Is it really worth it???

[KissableSexyShortStuff]

Someone posted bout staying around when the relationship has gone bad..... How long should you stay around if you are married???

I have met a few men say they are married but are not happy....(could be just a line :rolleyes: )..... Say they are not happy but they are set... Meaning house, nice cars, and money in the bank, but no love for each other....

She does her thing he does his....

They have been married 10 years have a 16 year old daughter but on the outside live as if they are single until asked....

My question is it worth being unhappy just have the house, nice cars, and money in the bank???

[OhSoPrecious]

I don't think it's worth it~!! :hammer Life is too short for that~!! However, some people s-e-t-t-l-e~!!! :rolleyes:

Btw, I happen to know quite a few people in that type of situation~!! :eek: It's just sad. . .

[SeaDuceme2]

if ya aint happy married..what is the point?..you can have nice house, cars, and money in the bank by yo damn self!

[Bedroomeyes]

Being an outsider looking in.. I would say no it's not worth it.. I would rather be happy...

But...

I've never been married... Maybe it's different when you are in the middle of it.. :rolleyes:

[nubianx2]

Continuing a marriage for the sake of children or material things is not worth it. If problems can't be worked out thru counseling, etc. then the adult decision is to disolve the marriage.

[davinci]

Originally posted by Bedroomeyes+
Being an outsider looking in.. I would say no it's not worth it.. I would rather be happy...

But...

I've never been married... Maybe it's different when you are in the middle of it.. :rolleyes:

i knew it was sour, but i held on until it slapped me in the face.

[sistuhchey]

is it suppose to last "FOREVER"...... boy you sure hope it does..you opened up heart body & soul to your spouse, you hang in there good and bad, you watch your family grow and love...you invest time and hard work.....and then one day it's gone....WHY??
compatiability? finances? family intrusions? outside influences?maturity? these are key factors in making a marriage work...LOVE gone sour...WTF...how does this happen???

I guess the question is...what does it take for individuals to be content with each other........and to hang in there....

My answer and thought on this is (SELFLESS ACTS)..putting your spouse first...this is hard to do, but I truly beleive it's the only way..both parties must think of the other and honor each other and their family FIRST...

Barry White sings about it "STAYING POWER"...but yet he and Glodean are splitsville after 20 plus years.....go figure???

and what makes it even wilder!!!...after watching two sisters bury their husbands.....after 20 plus years of marriage, one sister 60 one in her 40's...I ask do you marry again??? do you love again???.....their reply...too much work...and they still leave you one way or another????????:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :eek:

[davinci]

Originally posted by sistuhchey+

My answer and thought on this is (SELFLESS ACTS)..putting your spouse first...this is hard to do, but I truly beleive it's the only way..both parties must think of the other and honor each other and their family FIRST...



SO TRUE. i let a girlfriend go this a few months ago, because i knew that i wasn't ready to give up too much of myself.

my ex-wife was very selfish and people tell me that i was too selfless. i'm damaged goods now. if i'm not in the mood to go half on a relationship then i cut it off early. my last two girlfriends have told me that they appreciated my honestly. they miss me eating that coochie, but...i digress.

so true chey. if you aren't ready to sacrifice your needs 50% of the time (not saying you have to, but your willing to) then don't play with your emotions, smokey, 'cause it won't get better with time.

[Tastey]

I think people are afraid of the consequences of a failed marriage.

Realistically men do end up paying alimony and in some cases child support but I don't think anyone who is truly unhappy will let a few dollars tie them to it.

As in the person you mentioned KSL they have found a way to stay married but still get what they want on the side. If they could not get what they wanted anyway on the side or if that lil piece of side action started to be unsatisfying I think they would go ahead and leave.

[CD]

Originally posted by KissableSexyLips+
My question is it worth being unhappy just have the house, nice cars, and money in the bank???

I think I mentioned in a post some time ago that a lot of unhappy married folks stay together because of the points you noted KSL.
For a man it's usually a major financial hit to dump your old lady, regardless of what the reasons are, and most woman know this and they will bank on it, unless they are married to a broke ass.

Nobody leaves anything good. You leave when you know you can do better else where.....;)

[Brightness]

I know a lot of men and women do this because they reach a certain age or whatever and feel that it's expected of them so they get caught up in a marriage that their heart may not have totally be in from the jump. . . .

I think it would be sad to be in such a situation. . .I know marriages where it's only one party who has all the KNOWLEDGE. If they shared this there would be a separation/divorce.

It's basically a selfish motive in my eyes to stay married because you're trying to avoid the "financial hit" you'll take otherwise.