

[Vronni]

Originally posted by que90nek

that shows how insecure u really are!

Hold on. Not every woman who posted said to put the man's belongings out based on Toffee's scenario . And why is it a sign of insecurity to expect respect? If the man isn't dead or in the hospital,there is no valid reason for not coming home or at least calling

[que90nek]

so how do you know he isnt IN THE HOSPITAL or DEAD?

[djackso]

It's funny how women can't control a two year old but will tell a grown ass man when to come & go then throw your shit in the street if you don't obey. I can live with my momma rent free if I got to report in like child. ( * this is man's ego talking*)

[que90nek]

WORD!!!!!!!!

I was just tellin a hush honey about a man's need to be FREE!

when his freedom is infringed upon by anybody other than MOMS...you better have the authority to do so!

[HulaSista]

Originally posted by djackso+
It's funny how women can't control a two year old but will tell a grown ass man when to come & go then throw your shit in the street if you don't obey.

you know what..............it better be your ego talkin.....cause.....that generalization DO NOT apply to me...if i gotta control a grown ass man, he wouldn't be my man in the first damn place...

and ain't no body saying for your ass to obey shit...this is based on respect; Soft had a good suggestion......go to dudes' job and ask him to remove his shit out the car.

but AGAIN...to Mack and Djack and Que...I WOULD NOT have this problem cause I REFUSE TO LIVE WITH A NEGROID ANYWAYS....

Shit...i've had brotha's pull this same shit...and we don't live together. They will let days go by and won't call or come to see me ...and I'm suppose to be worried? Shit ... 10 times outta 10, these niggas weren't doing shit but fuckin around doing what THEY WANT...when it came time to ask for the pussy......where was the pussy at? In another niggas' face....so now what?

HOT DAMMIT.........I'm mad now.......

you wanna know what the fuck happened to me?

I was travelin on the bus........fainted........just passed the fuck out.....was in the hospital for 2 whole muthafuckin days.......how come negro i was with DID NOT call to see where i was? or why i ain't called? why when i told my mom's to call dude and tell him what happened, he ain't called or came to see how i'm doing? why? on the third day.........i go home.......i call.........he ask "so, how you doing? you finally out the hospital? well you wanna come over?" WTF, WTH and WTS?

So, when I asked dude why he ain't called or came by, he said "i know you a strong black woman and you can take care of yourself and i knew you were go survive what you are going through".............

Sorry.......the pacifiying and patronizing didn't do shit for me........

and Que.........a man's needs to be free should be that he stay out of relationships and living with women and choose to date and be by himself. if you REALLY want to be free...

[que90nek]

agree.

[misha]

Sheeit que! I thought you knew! I am the original ball and chain!!! LOL

Just kidding.
If a man wants to be free, fine. Don't live with me, because I expect to be respected. If he chooses not to, cool, just don't clown while you are moving because......well, you know...lol


Originally posted by que90nek+
WORD!!!!!!!!

I was just tellin a hush honey about a man's need to be FREE!

when his freedom is infringed upon by anybody other than MOMS...you better have the authority to do so!

[Vronni]

Originally posted by djackso

It's funny how women can't control a two year old but will tell a grown ass man when to come & go then throw your shit in the street if you don't obey. I can live with my momma rent free if I got to report in like child. ( * this is man's ego talking*)


The men are acting like this is just a "woman thing". So,a man wouldn't act up if his woman didn't call or come home for 2 days? That's pretty hard to believe. Let's be real .....

[Toffee]

So if a woman u guys are living with doesn't come back for two days and doesn't say anything about it. YOu wouldn't feel upset? I did call his sister and she never called me back the first time he left. Then when he did it again, being in the hospital my ASS!

[mack_black]

Originally posted by Toffee+
So if a woman u guys are living with doesn't come back for two days and doesn't say anything about it. YOu wouldn't feel upset? I did call his sister and she never called me back the first time he left. Then when he did it again, being in the hospital my ASS!

thats the second time....so that's a different story...you knew dude had these tendancies...which may make your actions appropriate (puttin the shyt out)

now if a woman did this i'd be upset...cuz Id worry that something dreadful happened..so Im lookin for her ass in the gutter and getting an APB out on her...now after all of that....if she wasnt in the hospital..or had a damned good excuse, she's history......I just dont have time for disrespect like that....there just wouldnt be a second time if it wasn't legit the first time

[lovely]

I was gone stay away from this one..being that i have never been in this situation. He always came home at night(better had:hammer ) I dont think that it is appropriate to throw someones things out....even if he was with another woman. My first thought if he didnt come home that something was wrong. I dont think that I'd be calling hospitals or the police or anything..i would just wait. And when he did come home he would have to have some damn good explanations. And proof...because by this time i would have a problem with trusting him.

[Sparkles]

this was interesting....

[reesecup]

Originally posted by seductive_tee
Starting a new thread pertaining to Toffee's post.

When you are putting someone out, mainly a S/O, would leave there stuff outside the door or in a trash bag in the house to give to them?

I use to put it outside the door, just to keep from having to see them again.

[reesecup]

Originally posted by djackso
Mental Note: Don't live with Misha cause Misha calls the Police.

OMD